It wasn’t the yelling kids or the endless demands that broke me. It was the moment my husband opened the door, his face cold and resolved, and said, “You need to go.” That’s when everything shifted.
I never thought I’d be writing this, but here we are.
I’m a stay-at-home mom with three kids — Oliver (7), Sophie (5), and Max (3). My husband, Mark, works from home to support us, and for the most part, it’s a good life. It’s full of love, laughter, and the kind of chaos that only small children can create.
Couple with their three children| Source: Midjourney
But last week… last week was different. It felt like everything unraveled, and now, I’m not even sure where I stand anymore. It started like any other day. Mark was on a conference call in his office, trying to close some important deal, and I was doing my usual juggling act with the kids.
Oliver wanted to watch cartoons, Sophie was bored, and Max was, well, being a three-year-old, so everything seemed like a reason to cry. You know, the usual.
“Mommy, I want to watch cartoons,” Oliver tugged at my sleeve, his eyes pleading.
“We just watched some, Ollie. How about we play a game instead?” I suggested, trying to sound enthusiastic even though I was completely drained.
Exhausted woman holding her son | Source: Midjourney
“Games are boring,” Sophie shouted, crossing her arms.
Before I could respond, Max started wailing — no reason, just joining in the chaos like he always did. I could feel the tension building, and so could Mark. I glanced at him through the glass door of his office, and I could see it in his eyes — the silent plea for quiet. But how could I manage that with three kids all demanding something different?
“Shh, guys, Daddy’s working,” I whispered, already knowing it was hopeless.
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“Why can’t Daddy play with us?” Oliver whined, louder this time.
I wanted to scream. I had tried everything: snacks, storytime, their favorite show on repeat. Nothing worked. Their noise level just kept rising, and with it, my stress.
Then, I heard it. The sound of Mark’s office door opening, slowly but deliberately.
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I turned, expecting him to say something calming, offer help, or even give me a reassuring look. Instead, his face was tight, his eyes cold.
“Can’t you keep them quiet for five minutes?” His voice was low, but it cut through me like a knife.
My heart pounded as Mark’s words hit me like a freight train.
“I’m trying to manage them, but they just won’t listen!” I pleaded, throwing my hands up in desperation, the sound of the kids still echoing in the background. I searched his face for some sign of understanding, hoping he’d soften, but all I saw was frustration. Deep, simmering frustration.
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Mark took a deep breath, his eyes wild with anger. “I can’t live like this anymore! You’re not even a mother right now… you’re just… just a woman!” His words cut through the air, leaving me breathless.
“What?” I gasped, my throat tightening. “Mark, what are you saying?”
He ran his hands through his hair. “Just go! Get out of here!” he snapped, storming past me.
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Before I could even comprehend what was happening, he grabbed my suitcase from the closet, dragged it to the bed, and quickly stuffed clothes into it. Socks, pajamas, anything he could grab.
“Mark, stop! What are you doing?” My voice cracked, tears welling up in my eyes as I watched him. “Please, I’m trying my best!”
He didn’t stop. His hands moved faster, almost as if he was afraid he’d change his mind if he slowed down. “You need to take a break from all of this,” he muttered. “You deserve time for yourself, some place away from… this chaos.”
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I stood there, paralyzed by disbelief. Was this really happening? My husband — the man I shared my life, my home, my children with — was packing my bags, telling me to leave.
“I booked a hotel room for you. Two days. You’ll have time to yourself,” he said, his voice suddenly calmer, as if this were all perfectly reasonable.
My heart raced faster, confusion mixing with a strange sense of relief that I didn’t want to admit to. “You’re sending me away? Mark, I can’t just leave the kids like this…”
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He grabbed his wallet, pulled out his credit card, and placed it on my hand. “Take my card. Go treat yourself. Get a nice meal, and drink something fancy. Get a massage, whatever you need. Just go.”
I stared at the card, my mind reeling. This didn’t feel like a gift—it felt like an eviction. But beneath the shock, the guilt, and the tears that stung my eyes, I felt something else: a small glimmer of relief. The exhaustion, the endless days of noise and mess, had been wearing on me more than I realized.
