I was shocked when my husband, Jake, handed me a schedule to help me “become a better wife.” But instead of losing my temper, I decided to play along. Little did Jake know, I was about to teach him a lesson that would make him rethink his new idea of marriage.
I’ve always been the calm and reasonable one in our relationship. Jake, on the other hand, can easily get caught up in new trends or ideas, whether it’s a hobby or a YouTube video that claims to change his life in just a few easy steps.
Jake and I were fine until he met Steve. Steve was the type of guy who thought being loud made him right. He’d talk over anyone who tried to correct him. He was also always single (no surprise there), but that didn’t stop him from giving relationship advice to all his married friends, including Jake. Jake, who should’ve known better, was impressed by Steve’s confidence.
I didn’t worry about it much at first, but then Jake started saying things like, “Steve says marriages work best when the wife handles the household,” or “Steve thinks women should always look good for their husbands, no matter how long they’ve been married.” I’d roll my eyes and make sarcastic comments, but it was bothering me. Jake was changing. He’d raise an eyebrow if I ordered takeout instead of cooking, and he’d sigh if I let the laundry pile up—forgetting that I also had a full-time job.
Then one night, it happened. Jake came home with The List.
He sat me down, unfolded a piece of paper, and slid it across the table. “I’ve been thinking,” he began, sounding condescending in a way I’d never heard before. “You’re a great wife, Lisa, but there’s room for improvement.”
My eyebrows shot up. “Oh really?”
He nodded, not realizing he was walking into dangerous territory. “Yeah, Steve helped me realize that our marriage could be even better if you, you know, stepped up a bit.”
I looked at the paper in front of me. It was a schedule, titled “Lisa’s Weekly Routine for Becoming a Better Wife.” Jake had actually written out a plan for me based on what Steve—a single guy with no relationship experience—thought I should do to “improve” as a wife.
I was supposed to wake up at 5 a.m. every day to make Jake a gourmet breakfast, then go to the gym to “stay in shape.” After that? Cleaning, laundry, ironing—all before heading to work. Every evening, I was to cook dinner from scratch and make snacks for Jake and his friends when they came over. It was sexist and insulting on so many levels, I didn’t know where to start. I just stared at Jake, wondering if he had lost his mind.
“This will be great for you, and us,” he continued, unaware.
“Steve says it’s important to have structure, and I think you could benefit from—”
“Benefit from what?” I interrupted, keeping my voice calm. Jake blinked, surprised, but quickly recovered.
“Well, from having some guidance and a schedule.”
I wanted to throw the paper in his face, but instead, I surprised myself—I smiled.
“You’re right, Jake,” I said sweetly. “I’m lucky you made me this schedule. I’ll start tomorrow.”
He looked relieved, and I almost felt sorry for him as I stuck the list on the fridge. Almost. He had no idea what was coming.
The next day, I looked at the ridiculous schedule and smiled. If Jake thought he could hand me a list of “improvements,” he was about to learn a lesson. I opened my laptop and started a new document titled, “Jake’s Plan for Becoming the Best Husband Ever.” If he wanted perfection from me, there was a cost.
I started by listing all the things he’d suggested for me, beginning with the gym. “$1,200 for a personal trainer,” I typed, barely holding back a laugh.
Next was the food. If Jake wanted gourmet meals, that wasn’t happening with our current grocery budget. Organic, non-GMO, free-range everything? That wasn’t cheap. “$700 per month for groceries,” I wrote. And if he wanted fancy meals, he’d need cooking lessons too—those were expensive.
I leaned back, laughing as I imagined his face when he saw this. But I wasn’t done. The best part was yet to come.
There was no way I could manage all these demands and keep my job. If Jake wanted me to follow his absurd schedule full-time, he’d have to cover my lost income. I calculated my salary and added it to the list. “$75,000 per year to replace Lisa’s salary since she will now be your full-time maid, chef, and personal assistant.”
By now, I was laughing so hard my stomach hurt.
And just for fun, I added a note about expanding the house. If Jake was going to have friends over all the time, they’d need a separate space. “$50,000 to build a man cave so Jake and his friends don’t disrupt Lisa’s new routine.”
