These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
‘Barbie Girl’ at the Gym Mocked Me for My Appearance — She Knew Nothing About the ‘Boomerang’ Effect
I didn’t expect the gym to change my life, let alone give me a front-row seat to karma in action. But that’s exactly what happened when a “Barbie Girl” in pink mocked my appearance in front of everyone. Little did she know, her words would come back to her in the most unexpected way.
Life hasn’t been the most exciting for me. It has been a rollercoaster ride with more downs than ups, but I’m not going to complain about it now that I’ve seen what fate had planned for me.
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I never thought I’d reach the point where I’d look back at my life and thank fate for making me go through the most difficult phases of my life.
I’m Jocelyn. An average 34-year-old girl who’s trying to make the most out of her life.
The past year has been life-changing. I mean, if you’d seen me a year ago, you probably wouldn’t have noticed me. I’m used to blending into the background because I’ve always felt it’s safer that way.
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On the surface, my life looked fine. I graduated with honors and got a job as a personal assistant to a wealthy businessman. My career was great, and I was earning more than I needed, but my personal life? Well, it was pretty stagnant.
I’ve been single for as long as I can remember, and I’ll explain why.
Years ago, I got into a car accident that left deep scars on my face. I remember how awkward I felt the first time I stepped out in public after that accident. With time, I let those scars become the defining feature of how I saw myself.
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People rarely said anything outright, but the stares were enough to remind me I wasn’t like other women. To this day, I can’t leave the house without makeup, carefully applied to cover every mark.
I’ve spent years testing out different brands of concealers and watching tutorials on YouTube to learn the right concealing techniques.
Now, I can’t even imagine stepping outside my house without makeup. I feel exposed in my bare skin, as though the world is dissecting me.
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And then there’s my weight. I’ve always been on the heavier side, and it’s been a constant source of insecurity.
I wear loose clothes to hide my body and avoid mirrors whenever I can. For years, I let these insecurities box me in, convincing myself I wasn’t worth noticing.
But a few months ago, something in me snapped. I was tired of hiding. I adjusted my work schedule to carve out free time and signed up for a gym near my office.
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It was intimidating at first. Walking into a space filled with toned and confident people made me feel like I didn’t belong. But I reminded myself I wasn’t there for them. I was there for me.
Joining the gym felt like my first real step toward reclaiming my life.
I didn’t know then that it would lead me to the scene of a confrontation I’d never forget. It happened around two months after I’d joined the gym.
It was a Tuesday evening, and I was waiting for a treadmill to open up.
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I’d been standing near the row of machines for about 15 minutes, scrolling through my phone and sipping water. When one finally opened up, I took a step forward, only to see someone else head for it.
She looked like a walking cliché. Tall, blonde, and wearing a matching gym outfit. Her makeup was flawless, and I couldn’t see a single strand of hair out of place. She practically sparkled under the fluorescent lights.
I couldn’t help but think of her as a “Barbie Girl.”
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“Excuse me,” I said, stepping forward. “I’ve been waiting for this one.”
She stopped mid-step and turned to me, her perfectly manicured brows arching in disbelief.
“What? No, you weren’t,” she lied. “I was in line for this treadmill first!”
“That’s not true,” I said firmly. “I’ve been waiting here for 15 minutes, and you weren’t even around. You just walked out of the locker room.”
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She let out a sharp laugh, loud enough to turn a few heads. “Sweetie, do you even know who I am? This gym belongs to my dad. Your membership could be canceled at any moment.”
Her words stung, but what she said next cut even deeper.
“Honestly, it might be better for you. Look at your body! I’m not even sure the gym can help you. And even if it could, not even JLo’s figure would save you with that face.”
I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach.
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Her words echoed in my head as I felt every pair of eyes in the gym turn toward us. My face burned, but I couldn’t think of a single thing to say.
For a moment, I just stood there, stunned into silence.
Before I could respond, a deep voice interrupted.
“Ladies, come with me to my office,” it said firmly.
I turned to see a gray-haired man in a tailored black suit standing nearby. His expression was stern, his gaze fixed on the blonde woman.
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“I have something for both of you,” he said.
The Barbie Girl, Emily, looked annoyed but followed him without protest. My heart pounded against my chest as I trailed behind them. I had no idea what was about to happen, but I knew it was going to be important.
The office was sleek and modern, with a large desk dominating the space. The gray-haired man gestured for us to sit down.
Emily flounced into one of the chairs, crossing her arms with a huff. I sat down carefully, unsure of what to expect.