Mark stepped forward, his anger softening just slightly. “This is for you. Please, just go.”
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I didn’t know what else to do. With trembling hands, I zipped up the suitcase and wiped away the tears that had started to fall. He gave me a quick hug, a peck on the cheek that felt rushed, and before I could process it, I was in the car, pulling out of the driveway. As I drove away, my hands gripping the wheel, my heart pounded with disbelief.
Was my husband really doing this for me, or was he doing it to get rid of me?
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Arriving at the hotel, I took a deep, shaky breath. The lobby smelled like fresh coffee and soft jazz played in the background, soothing my frazzled nerves. Everything seemed so calm here. It was such a stark contrast to the chaos I had just left behind.
I checked in quickly, making my way to my room with the weight of the past few hours still pressing on my shoulders.
As soon as I opened the door to the small, cozy room, I let out a long sigh of relief. The bed looked like a sanctuary, and without thinking twice, I collapsed onto it, staring up at the ceiling.
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I should’ve been furious, right? My husband had literally kicked me out of the house! But instead, I felt… lighter? The guilt bubbled up, but it was quickly replaced by a strange sense of freedom.
My phone buzzed. It was Mark.
“I can’t believe you kicked me out. This is so surreal,” I typed, my fingers trembling slightly as I hit send.
A few moments later, his reply flashed on my screen. “Just trust me. I know you need this. Let me handle the kids.”
I stared at the message for a while, trying to make sense of it. Could he really handle it? Could I really let go? With a deep breath, I decided to surrender to the moment.
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The first day slipped by in a blur of pampering. I took the longest bath I’d had in years, soaking in the silence. Room service delivered a meal I didn’t have to cook, and I ate in bed while flipping through the book I’d been meaning to read for months.
I felt something close to peace, but in the back of my mind, I couldn’t stop thinking about the kids. How were they managing without me?
That evening, I couldn’t resist. I dialed Mark’s number.
“Hey… how are the kids?” I asked, trying to sound casual, though my heart was racing.
Woman in a hotel room making a phone call | Source: Midjourney
“They’re good,” Mark replied, sounding surprisingly calm. “We had a little talk about respecting you and what it means to be a family. They miss you, Mia.”
I blinked in surprise. “Really? What did you tell them?”
“I told them that you do everything for us, and it’s time they show you how much they appreciate you.” His voice was steady and reassuring.
My heart warmed at his words. It was so unlike Mark to take the lead with the kids like this, to be the one who gave the talk. But hearing it gave me a sense of relief I didn’t know I needed. Maybe he was right after all.
Woman in a hotel room making a phone call | Source: Midjourney
After two days of self-care and relaxation, I drove back home feeling refreshed, but uncertain about what awaited me. I opened the front door, bracing myself for the usual chaos, but instead… silence.
The living room was spotless. Toys that were normally scattered everywhere were neatly put away, and the kids—Oliver, Sophie, and Max—stood in matching outfits, beaming like they were up to something.
“Mommy!” they shouted in unison, racing toward me.
I laughed as I knelt down, gathering them into my arms. “What’s all this? Did I step into the wrong house?”
Woman hugging her three children | Source: Midjourney
Sophie grinned and pointed behind her. “Surprise! We made you dinner!”
I glanced over to see a little table set up with paper plates, juice boxes, and what looked like sandwiches they’d put together themselves. My heart swelled.
Mark appeared, his arms crossed, smiling proudly. “The kids wanted to show you how much they appreciate you. We’ve been planning this all day.”
I stood, tears threatening to spill. “You all did this for me?”
Emotional woman | Source: Midjourney
“Of course!” Oliver exclaimed, his chest puffed out with pride. “We wanted to make you happy.”
Mark walked over and pulled me into a soft embrace. “You needed a break, Mia. And I needed to teach the kids how to appreciate everything you do.”
I blinked back tears and looked up at him. “Thank you. I can’t believe you managed all this.”
He chuckled, shaking his head. “It wasn’t easy, but we made it work. Together.”
That evening, as we shared a simple meal filled with laughter and stories, I realized how much had shifted.
