These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
We Paid for My Stepdaughter’s Honeymoon, but She Called Us ‘Cheap’ — So We Taught Her a Lesson in Respect
What happens when a dream honeymoon isn’t dreamy enough? One shocking phone call from my stepdaughter set the stage for a lesson in gratitude she never saw coming.
Life has a way of surprising you, often when you least expect it. I never imagined myself becoming a stepmother at 45, let alone to a young woman like Brooke. When I married Gary ten years ago, it wasn’t just him I fell in love with; it was the idea of family.
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Brooke was thirteen then, and while we didn’t always see eye to eye, I poured my heart into making her feel cared for.
By the time she was twenty-three, Brooke had blossomed into an ambitious, sharp, and, let’s be honest, a bit spoiled young woman. She had big dreams, and Gary and I always did our best to support her. From her college tuition to her dream wedding, we were there. But nothing prepared me for the events that unfolded after her wedding.
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Gary and I had spared no expense for Brooke and Mason’s wedding. The venue was a sprawling vineyard with twinkling fairy lights, the kind you’d see on the cover of a bridal magazine. It cost a fortune, but it was worth it to see Brooke’s radiant smile as she walked down the aisle.
After the wedding, we wanted to gift them something truly special: a honeymoon to remember. Gary and I spent weeks scouring travel sites until we found the perfect villa in the Dominican Republic.
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It had everything: a private pool, stunning views of the ocean, and enough space to rival a boutique resort. It cost more than we planned, but we figured it was our way of sending Brooke into her new life with love.
The morning after they arrived, my phone buzzed just as I was pouring my coffee. Seeing Brooke’s name pop up, I smiled and answered cheerfully, “Hey, sweetheart! How’s paradise?”
Her tone was sharp, almost accusatory. “Dad’s there too, right? Put me on speaker.”
I frowned but obliged. “Sure. What’s going on?”
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Gary leaned over the table, mouthing, “What’s wrong?” I shrugged and tapped the speaker button.
“What’s wrong?” Brooke’s voice rose, dripping with indignation. “I’ll tell you what’s wrong, Dad. This villa. It’s tiny!”
Gary blinked. “Tiny? It’s over eight hundred square meters, Brooke.”
She scoffed. “Exactly. Barely. I mean, Mason and I were expecting something more… spacious. And the pool? It’s a joke. I can only do like three strokes before hitting the edge.”
I exchanged a glance with Gary, his face slowly turning crimson. I held up a hand to calm him.
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“And don’t even get me started on the beach!” Brooke continued, her voice rising with every word. “It’s a whole five-minute walk! Who does that to newlyweds? You couldn’t find a place with direct beach access? Honestly, Dad, it’s like you don’t care.”
Gary’s jaw tightened, but I gently squeezed his arm. “Brooke,” I said, keeping my voice steady, “we spent a lot of time picking this villa. It has great reviews. I thought you’d love it.”
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“Well, you thought wrong. And the sun here? It’s not even as golden as it looked on Instagram. Everything feels… underwhelming. I can’t believe you guys are so cheap.”
Gary exploded, slamming his hand on the table. “Cheap? Do you have any idea how much we spent on this trip? Not to mention your wedding! You’re being ungrateful, Brooke!”
She huffed on the other end of the line. “You know what, Dad? Forget it. Clearly, you don’t understand.”
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The call ended abruptly, leaving a stunned silence in its wake. Gary paced the kitchen, muttering under his breath, his fists clenched. “I can’t believe her. After everything we’ve done—her wedding, her honeymoon—this is how she treats us?”
“Hon,” I interrupted softly, placing a hand on his shoulder. “It’s not worth losing our cool over. I have an idea.”
He stopped pacing and stared at me. “What are you thinking?”
I gave him a small, knowing smile. “Trust me. Let’s show her that gratitude is a two-way street.”
And with that, I began to plan.
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If Brooke wanted to play the “cheap” card, I was about to show her what that actually looked like.
I picked up my phone and dialed the villa’s management. When the receptionist answered, I explained the situation. “Hi, this is Marianne. My husband and I booked a premium villa for a honeymoon stay. Unfortunately, there’s been a change of plans. I need to cancel the remainder of the stay and downgrade the reservation.”
The woman on the other end sounded confused. “Downgrade, ma’am? I don’t follow. Could you clarify?”
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“Yes,” I said firmly. “Please find the most modest, no-frills room you have—no private pool, no chef, and absolutely no ocean view. Do you understand?”
