These days, young parents have tons of information about raising kids. There are books, websites, and experts offering advice on every little thing. They can even get consultations from specialists whenever they need. But our own parents didn’t have all that. They raised us based on what they knew and what they learned from their own parents. So sometimes, the way we were brought up can seem really different from what we’re told is best now.
1. Early marriage and parenthood go without saying.
In earlier generations, there was often pressure on young adults to marry and start a family at a relatively young age, and to have more than one child a couple of years after the start of the family. Today, there is more emphasis on personal and career development before settling down. And moreover some researches show that early marriage can lead to some family problems, like dissatisfaction with married life, experience of having lots of responsibility, lack of independence in family life.
2. A college education is an indicator of your status.
«You can’t find a good job without going to college!» Many people must have heard this when they were teenagers. And lots of us believed this, but now don’t even know where our college diploma is. More than 41% of people that finished college have jobs that don’t require this kind of education. Today, employers are more interested in the practical skills of their employees rather than their qualifications.
When you finish school, it may be wise to take a gap year to understand what you really want to do and decide if you actually need a college education.
3. Classes are good for kids’ development — the more, the better!
A very tight schedule can exhaust children, which is obviously not good at all.
Famous American teacher Douglas Haddad recommends that parents slow down and give their children time to discover their own talents, and then decide if they need additional forms of education.
4. Being plump is healthy.
Children that always finished their meals were praised, and being plump was believed to be healthy. But bad eating habits formed in childhood often result in weight problems and eating disorders.
5. Money can’t buy happiness.
We wish this were true, but life says otherwise: money can make you happier, no matter what other people say.
Parents should teach their children the basics of budgeting. This will help kids form the right habits in money management and reach financial success in their adult lives.
6. Not standing out from the crowd means being good.
Traditional parenting often enforced strict dress codes and grooming expectations, particularly regarding modesty and conformity to societal norms. This might puzzle us today as modern parenting encourages children to express themselves through their clothing, appearance and let them express their emotions fully.
7. Older children are responsible for younger ones.
Very often, older children had to spend a lot of time taking care of younger ones. Parents had to work a lot and there was no other choice. But older kids had to sacrifice their time with friends and hobbies for the needs of their younger siblings.
Psychologists say that sometimes when kids have to perform the duties of parents, it may lead to psychological problems: they might not want to have their own children.
8. Women are housewives and men are breadwinners.
In recent decades, gender roles are not as important anymore. Women today can build successful careers and men can go on paternity leave and manage things around the house.
9. There’s nothing more shameful for a woman than having children without a husband.
Wrong, again. Today, there’s nothing surprising about single mothers and they’re not frowned upon as they were 30 years ago. Very often, having a child without a husband is an informed decision made by a woman. More than that, in the past 30 years, the number of single fathers has increased 1.5 times.
10. Storks deliver babies.
Some topics were never discussed — like when kids asked where babies came from, parents often said that they were delivered by a stork. Because of this, young people would often get into their first relationship without any knowledge of their bodies. They only based things off of the advice they received from their friends and bits of information from books and films. All these experiences could lead to bad consequences, including problems with both physical and mental health.
11. Children should be seen and not heard.
In the past, children were often expected to remain quiet and obedient in the presence of adults. Modern parenting emphasizes the importance of children expressing themselves and their opinions, because self-expression is a vital component of a young individual’s growth. The development of self-esteem and confidence in children is frequently nurtured by their capacity to express their feelings with clarity and authenticity.
Every parent has their own way of raising children. Just like how every family has its own special traditions, parents have rules they think are best for their kids. Sometimes, famous people, like celebrities, also share their ideas about parenting. They might talk about what works for them and their families. But in the end, each parent decides what’s right for their own children, based on love and what they believe is best.
My Children Returned Home to Discover Our Neighbors Dumping Dirt into Our Lake, Fate Dealt with Them Before I Had the Chance
When Bethany moved into her dream home with her two sons, Austin and Sheldon, she imagined peaceful days by the lake. However, their neighbors, Oswald and Patricia, quickly turned their new life into a nightmare. Just when things seemed hopeless, an unexpected turn of events taught the neighbors a memorable lesson.
Bethany was excited to give her boys, ages 10 and 12, a life filled with nature. The beautiful backyard lake was a big part of that dream. The boys were eager to fish and boat, begging for a canoe. The first few weeks were wonderful. The kids enjoyed catching frogs and playing by the water. But soon, they met Oswald and Patricia, who clearly disapproved of their presence. Oswald accused them of “hogging” the lake, claiming it was his and warning them to keep away.
Confused and hurt, Bethany tried to explain that the realtor had said they all shared access to the lake. But Oswald only grew more hostile, declaring that if he saw the kids near the water again, there would be consequences.
With a heavy heart, Bethany had to tell her sons to stay away from the lake, which devastated them. Just a few days later, while they were fishing, Oswald yelled at them, claiming they were polluting his lake with their fishing gear. The boys were shocked and upset.
Then one day, Bethany spotted Oswald erecting a fence down the middle of the lake, dividing it. Furious, she confronted him, explaining that the lake belonged to both properties. Oswald dismissed her concerns, insisting he would do whatever he wanted.
Feeling defeated, Bethany took the boys to visit her sister for a night, hoping the neighbors would back off. However, when they returned, they found an excavator filling in their half of the lake with dirt.
Panic set in as Bethany rushed to the workers, demanding they stop. One worker told her they were just following orders. To her horror, Oswald appeared, smiling as he claimed he was getting rid of the lake because it lowered his property value.
As the excavator worked, the water level on Oswald’s side began to rise rapidly, flooding his yard and soon his house. He yelled for help as chaos unfolded around him. The workers panicked as they realized they had miscalculated the water displacement. Watching Oswald struggle in the rising water filled Bethany with a sense of justice. Once the workers left, she quickly hired her own team to restore her section of the lake.
Within days, the water was back to normal, and the boys were happily fishing and playing again. Meanwhile, Oswald and Patricia had to leave their home for weeks to repair the damage caused by the flooding. In the end, Bethany felt relieved that the ordeal was over. Her sons could enjoy their little slice of nature again, and she was reminded that sometimes, karma finds a way to balance things out.
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