A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
After Turning 60, Sandra Bullock Looks Different; One Detail Grabs People’s Attention
This July, Sandra Bullock turned 60 years old, and her most recent TV appearance is generating a lot of excitement among viewers and admirers alike. Although she still exudes beauty, people have observed a slight change in her appearance, sparking an intense online discussion.
With a genuinely remarkable tribute, Sandra Bullock brought a great blend of warmth and comedy to Hoda Kotb’s 60th birthday celebration. During her appearance on *Today with Hoda & Jenna*, Bullock—who is renowned for her captivating aura—spoke a message that skillfully incorporated humorous and poignant moments.
Wearing a chic black ensemble that exuded carefree elegance, Bullock began her speech with the lighthearted remark, “Hoda, Hoda, Hoda.” I really am too exhausted to do anything right now, even though I had a ton of creative and humorous stuff planned for you. Her genuine humor immediately established the mood and demonstrated how comfortable and close the two women were to one another.
Even though Sandra Bullock was a little playfully exhausted, she delighted in Hoda Kotb’s surprise birthday celebration. Her letter was warm and welcoming, serving as a helpful reminder that growing older is about more than just hitting goals; it’s also about the connections and experiences we create. Bullock’s birthday greeting to Kotb was witty and incredibly real, reflecting her own experiences.
She explained her tiredness by joking that she was “too tired” to offer the clever remarks she had in mind. “I’m exhausted from having to hike up that mountain before you guys, just to check out the terrain, feel the area, and collect some information to share with you.” Aside from being a lighthearted celebration, turning sixty was a gentle reminder that age also provides a wealth of knowledge and experience.
On July 26, Bullock celebrated being 60 years old. It was a memorable day because it was her first birthday following the death of her longtime companion, Bryan Randall, who passed away at the age of 57. Bullock’s message to Kotb was full of warmth and humor, even in the face of such a tremendous loss. It was a reflection of the resilience she had learned during her difficult journey.
Hoda Kotb was moved by Sandra Bullock’s heartfelt birthday message, which also sparked a wave of responses on social media. Crowds of fans flocked to several platforms. Bullock’s recent makeover was praised by a fan who said, “Sandra, your hair looks terrific—I’ve never seen it like that; it looks great!”
Another admirer, astonished by Bullock’s youthful appearance, exclaimed, “I am mind blown that Sandra is 60!!” Fans showered Bullock with praise, expressing their sincere admiration for her alluring inner and outside attractiveness. “What a wonderful message!One fan exclaimed, “She’s just gorgeous on the inside and out!” Another said, “Sandra is wonderful. adore the young woman.
Having said that, opinions on the matter were undoubtedly divided. While admirers praised Sandra Bullock for her stunning looks, several social media users expressed surprise at her age. One person wrote, “Sandra is 60!?!” A range of reactions were generated by this, some of which were skeptical. A few critics expressed their opinions more bluntly, with one saying, “Too much Botox in her upper lip.”
Many people found Bullock’s genuine warmth and irresistible charm to be apparent despite the mixed reviews and criticism. Her emotional message to Hoda Kotb and her sophisticated take on aging struck a chord with them.
Sandra has accomplished a noteworthy feat as she marks her 60th birthday and deals with the death of her partner, Bryan Randall.
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