Couple enjoying dinner together | Source: Midjourney
After putting the kids to bed, Mark and I settled onto the couch, tired but content. He reached for my hand. “I’m sorry for how I reacted before. I felt overwhelmed and didn’t know how to help.”
I leaned against him, my heart full. “I appreciate you, Mark. Thank you for reminding me of my worth. I love you.”
He squeezed my hand, a soft smile on his lips. “I love you too, Mia. We’re in this together.”
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Weddings are some of the most beautiful celebrations one can experience in their life (usually). The deep connection between two lovers taking physical form in a ceremonious act for all to see is one that a lot of couples look forward to.
However, it also comes with months upon months of planning, stress, and even more planning. The one thing that a bride cannot go without—the special dress. Whether it be white, maroon, black, fluffy, frilly, or form-fitting, it must make the wearer feel likе the most beautiful woman in the whole entire world.
Some brides take the plunge of crafting their own dresses, be it for the challenge, for the love of the craft, or both. Today we delve into the story of Veronika Lindberg Heino, or Kika, who knitted her special gown for her big day in 6 weeks. She was kind enough to answer some of Bored Panda’s questions so let’s get into it!
Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, decided to take up the challenge of knitting her own stunning wedding dress
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If you were given 2.5 kg of yarn and 250 hours, what would you create? Mayhaps a blanket, mayhaps a 3D portrait, or maybe a knitted wedding dress. Seeing as you clicked on this article for a very particular reason, you probably know by now that we’ll be speaking about the last option.
Opening herself to the challenge was Veronika Lindberg Heino, better known by her nickname Kika, who documented the birth of her special white dress, sharing the ups and downs with her followers on Instagram (which she started in 2017) and YouTube.
This project came about when she and her husband-to-be were both moving house and planning an impromptu wedding, making for a very stressful 7 weeks
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For what was already an intense project, life decided to add an extra bit of *spice*: they were moving house and planning their wedding, happening 7 weeks later, at the same time, so why not add in a project of great significance on top of it all? Unless you’re as skiIIed as Kika, I wouldn’t recommend it!
“I do love a challenge and I’m often a little bit over-ambitious, and the thought felt so wild and inspiring that I just decided to take the risk and do it,” the Finland-based knitter told Good Morning America (GMA). “I ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced my crazy plan on Instagram, and knew right then, there was no turning back anymore.”
She ordered 2.5 kg of pure silk yarn and announced her plans to her followers on Instagram, getting the project officially started with no way to turn back
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Kika based her design around Dior, Chanel, and Ulla Johnson’s dresses. She then sketched and planned the patterns. After all that, the knitting began!
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Nothing worth doing ever comes easy. It was a struggle finding time to knit in between moving, planning the wedding, and publishing her first book
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Instead of throwing Kika off balance, this added project seemed to have the opposite effect: it kept her grounded through the tumultuous time, at least for a while. Nothing worth doing comes easy, and this project was no exception, especially as she’d never knitted a dress before.
“The process was definitely intense, and the biggest struggle was to find enough time for knitting since we were in the process of moving and organizing the wedding at the same time,” said Kika. “Plus I published my first-ever knitting book, so it was definitely hectic. But, I also enjoyed it immensely and loved seeing my vision come to life in the process.”
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Then a big setback occured—her bodice was far too big, requiring her to rip it all up and start again. Her sleeves then kept slipping off, which took lots of time to fix
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Glaring issues started appearing about two weeks in when Kika had finished the bodice and tried it on for the first time—it was way too big. Disappointed, but not defeated, the bride-to-be ripped it all up, starting all over again, describing it as “a tough and frustrating moment where some tears were shed.”
One more issue came along with the slippy sleeves that kept on slipping, revealing a tad bit too much, which Kika found hilarious yet time-consuming to fix. “I made sure to film all my mistakes so I could be real and honest with my viewers, rather than only showing them the picture-perfect moments,” she told Insider.
Not having any other option (you typically can’t just go and buy a dress off the rack, as those require alterations, which take a long time), she kept moving forward until it was one week til the wedding. Encouraging messages from her followers kept her spirits up, the promise she’d made to the project at the very beginning providing her with a sense of accountability.