I printed out the list, set it on the kitchen counter, and waited for Jake to come home. When he arrived, he was in a good mood.
“Hey, babe,” he called, spotting the paper. “What’s this?”
Keeping a straight face, I said, “Oh, just a little list to help you become the best husband ever.”
He chuckled, thinking I was playing along, but as he read the list, his smile faded. “$1,200 for a trainer? $700 a month for groceries? What the hell, Lisa?”
I crossed my arms. “Well, you want me to follow your plan, right? I figured we should budget for it.”
His face turned pale as he flipped through the pages. “$75,000 a year? You’re quitting your job?”
“How else can I follow your plan?” I asked. “I can’t work and be the perfect wife, right?”
Jake looked stunned. The numbers and the absurdity of his demands hit him all at once. His smugness disappeared, replaced by the realization that he had messed up.
“I didn’t mean for it to be like this,” he stammered. “I just thought—”
“You thought you could ‘fix’ me like a project?” I said, my voice calm but firm. “Jake, marriage is about respect. And if you ever try to ‘fix’ me like this again, it’ll cost you a lot more than what’s on that paper.”
There was a long silence. Jake sighed and looked at me, defeated.
“I’m sorry,” he whispered. “I didn’t realize how ridiculous it was. Steve made it sound reasonable, but now I see… it’s toxic. I’ve been such a fool.”
I nodded. “Yes, you have. And honestly, Steve has no idea what he’s talking about. Why would you listen to him?”
Jake’s face softened as the truth hit him. “You’re right. He has no clue.”
We tore up both lists, and for the first time in weeks, I felt like we were back on the same team. It was a reminder that marriage isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being better together.
Fierce argument between Karen Grassle and Michael Landon while ‘Little House on the Prairie’ was being filmed
As Caroline Ingalls in Little House on the Prairie, Karen Grassle rose to prominence as an actress. There are still people that watch this series because of how much people adored it.
Karen described an entirely different mood from her point of view, despite the fact that most of the performers spoke about the fantastic atmosphere that existed during the filming.
Little House on the Prairie is a classic program that has been shown in more than 100 countries and hasn’t been totally discontinued since 1974. Many actors’ careers have been aided by the show by their roles in the series.
Despite his tragic 1991 death, actor Michael Landon is still remembered when this series is mentioned.
For this series, Karen Grassle is also well-known. Born in 1942, she followed her dream of being an artist. After graduating from the University of California, she studied at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts in London before coming back to the United States.
For Karen Grassle, opportunities presented themselves in perfect timing. Karen was supposed to appear in another project when the series’ auditions were held, but she had to go to Los Angeles for that part and couldn’t get tickets. Her agency then contacted and offered her a part in the series alongside Michael Landon. Despite not being a TV show enthusiast, Karen made the decision to attend the interview.
Subsequently, she said that during the Caroline Ingalls role interview, she was by herself. She added that everyone in the interview was exhausted because they had already cast everyone else, but that she was invited to go to the wardrobe after just a few lines.
When Karen received the part, she admitted that she was a little nervous about what lay ahead, but Landon always made the other people on set laugh and feel good. He was under a great deal of pressure. Karen greatly benefited from her decision to base her part on her mother’s experiences.
While filming is enjoyable, Karen felt that since she is one of the main characters and the show has grown in popularity, she should be paid more. This sparked a furious argument between her and Michael Landon, her coworker. She claimed that when she tried to renegotiate the contract, Michael refused to pay her more money. A rift developed in their relationship as a result of this disagreement.
The two had a cordial phone conversation prior to the actor’s passing, but Karen refrained from discussing the event and the breakup in their relationship at the time in public.
Michael’s widow, Cindy, claimed that despite his serious appearance, her husband was a great parent, deeply devoted about his career, and always arrived home smiling.
No matter how big or tiny their involvement on the show was, Michael made everyone feel important and happy during production, according to the other performers who appeared in Little House on the Prairie. Additionally, Michael was regarded as a true professional by Dean Butler, who played Landon, and had nothing but positive things to say about him. Michael wanted everyone’s experience to be more pleasurable and straightforward.
Michael also made an effort to ensure that the performers could get home in time for supper with their families. He thought that success came from striking a balance between one’s personal and
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