Calling someone “fat” can be a hurtful insult. But why is that?
This question came up when a mother named Allison shared her story about a recent swimming trip with her children. When her daughter called her fat, 30-year-old Allison had a clever response, and her message is now spreading quickly online.
Allison Kimmey began dieting when she was just 14 years old. She managed to stay at a size two to four through graduate school, but it was tough, and she wasn’t happy. Three years ago, at age 27, Allison reached a size eight and realized she would be much happier if she stopped fighting against her weight gain.
To motivate herself, Allison started an Instagram account, @allisonkimmey, where she shares pictures and inspirational messages. Her body positivity spreads joy and encourages her followers, but her important message doesn’t always reach everyone.
**Me:** “Actually, everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
**Her brother:** “Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me.”
**Me:** “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have much. But that doesn’t mean one person is better than the other. Do you both understand?”
**Both:** “Yes, mama.”
**Me:** “So can you repeat what I said?”
**Them:** “Yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t just be fat, but everyone HAS fat, and it’s okay to have different fat.”
**Me:** “Exactly right!”
Not only did Allison want to teach her children how to talk to others, but she also felt it was important to spread the message that everyone is equal, no matter their body shape. Now, her post on Instagram has gone viral.
“If I shame my children for saying it, then I’m proving that it’s an insulting word and continuing the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, and undesirable,” writes Allison.
My Bride Handed Me a Note Asking Me to ‘Say No at the Altar’ — It Sounded Crazy, but I Trusted Her Plan
Before we stood at the altar, my bride had instructed me to say no. She asked me to trust her, and I did. What happened next was something no one saw coming. Not even me.
They say you should expect surprises on your wedding day. Mine came in five words that nearly stopped my heart.
Say no at the altar.
Before I tell you what happened next, let me start from the beginning.
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“Don’t you feel like the luckiest guy in the world?” Emily asked as we sat surrounded by wedding brochures, color swatches, and venue pamphlets on our living room floor.
“Oh, yeah. I do!” I chuckled, picking up a photo of an elegant outdoor venue with string lights hanging from oak trees.
Emily nudged my shoulder playfully. “Save those exact words for the ceremony, Adam.”
I wrapped my arm around her shoulders and pulled her close.
“This one looks perfect,” I said, tapping the outdoor venue photo. “I can picture you walking down that aisle already.”
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Emily leaned her head against my chest.
“Me too,” she said. “Though I’d marry you anywhere. Even the courthouse.”
“I know you would,” I said. “But you deserve the wedding you’ve been dreaming about.”
And she had been dreaming about it practically her whole life.
I met Emily three years ago at work. She was the new account manager, and I was immediately drawn to her warmth.
While other executives charged into meetings focused solely on metrics and deadlines, Emily always arrived early to ask how people were doing, remembering details about their lives that most would forget.
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When Ben from accounting was going through a divorce, Emily quietly organized meal deliveries to his house for two weeks. When Maria’s son was in the hospital, Emily covered three of her presentations without being asked.
She didn’t do these things for recognition. Most of the time, people didn’t even know about it.
That kindness is what made me fall in love with her. In a world where people are quick to look out for themselves, Emily looked out for everyone else.
We got engaged after dating for a few months, and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner.
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Emily was super excited to plan our wedding.
Every time we went over details, she’d pull out an old, worn photo album from her childhood, flipping through pages of magazine cutouts, princess gowns, and carefully scribbled “future wedding ideas” in a child’s handwriting.
“I’ve dreamed about this day since I was little,” she’d say. “And I’m so happy it’s with you.”
Planning our wedding together made me more certain than ever that deciding to marry Emily was the best decision of my life.
The only cloud in our otherwise perfect planning process was Emily’s stepmother, Margaret.
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At our engagement dinner, she’d examined Emily’s ring with narrowed eyes and asked if the diamond was “real or one of those lab-grown ones.”
When Emily showed her the venue options, Margaret sighed loudly and muttered something about “wasting money on frivolous things.”
Emily never complained about Margaret’s behavior, but I noticed how her shoulders tensed whenever her stepmother entered the room.
Still, she insisted on including Margaret in the wedding preparations, saying, “She’s been my dad’s wife for fifteen years. It’s important to him.”
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The big day arrived faster than I could have imagined.
Standing in a side room of the venue, adjusting my boutonnière for the tenth time, I felt nothing but excitement. In less than an hour, Emily would be my wife.
But then everything changed.
We had just sat down at the reception table, hands entwined, when she slipped a small folded piece of paper into my palm.
It had five simple words that made my heart skip a beat.
Say no at the altar.
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I turned to her, confused, and whispered, “What?”
“Just trust me,” she whispered back, squeezing my hand. “Do it.”
I wanted to argue. To demand answers. But something in her eyes made me pause. Emily wasn’t scared. She wasn’t panicked. She had a plan.
And I trusted her.
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The moment arrived.
We stood before the officiant as he asked me, “Do you take Emily to be your lawfully wedded wife?”
I hesitated just long enough for a ripple of confusion to move through the guests. Emily’s eyes locked with mine, giving me an almost imperceptible nod. My mouth went dry as I answered.
“No,” I said.
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I closed my eyes, hoping I didn’t make a mistake by trusting Emily. What was going on in her mind? Why did she ask me to say no?
