These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
I Invited My New Friend to My House — The Moment She Saw My Husband, She Nearly Lunged at Him
When Rachel invites her new friend Mary over for dinner, the night takes an unexpected turn. The moment Mary sees Rachel’s husband, she flies into a rage and makes a shocking accusation. Stunned and caught between her friend and her husband, Rachel’s perfect life begins to unravel.
On paper, Dan and I are that annoyingly perfect suburban family – you know the type. I’ve got the marketing manager gig, Dan’s killing it as a software developer, and we live with our gorgeous four-year-old, Ethan, in one of those houses with the manicured lawns and the neighborhood BBQs.
But lately, I’d been feeling like something was missing, even though I couldn’t put my finger on what. So I did what any self-respecting millennial does when faced with an existential crisis: I joined a fitness class.
And that’s where I met Mary.
Mary was different. In a good way. She was our instructor, all toned muscles and infectious energy. Single mom to a sweet little girl named Cindy. From day one, we just clicked.
“Come on, Rachel!” she’d yell during burpees, grinning like a maniac. “You’ve got this! Channel that boardroom boss energy!”
I’d be lying if I said her enthusiasm wasn’t a little terrifying at first. But soon enough, I found myself looking forward to our sessions, and not just for the endorphin high.
After class one day, as I was chugging water and trying not to collapse, Mary plopped down next to me.
“So,” she said, her eyes twinkling. “Lunch tomorrow? There’s this new place downtown that does amazing salads. And before you say no, remember, we earned it!”
And just like that, we fell into a rhythm. Workouts, lunches, shopping trips where we’d try on ridiculous outfits and laugh until our sides hurt. It felt like being in college again, having a best friend to share everything with.
“God, I needed this,” I told her one day over sushi. “Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but sometimes…”
Mary nodded, popping a California roll into her mouth. “Sometimes you need to remember you’re more than just ‘mom’ or ‘wife,’ right? I get it. Being Cindy’s mom is the best thing that ever happened to me, but it’s nice to be just Mary sometimes, too.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Weeks flew by, and suddenly Mary wasn’t just my trainer or my friend, she was family. Which is why, on that fateful Tuesday, I decided it was time for her to meet my actual family.
“Dinner at our place this weekend?” I asked as we cooled down after a particularly brutal HIIT session. “You can bring Cindy. Ethan would love a playmate.”
Mary’s face lit up. “Seriously? That sounds amazing! I’ll bring dessert. I hope your hubby likes apple pie!”
I spent all of Saturday in a cleaning frenzy, much to Dan’s amusement.
“Babe, it’s just dinner with a friend,” he said, watching me scrub the kitchen counter for the third time. “Not a visit from the Queen.”
I rolled my eyes. “I want everything to be perfect.”
Dan held up his hands in surrender, but I caught the smile on his face. He was happy for me, I knew. I’d been talking about Mary non-stop for weeks.
By six o’clock, the house smelled amazing (if I do say so myself), and I was putting the finishing touches on the table when the doorbell rang.
“I’ve got it!” I called out, smoothing my dress as I headed for the door. With a deep breath and a bright smile, I swung it open.
There stood Mary, looking gorgeous in a flowy summer dress, Cindy peeking out shyly from behind her legs. In Mary’s hands were a bottle of wine and what I assumed was the promised apple pie.
“Hey, you made it!” I said, ushering them in. “Come on in, let me take that.”
And that’s when everything went straight to hell.
I heard Dan’s footsteps behind me, probably coming to say hello. But the moment Mary’s eyes landed on him, it was like someone had flipped a switch.
The warm, friendly expression I’d grown so used to vanished, replaced by something I’d never seen before: pure, unadulterated shock, quickly followed by a rage so intense it made me take a step back.
The wine bottle slipped from Mary’s fingers, shattering on the floor. The sound seemed to snap her out of her trance, and suddenly she was moving, pushing past me with a fury that left me speechless.
“YOU!?” she screamed, jabbing a finger at Dan. “I’M CALLING THE POLICE!”
I stood there, mouth hanging open, trying to make sense of what was happening. Dan looked just as confused, his face pale as he held up his hands.
“I-I’m sorry,” he stammered, “but I’ve never seen you before in my life.”
Wrong thing to say. Mary’s eyes flashed dangerously, and for a second, I thought she might actually hit him.
“DON’T LIE!” she yelled, her voice cracking.
“This man,” she gestured wildly at Dan, “is Cindy’s father! He left us when I was pregnant, just disappeared! How dare you lie!”
The words hit me like a physical blow. I felt dizzy, like the floor was tilting beneath my feet. This couldn’t be happening. This was some kind of sick joke, right?
“Mary,” I managed to choke out, “what are you talking about? There has to be some mistake.”
But Mary wasn’t listening. She was digging frantically in her purse, muttering under her breath.
Finally, she pulled out her phone, swiping through it with shaking hands before shoving it in my face.
“Look!” she demanded. “Look at this photo and tell me that isn’t him!”
I stared at the screen, my heart pounding so hard I could hear it. The photo showed a younger Mary, beaming at the camera, her arm around a man who looked… God, who looked exactly like Dan.
Same eyes, same smile, even the same little scar on his chin from a childhood bike accident.
“That’s… that can’t be…” I whispered, looking between the phone and my husband. Dan’s face had gone from confused to alarmed.
“Rachel, honey, I swear I don’t know what’s going on,” he said, reaching for me. But I flinched away, my mind reeling.
Mary let out a sound somewhere between a laugh and a sob. “Of course, he’s denying it. That’s what he does, isn’t it? Run away and pretend it never happened?”
I felt like I was drowning, desperately trying to make sense of what was happening.
How could my Dan have abandoned a pregnant woman? But then… why would Mary lie about something like this?
“We need proof,” I heard myself saying, surprised at how steady my voice sounded. “A DNA test. That’s the only way to know for sure.”
Mary nodded fiercely, while Dan just looked shell-shocked. “Fine,” he said quietly. “If that’s what it takes to prove I’m telling the truth.”
The next few days were a blur.
I moved through life on autopilot. Dan tried to talk to me, to explain, but what was there to say? Either he was telling the truth and this was all some cosmic misunderstanding, or my entire marriage was built on a lie.
When the results finally came, I insisted we all be there. Dan, Mary, and me, sitting around our kitchen table like some twisted parody of a family meeting. My hands shook as I opened the envelope.
I don’t remember the exact words. Just that feeling of the world dropping out from under me as I read the results. Positive match. 99.9% probability.
Dan was Cindy’s father.
The silence that followed was deafening. I looked up to see Dan, white as a sheet, shaking his head.
“This is impossible,” he whispered. “I don’t… I don’t understand. I’ve never seen her before, I swear!”
Mary’s laugh was bitter. “Still lying, even now? God, you really are a piece of work.”
But something in Dan’s voice made me pause. The confusion, the genuine shock… it didn’t seem like an act. Could he really not remember?
As Mary gathered her things to leave, promising we’d talk more once everyone had time to process the news, I found myself standing in my living room, feeling like a stranger in my own life.
Dan hovered nearby, clearly wanting to comfort me but unsure if he should.
“Rachel,” he said softly. “I know this is… God, I don’t even know what this is. But I love you. You and Ethan, you’re my world.”
“Please, just… tell me what you need,” he said. “Tell me how to fix this.”
But I didn’t have an answer. What would you do if you found out the man you love had been hiding a secret this big? Could you ever trust him again? Or would you walk away from everything you’ve built?
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