She hesitated before saying, “Yes, of course. We have a basic standard room in the adjoining hotel. Would that work?”
“That’s perfect,” I replied, a smirk spreading across my face. “One more thing. I’d like to be notified when the guests are informed of the change.”
The manager hesitated again. “That’s… unusual, but I’ll see what I can do.”
Gary shook his head as I hung up. “You’re ruthless.”
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“Just tired of being taken for granted,” I said with a shrug.
A few hours later, the call I’d been waiting for came in. I put the phone on speaker so Gary could hear.
“This is the villa management,” the voice began. “We regret to inform you that your current reservation has been modified. You’ll need to relocate to a standard room at the hotel next door.”
“What?!” Brooke’s voice shrieked through the phone. “There must be some mistake! We’re in the honeymoon suite. My dad and stepmom paid for this!”
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“I’m afraid there’s no mistake,” the manager said politely. “The new booking reflects their updated request.”
Brooke’s tone turned icy. “Updated request? What are you talking about?”
I stifled a laugh, covering my mouth. Gary was shaking his head, grinning ear to ear.
Moments later, my phone buzzed, and I saw Brooke’s name flashing on the screen. I answered calmly. “Hi, Brooke.”
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“Marianne!” she screeched. “What is going on? We just got a call saying we’re being moved from our villa to some awful little hotel room! Fix this right now!”
“Oh, that,” I said, feigning surprise. “Firstly, it’s not your villa, sweetheart—it was booked for you. And since you thought it was too ‘cheap,’ I figured a more modest place might better suit your expectations. After all, your dad and I wouldn’t want to embarrass you with our low standards, now would we?”
“You can’t be serious!” she yelled, her voice cracking with frustration. “This place is a dump!”
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“Is it?” I replied, keeping my tone light. “Oh, I’m so sorry. Well, maybe now you’ll appreciate what you had. Gratitude, Brooke. It’s an important lesson.”
Her screeches could be heard across the ocean. “I can’t believe you’re doing this to me, Marianne! Mason and I are stuck here. Where’s Dad?”
Gary, who had been listening quietly, leaned toward the phone. “Brooke, enough. We’ve spent years supporting you, giving you the best of everything. And this is how you repay us? By complaining about the brightness of the sun and the size of a pool? Grow up.”
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“I don’t need a lecture, Dad. I’m not a little girl anymore!” Brooke snapped.
“No,” Gary said firmly. “What you need is a reality check. And your stepmom just gave you one.”
She let out an exasperated groan. “You’re ruining my honeymoon!”
“I think you ruined it yourself,” I said evenly. “When you decide to be grateful for what you have, maybe things will start looking brighter—even that ‘meh’ sun.”
With that, I hung up. I glanced at Gary, who was staring at me in stunned silence.
“What?” I asked, raising an eyebrow.
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“Remind me never to get on your bad side,” he said with a laugh.
We didn’t hear from Brooke for the rest of the week, and honestly, it was a relief. When she finally called again, her tone was subdued.
“Hi, Marianne. Hi, Dad.”
“Brooke,” Gary said cautiously. “How are you?”
There was a pause before she replied. “I… I just wanted to say I’m sorry. For how I acted. The hotel room was awful, but… it made me realize how much effort you both put into everything you’ve done for me. I guess I’ve been a little… ungrateful.”
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Gary softened, his voice kind but firm. “A little?”
“Okay, a lot,” she admitted, her voice small. “I’ll do better. I promise.”
I smiled, glancing at Gary, who nodded. “We appreciate that, Brooke,” I said gently. “We just want you to understand the value of what you have—and the people who love you.”
“I do now,” she said quietly. “Thanks for everything. Really.”
When the call ended, Gary wrapped his arm around my shoulder, his expression a combination of relief and pride. “Well,” he said softly, “you did it. I think she finally gets it.”
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“We did it,” I said with a smile, leaning into him. “Sometimes, people just need a wake-up call—a little taste of their own medicine. Even our kids.”
Gary chuckled, his tone lighter now. “I’m just glad it didn’t blow up into something worse.”
“Me too,” I murmured, resting my head against his shoulder. For the first time in days, the tension lifted, and I allowed myself to breathe.
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What do you think? Was my approach a wise lesson in gratitude, or did I take things a step too far?
While you’re thinking about the answer, here’s another story to keep you entertained: Grandparents are often the source of unconditional love and generosity, but what happens when that kindness is met with entitlement? These three unforgettable stories reveal the lengths loving grandparents went to teach their grandkids about gratitude, respect, and life’s bigger picture.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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