Suddenly, a laugh interrupted my thoughts.
It came from the far side of the room, and it wasn’t just any laugh. It was cold. Sharp. Cruel.
I turned toward the source, and there she was.
Margaret. Emily’s stepmother.
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She clapped slowly as a smug, victorious grin stretched across her face.
“Well, well, well,” she purred. “I told you. I told you all.”
The stunned silence that followed was deafening. I glanced at Emily, whose face remained surprisingly calm. She gave my hand another reassuring squeeze, which somehow steadied my racing heart. Whatever was happening, she had anticipated it.
Margaret let out a dramatic sigh and turned to Emily’s father, shaking her head.
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“We paid so much for this wedding,” she scoffed. “I told you it was a stupid idea. A complete waste of money. But no, you had to go along with her little fantasy.” She gestured wildly at the decorated venue. “And for what? To watch her get humiliated? I could have told you this would happen!”
Emily’s father just stared at her. The disgust and disappointment in his eyes were unmistakable.
Then, Margaret turned back to Emily.
“You really thought he’d marry you?” she sneered. “I told you, sweetie. No one wants you.”
Something inside me snapped. I took a step forward, ready to defend Emily, but she placed a gentle hand on my arm.
Her eyes told me to wait.
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Meanwhile, Emily’s father stood frozen. He couldn’t believe Margaret could say something like that.
“Thank you, Margaret,” Emily said confidently.
“For what?” Margaret asked.
“For showing your true colors.”
Margaret stared at Emily with wide eyes.
That’s when I understood what Emily’s plan was about. At that point, I felt so proud of her. So proud that my brave Emily hadn’t just planned a wedding. She’d planned something much bigger than that.
I watched as she stepped forward.
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“Since we’re all sharing our thoughts today,” she began, her eyes locked onto her father’s, “let me finally tell you the truth about Margaret.”
A hush fell over the room.
Emily turned slightly, addressing everyone, but her words were meant for her father most of all.
“You’ve always believed she was just ‘strict’ with me, that she was trying to ‘teach me responsibility.’ But what she really did was tear me down at every chance she got.”
Margaret rolled her eyes, but Emily’s voice only grew stronger.
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“I was never ‘good enough.’ Never ‘grateful enough.’ Never ‘pretty enough.’ She made sure I felt small and unwanted… like a burden you were forced to take care of after Mom died.”
I watched Emily’s father’s face transform as each word hit him.
How had he never seen this?
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I thought of all the times Emily had downplayed Margaret’s behavior, saying it “wasn’t worth causing family drama.”
Emily turned back to her father, and this time, there was pain in her voice.
“I told you, Dad. I told you how she treated me when you weren’t around. How she called me pathetic, how she laughed at my dreams, and how she told me no one would ever truly love me. And every time I tried to make you see it, she’d twist it and make me look dramatic.”
Emily’s fingers curled into fists at her sides.
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“So, when she told me you were wasting your money on this wedding and that Adam would leave me at the altar, I knew exactly what she was hoping for. She wanted to humiliate me. To finally prove to you that I was as much of a failure as she always said I was.”
She let out a slow breath and lifted her chin.
“So, I gave her exactly what she wanted. I gave her a moment where she thought she had won.”
A ripple of realization spread through the guests.
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“I knew that if Adam said no, she wouldn’t be able to hide her reaction. She wouldn’t be able to resist rubbing it in my face.”
Emily’s gaze didn’t waver as she looked back at her father.
“You never believed me before. But you believe me now, don’t you?”
Her father nodded.
He stood with his shoulders slumped, as if he was carrying the weight of everything he’d done. He’d dismissed his daughter’s pain for years and chose peace over the truth.
Now, he’d finally realized how wrong he was.
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Margaret scoffed, still trying to salvage her dignity. “Oh, please. He wasn’t going to marry you. I just called it before it happened.”
Emily’s smile widened.
“That’s where you’re wrong.” She turned to me. “Because he is going to marry me.”
I grinned. “Damn right, I am.”
I stepped forward and took Emily’s hands in mine, overwhelmed with love for this woman who had endured so much and still remained kind.
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Margaret wasn’t expecting this.
“You—” she started, but Emily’s father suddenly stepped forward.
“We’re done, Margaret,” he announced.
“What?”
“You humiliated my daughter at her own wedding,” he said as his voice shook with anger. “I should have seen it earlier.”
Margaret spluttered, grasping for control, but it was already over.
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Two of my groomsmen, who worked as security guards in their day jobs, stepped forward without being asked. They gently but firmly escorted Margaret out as she shouted insults.
As the doors closed behind her, the tension in the room dissolved. Emily’s father approached us with tears in his eyes.
“Emily,” he whispered, “I’m so sorry.”
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She hugged him tightly. “I know, Dad. I know. It’s okay. You don’t need to apologize.”
After a moment, Emily exhaled and turned back to me.
“So… where were we?”
I grinned, dropped to one knee, and said, “Will you marry me?”
The crowd, now understanding what had happened, erupted in cheers and applause.
And this time, when the officiant asked if I took Emily to be my wife, I shouted yes.
That’s how I finally married the kindest woman I’ve ever known. My wife, my love, Emily.
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