However, “the biggest motivator was definitely seeing for myself if I could pull my idea and vision off, and the thought of having the dress as a memory for life really kept me going, too.”
But all that didn’t deter her! Just 4 days before the big day, the dress was finished and Kika got to have a well-deserved rest
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Everything was done. She finished her dress on Tuesday, feeling more tired and frustrated than elated, but once she put it on for the ceremony, she couldn’t have been happier with the end result.
Kika got married to her husband Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home (which inspired the cottage-themed wedding tone), just 4 days after she’d finished her dress. Although her partner was a bit more skeptical about her last-minute knitting project, “in the end, he was super impressed and proud of me, and thought it looked really good too,” Kika said.
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Kika told Bored Panda that they’d met back in Spring of 2020, when she moved back home to Finland from London, as the pandemic put the world in lockdown. “Just a few months after moving back I met Juki and for our first date we walked around in Helsinki for hours since all cafés and bars were closed due to the restrictions,” she said.
“I was immediately drawn to his humor and often colorful stories of his adventures which made me laugh, and of course I found him really handsome. I think he was drawn to my enthusiasm, something we both have in common and my positive attitude towards life.”
She married Jukka Heino on Saturday, September 10, at their new home. Everyone loved her dress, praising her for all the effort she’d put into it
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“Over the course of the day, guests would come up to me and immediately feel the dress and comment on it. It sometimes felt likе they were more interested in the dress than in me, but I love talking about knitting, so I didn’t mind too much,” she told Insider.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295, which is a bargain when it comes to wedding dresses, which go for $1,800 on average. Her 149k followers on Instagram absolutely loved the journey, jumping in with suggestions and support any time she needed it.
The entire process demanded around 45 days, roughly 250 hours, and 1.5 kg of pure silk yarn, costing 300 euros, or around $295
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The 46-minute vlog of the whole journey posted on YouTube has garnered over 3.4M views, quickly becoming the highlight of her channel, which has over 253k subscribers that look forward to her knitting tutorials. “I’m absolutely amazed by all the positive attention the video and my dress has gotten, wow!” said Kika.
“I’ve received messages from people all over the world telling me I’ve inspired them to take up knitting again or to learn it, which makes me so glad. I’m also proud that I’ve maybe been able to push the boundaries and show what is possible using knitting.”
According to Kika, “knitting was actually done primarily by men at some point in history, so the fact that knitting nowadays is associated with something mostly feminine hasn’t always been the case.” Knitting is not just for grandmas, y’all!
The 46-minute vlog of the entire process garnered over 3.4M views on YouTube, inspiring hundreds of people to take up or go back to the craft
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What began as a bonding activity with her grandma when she was 5 years old has become a lifestyle, bringing together likе-minded people from all over the world. The one lesson she’d always kept was to be playful with the craft, rather than searching for perfection.
“With knitting there are a lot of ‘rules’ or principles that come with the territory which sometimes can make it feel likе you’re not doing things the right way,” she told Bored Panda. “My grandmother always encouraged me to make things without getting hung up on perfection, being creative and playful was more important.”
She hopes her followers and those who jumped on the bandwagon to see the final dress get inspired to embrace creative projects they might feel tempted to try—“even if it might feel a bit ambitious, I say go for it!”
We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and can’t wait to see what’s coming up for them next!
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A post-pandemic resurgence of knitting is a very welcome sight for many who are getting into arts and crafts for the first time or returning back to the familiar time-passing activity. Recent research shows that knitting has a measurable effect on calming anxiety, relieving stress, and aiding with chronic pain, as well as helping one build a community of friends. And you end up with a cute hat and mittens in the meantime!
“I think knitting as a craft teaches you a lot about patience and really makes you think about what kind of garments you most likе to wear,” Kika said. “When you’re going to spend 40-60 hours making a sweater, you really want to make sure it’s something that is going to stay in your wardrobe for a long time, which makes knitting a very sustainable practice, too.”
Honestly, what’s not to love!? We wish Kika and Jukka all the best for their future together and hope to see many more exciting knitting projects! Let us know your thoughts on the dress in the comments below, and I shall see you in the next one!
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