Only weeks after Millie Smith and Lewis Cann learned they were having twin baby girls, they learned that only one would survive.
On April 30, after 30 weeks of a high-risk pregnancy, Smith delivered identical twins, Callie and Skye, the latter who lived only three hours.
Later in neonatal intensive care unit (NICU), Callie slept without her sister in the incubator, with her loving and grieving parents watching over her. In the unit with other babies, an overwhelmed mom of healthy newborn twins innocently told Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have two babies.
Crushed by the words, the new mom couldn’t find the words to explain her loss. Then, she realized that Skye’s legacy was to help other families who lose a child, and it came in the form of a purple butterfly.
In November 2015 Millie Smith and partner Lewis Cann found out they were having their first Child. Smith, who has twins in the family, said she had a “gut feeling” about having a duo and 10 weeks later, doctors confirmed she was expecting identical twin girls.
Less than two weeks after the excitement of knowing they would double the children in their home, the British couple were devastated to learn that one of their babies had a fatal condition and wouldn’t survive after birth.
“During the scan, the doctor didn’t say anything. I was very excited and loved seeing the little babies, but she was silent. Both Lewis and I immediately knew there must be a problem,” Smith said.
Doctors shared the news that one of the babies had anencephaly, which according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) affects about one in 4,600 babies across the U.S. It’s a serious birth defect where a baby is born without parts of the brain and skull, and “almost all babies born with anencephaly will die shortly after birth.”
Knowing that one baby would die soon after birth, and that there were risks involved for their other baby, the couple decided to move forward with the extremely high-risk pregnancy.
Over the next several months, Smith and Cann named their twins Skye and Callie. “We knew that Skye needed to have a name before she was born,” Smith said. “Knowing she would only survive for seconds or minutes, I wanted her to be named during that time.”
The meaning behind “Skye,” she explained “was somewhere we knew she would always be, that we could look up at the sky and remember our baby.”
When Smith went into labor after only 30 weeks on April 30, she needed an emergency C-section. To help navigate the loss, the couple had a “bereavement midwife” during the birth, and they were put I a special room the called the “Daisy Room,” where families can spend time with a baby before and after she/he passes.
“When the girls were born, they both cried. This was a huge moment, as we were told that Skye would not make a noise or move,” said Smith, who was thankful to have three hours with Skye before she died. “We were cuddling Skye when she passed away. This was the worst moment in our lives. I have never ever felt heartbreak like that before. But I am proud that she fought for so long to spend time with us.”
Born premature, Callie had to stay in NICU while she gained some strength and also in the unit were three other sets of twin.
“Most of the nurses were aware of what had happened, but as time passed, people stopped talking about Skye. After about four weeks, everyone acted as though nothing had happened, meaning the families around me had no idea about our situation,” Smith recalled.
One morning, a stressed mother whose twins were also in NICU, harmlessly said to Smith that she was “so lucky” to not have twins.
“None of the other parents knew what had happened or anything about Skye. The comment was completely innocent and more out of humor…They weren’t to know that I did at one point have two.” Smith continued, “But the comment nearly broke me. I ran out [of] the room in tears and they had no idea why. I didn’t have the heart to tell them what had happened. A simple sticker would have avoided that entire situation.”
It was in that moment Smith realized she had to create something that would speak for parents who had just lost a baby, ensuring the misunderstanding never happens again.
She designed a poster for the NICU explaining both hospital personnel and visitors that any incubator with a purple butterfly on it means that one or more babies, in a set of multiples were lost.
“I chose butterflies, as I felt it was fitting to remember the babies that flew away, the color purple because it is suitable for both boys or girls,” said Smith.
The purple butterfly concept–now under the Skye High Foundation–has spread to hospitals in several countries around the world.
Callie is now a lively, happy seven-year-old, and twin’s memory lives in purple butterfly cards along with other initiatives to help families with babies like Skye all over the world. The purple butterflies now come in numerous forms, like ornaments, cards, blankets, stuffed animals and more.
“Ultimately I will never be able to stop this from happening but the more support groups we can set up and put things in place like the stickers the better it will be. It’s the hardest thing anyone has to deal with,” Smith said.
Shania Twain: A Pop Star Who Overcame Adversity
The well-known Canadian singer-songwriter and best-selling female country music performer Shania Twain has an incredible tale of overcoming hardship. One of the numerous hardships she faced as a child growing up in a low-income environment was going to bed hungry. Even though she still views herself as lucky, she is now using her success to change the world.
At an early age, Twain started his path to fame. When she was eight years old, she began working at bars to support her family financially. Twain had a rough upbringing, but he has shown incredible resiliency and perseverance.
Twain suffered domestic abuse at the hands of her mother and stepfather when she was a small child. She said that her stepfather’s mindset was akin to that of Jekyll and Hyde, which made her childhood particularly difficult. Her family was often struggling financially as well; they frequently lacked the funds for basic expenses like food and rent.
Twain remembers the agony of starvation she had in school as well as the embarrassment she suffered due to her insufficient food intake. She was in a terrible condition, but she was too conceited to ask for help. She learned the value of strength and character development from this early fight.Throughout her life, Twain encountered numerous challenges, but she resisted letting them define who she was. She feels that her will to overcome her traumas and tribulations defines who she is, not the suffering and agony she went through. Twain became the strong woman she is now because of her tenacity and refusal to feel guilty about her upbringing.
When Twain’s mother and stepfather perished in an automobile accident, tragedy rocked her world. She gave up her dream of being a singer to support her younger brothers. But destiny had other ideas for her.
Twain was able to pursue a prosperous singing career because of her talent and perseverance. She has received several honors and recognitions, making her one of the most well-known musicians of all time. Many people have found inspiration in her incredible story.
Twain gives back these days by using her position and celebrity. She feeds underprivileged children and gives them a loving, safe atmosphere through her nonprofit initiative, Shania Kids Can. Twain has always been motivated to feed the underprivileged by her desire to positively impact the lives of others going through similar struggles to her own.
Twain, who lives with her family on a farm near Las Vegas, believes that she is lucky and gives thanks to God for her present situation. Despite having a challenging background, she overcome many obstacles to achieve incredible achievements and inspire hope in others.
The example set by Shania Twain’s life is the value of tenacity and using achievement for the benefit of society. Her story serves as an example for all of us, showing that we can overcome any challenge if we are nice and persistent.
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