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“Do you know who I am?” the man asked, looking directly at me.
I nodded. “You’re the owner of the gym.”
He smiled slightly.
“That’s correct. And this,” he gestured to the blonde woman, “is my daughter, Emily. I’m not too proud to say that after seeing how she behaved with you, Jocelyn.”
Emily rolled her eyes. “Dad, this isn’t a big deal. She was being rude.”
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“Enough,” he said sharply, his voice cutting through the air. “I’ve been considering giving Emily more responsibility around here, possibly even letting her manage the gym. But after what I just witnessed, it’s clear she’s not ready.”
“Dad!” Emily exclaimed, sitting up straight. “You can’t be serious.”
He ignored her and turned back to me. “I owe you an apology, Jocelyn. What Emily said to you was unacceptable. I’m deeply sorry you had to experience that.”
I nodded, unsure of what to say. His tone was sincere, but I couldn’t shake the humiliation I’d felt just moments ago.
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“I’ve seen people come and go in this gym,” he continued. “People come for a week and leave when they see no results.”
I nodded.
“But you, Jocelyn, you’ve shown resilience and patience. You remind me of what this gym is supposed to stand for,” he said. “That’s why I’m offering you a lifetime membership, complete with a personal trainer and access to all VIP services.”
I wasn’t expecting that. It sounded too good to be true.
“That’s, uh, that’s incredibly generous,” I managed to say. “Thank you.”
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“Dad, you can’t just give her—” Emily began, but he cut her off with a raised hand.
“I can and I will,” he said firmly. “And you will apologize.”
“Apologize? But why?” she protested. “C’mon, Dad. This is too much.”
“Apologize to Jocelyn. Now.”
That’s when the Barbie Girl rolled her eyes for the seventh time since we’d met and muttered a half-hearted apology under her breath. Her cheeks flushed with embarrassment.
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I knew her apology wasn’t much, but it was enough for me. I was okay with the barely audible “sorry” I was presented with, and it was mainly because this was the first time in years someone had apologized to me after making fun of my appearance.
I felt so confident as I walked out of the office. For the first time in a long time, I felt like I was standing up for myself.
Over the next year, I dedicated myself to my workouts. My personal trainer pushed me to my limits, and while it wasn’t easy, I refused to give up.
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Slowly but surely, I started to see results.
The weight came off, and for the first time in years, I felt comfortable in my own skin. I even began to wear less makeup, finally letting my scars show.
One evening, after a particularly tough session, I bumped into a man at the smoothie bar. He was tall, with dark hair and a warm smile.
We got to talking, and before I knew it, he’d asked me out to dinner.
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On the night of our date, I walked into the restaurant feeling more confident than ever. The man, Ryan, was waiting for me at a table near the window. But before I could reach him, a familiar voice stopped me in my tracks.
“You have got to be kidding me,” Emily hissed.
I turned to see her storming toward us. I had no idea why she was here until I heard her next sentence.
“Ryan, what are you doing here with her?” she asked.
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Ryan looked uncomfortable. “Emily, this isn’t the time—”
“This is my husband,” she spat, glaring at me. “You’re here on a date with him, right?”
I froze. For a moment, I didn’t know what to say.
The older version of me, the girl who preferred to blend into the background, would’ve probably bolted out of the restaurant with tears streaming down her face. She would’ve blocked Ryan’s number the moment she got home, then spent the next week replaying the humiliation over and over in her head.
But that wasn’t me anymore.
A woman in a restaurant | Source: Midjourney
I’d worked too hard to let someone like Emily shake me. Her words had stung once, but now, they didn’t hold the same power.
In fact, as I stood there watching her seethe, I realized how the boomerang effect had come full circle. The cruelty she’d thrown out into the world had found its way right back to her. She thought she was untouchable, but life had other plans.
A laugh bubbled up in my chest, and this time, I didn’t hold it back. It started as a chuckle and grew into a full, belly-deep laugh that made heads turn.
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“You know what?” I said, meeting Emily’s furious gaze. “You two deserve each other.”
I turned to Ryan, who had gone pale. “And next time, maybe don’t cheat on your wife with someone who knows exactly what kind of person she is.”
With that, I grabbed my purse and walked out of the restaurant.
For the first time in years, I felt completely free. Free from insecurities, free from shame, and free from people like Emily who thrived on tearing others down.
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Life has a funny way of teaching lessons. Emily’s cruelty had set off a chain of events that changed my life for the better and exposed her for who she truly was. I’ve never felt stronger, more confident, or more ready to embrace the future.
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