There are many people who get married despite the fact that critics may doubt their ability to stay married for the long term. This often happens when we get married quickly or perhaps we are young and people don’t think we are yet responsible enough for the bond.
In 1995, there was a young couple who also were doubted but they ended up getting married and they stayed married for 25 years. They also were the first couple with Down syndrome in the UK to become husband and wife.
These days, we hear about people who have Down syndrome getting married on a regular basis. At that time, however, it was unheard of and it was the first time in the world that a couple with Down syndrome said I do.
Just like any other disability, however, those with Down syndrome have the ability to beat the odds, and certainly, that is what Tommy and Maryanne Pilling did. In fact, they are an inspiration to many who wonder if they have what it takes.
Maryanne was born in 1971. Her mother, Linda Martin, provided her with a loving atmosphere at home and she also had a sister who loved her as well. There were still times, however, when she struggled in life and she was even rejected by her father.
Since she was raised in a loving household, however, she grew up to be a very loving woman. It was easy to see in her lively personality.
Tommy was born in 1958 and was an only child. When he was 12 years old, he became an orphan and he grew up in a care home in Essex. He did have delayed development because of a lack of a support system, and he didn’t care much for his physical appearance.
When the two of them met in 1990, they were working in a kitchen in a training home for disabled individuals. He was 32 and she was 19 at the time.
It was easy to see how Maryanne felt about Tommy because she would absolutely light up when she spoke about him. They shared a number of common interests, such as music, cooking, movies, and doing craftwork.
Tommy also loved Elvis Pressley and the two of them would dance together on a regular basis. He would also let her know how much he loved her, and eventually, the family got accustomed to having him around.
18 months after they started dating, he proposed to her and asked her mother for permission to marry her daughter. The mother didn’t hesitate, she gave her blessings right away.
Other people, however, were not quite so positive about the idea of the two of them getting married. Some said that she wasn’t ready for it and some even asked about their sex life.
Despite the fact that they were criticized openly, they got married in 1995. 250 people came to the wedding, which was a fairytale for them.
They lived together with her family for seven years before moving into their own apartment next door. Her sister also moved along with them.
They have a very strong bond because he listens carefully when she speaks. There is never any type of hidden agenda and they love each other with their whole hearts.
Unfortunately, Tommy was hospitalized in 2020 after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and then got COVID. Due to his declining health, he passed away. That was on January 1, 2021.
When the news was broken to her, she seemed to understand but still was a little confused about the situation. We are just glad that they had almost 30 years together, and they loved each other till the end.
SINGLE MOM OF FOUR BUYS USED CAR—WHAT SHE FINDS IN THE TRUNK WILL LEAVE YOU SPEECHLESS
A single mother of four, Jennifer, needed a used car to help her get to work. The car’s previous owner asked her to open the trunk when she got home. What she found inside turned out to be life-changing.
Jennifer became a single mother when her husband, Adam, left her after learning she was pregnant with their fourth child. He said, “Another child to feed? No way! I’ve had enough!” and then left their trailer and filed for divorce.
Jennifer was heartbroken. Even though the pregnancy was unexpected, she had hoped Adam would support her during this tough time, especially since they were already struggling financially.
After their separation, Adam stopped giving Jennifer money for their children. He said he couldn’t find a job and that no one would hire him because he didn’t graduate from college.
Soon after giving birth, Jennifer had to find a job because she was running out of money for food, diapers, and milk. She walked through various restaurants and shops looking for work but faced rejections because she had four small children.
One employer told her, “It’s difficult to hire mothers with young children because something always comes up. Either your child is sick, or you have no one to leave them with, so you have to miss work. It’s too much for us to handle.”
With no luck in her neighborhood, Jennifer started looking for work in a nearby city. She used the last of her money to take a cab and asked her neighbors to watch her children for the afternoon.
When Jennifer arrived in the nearby city, she saw a job opening for a housekeeping position at a local hotel. She went in, applied, and was hired on the spot. The HR manager told her, “We badly need staff, especially with the summer season coming up. We’ll be fully booked soon.”
Desperate for work, Jennifer took the job, even though it meant commuting to another city every day. She thanked the HR manager and went home to share the good news with her kids.
After spending nearly $30 on cab fare, Jennifer realized she couldn’t afford to commute daily. She needed a car but didn’t have the money for a new one. Her best option was to buy a used car.
Jennifer found a used car she wanted but wondered if the owner would lower the price. She explained, “I’m a single mom of four, and it’s been hard to earn money. I need a car to get to a job in a nearby city. Could you possibly sell it to me for $5000?”
Understanding her situation, the owner agreed to the lower price. “If you can buy the car by tomorrow, I’ll sell it to you for $5000,” he said.
Jennifer was extremely grateful for the owner’s willingness to help. She decided to apply for a loan at the bank to afford the car. Unfortunately, her loan application was quickly rejected due to her bad credit.
Running out of options, Jennifer thought hard about her next move. She couldn’t move to the new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school near their trailer park.
Rent in the nearby city was also much higher, and she wouldn’t be able to bring the trailer with her. She needed a car to commute to work and to pick up her children from school and daycare.
Then, she remembered a family heirloom her late mother had left her—a gold chain necklace that had been passed down through generations. Jennifer felt emotional at the thought of selling it, but she knew she needed the car to support her children and secure their future.
As Jennifer struggled to find a solution, she realized she couldn’t move to a new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school nearby.
The car owner, Jeff, smiled and said, “Congratulations on your car. It’s a great purchase.”
As Jennifer signed the paperwork, Jeff quietly placed something in the trunk. When she was about to drive away, he called out, “By the way, check the car’s trunk when you get home. I left something for your children inside.”
Jennifer, busy with commuting to work and managing her children, forgot to check the trunk until she later found a note in the car’s glove compartment.
The note read, “I hope you and your children liked the gift I left inside the trunk. May it be of great help to you.” Curious, Jennifer decided to open the trunk to see what the gift was.
At first, Jennifer was puzzled when she saw only a white envelope in the trunk. It was the same envelope she had used to pay for the car. When she opened it, she found her $5000 payment untouched.
Overwhelmed with emotion, Jennifer cried, touched by Jeff’s kindness. She drove back to the dealership after work to thank Jeff.
Jeff told her, “The world throws challenges at you, and it’s up to you to rise or succumb to them. I’m proud of you for staying strong for your children. I thought you could use the money more than I could. Just don’t forget to pay it forward.”
What can we learn from this story?
1. Compassion makes a big difference. Jeff, who owned a successful car dealership, chose to help Jennifer, a struggling single mom, in a meaningful way.
2. Determination pays off. Jennifer worked hard to support her children despite many obstacles and rejections.
3. Inspire others. Sharing stories like this can uplift and motivate those around you.
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