I spent years of my life wanting to take revenge on my father because he abandoned me when I needed him the most. When life gave me the chance to do it, I thought twice.
One day I opened the door and I saw someone I didn’t expect. It was my dad. I hadn’t seen him for ages. In fact, I didn’t want to.
“Hi, son. I’m sorry to come like this. I tried to call you but you didn’t answer your phone,” he told me.
“Yeah, what do you want?”
“I was wondering if maybe I could stay with you… I don’t have a place right now, so…”
I found my dad sleeping on the streets. | Source: Pexel
“You can stay. But you have to pay rent.”
“But I don’t have any money at all… and you’re the only person who can help me.”
“I don’t care,” I said, feeling my heart tighten. “You can live on the street. I wish God had taken you instead of mom!”
I slammed the door and my wife was just behind me. She was pissed with what just happened but she had no idea what I went through with this man. She pushed me to tell her, so I did.
It all started when I turned 18. My mom had passed away 2 years before that, so I think my dad was still adapting to taking both roles. He prepared a surprise birthday party and everything. After we celebrated, he asked me what I was planning to do with my living situation and I was like, what the heck?
He told me I was an adult and if I wanted to stay with him in the house, I needed to pay some kind of rent. I was so angry. Pay rent? To my own father?! What’s wrong with him?
My dad prepared a surprise birthday party for me. | Source: Pexel
He continued with his argument saying that was normal and I had to grow up. When I told him I’d rather live in a dorm in college than pay him rent, he said he couldn’t afford college and I had to pay for it myself. That I should either get a job or a loan.
“I felt betrayed, Julie. I didn’t expect that. That’s why I left,” I told my wife.
Julie said my father reached out to her a few days earlier and that she gave him our address. That’s right, she didn’t tell me anything either…
I got into an argument with my wife because of my dad. | Source: Pexel
And then, she suggested I forgive my father. “It’s been years,” she said.
But no. I wasn’t ready. I didn’t want to forgive him. He was the one who threw me out like some kind of stray dog. “No, Julie, I work 24/7 to at least, eat normally. And he? He just abandoned me! No forgiveness!” I told her.
“Come on, honey, he’s your father!”
“So what? You don’t know! You don’t understand… Only my mom truly loved me. And she would have never allowed him to kick me out of my own house and…”
In the heat of our fight, I stepped out and went for a walk. | Source: Pexel
“Nick,” Julie interrupted me, “do you know your father’s side of the story? I mean you lost your mom but he lost his wife… Have you thought about how this affected him as well?”
“You know what? THAT’S ENOUGH!” I shouted, “I don’t want to hear it!! I’m done…”
Julie almost burst into tears. We barely fought and I knew she was trying to help me. I decided to get some fresh air and went for a walk.
I saw a man sleeping on a bench and I recognized him. | Source: Pexel
When I passed by some benches, I couldn’t believe my eyes. I spotted a man sleeping on one but I thought it was a hobo. But I looked a second time and I knew I knew him from somewhere… it was my dad!
“Dad, wake up! Are you OK?”
He woke up straight away, “Nick, is that you?!”
“Yes, dad, I’m really sorry! I just…”
“I just wanted you to do good in life and…”
“Shh, easy dad, that’s okay, that’s okay.”
He burst into tears. “I thought if you had to pay rent then maybe… maybe you would move on. I wanted to help you, son. You were just sitting on the couch. You weren’t doing anything.” He continued, visibly emotional, “I wanted to motivate you to get a job and live your life.”
My dad got emotional when I found him. | Source: Pexel
“I know I couldn’t pay for your college because I invested the money into my business and… I was gonna give the business to you. But I lost everything, Nick.”
I finally understood what Julie meant. His part of the story. Everything he did was with good intentions. So I couldn’t leave him like that. I knew I was the only person he had left.
“No, dad,” I replied. “If it wasn’t for you, I would have stayed on the couch and achieved nothing. You pushed me for good and I needed to get out of my comfort zone.”
“Yes, that’s what I wanted, Nick.”
“I know, dad. But I didn’t see it that way. I thought you betrayed me. But because you did what you did, now I have a great job and a beloved family. And that’s all thanks to you!”
He was so happy when we decided to forgive each other. | Source: Pexel
“I know I did a lot of things… I know I hurt you, son. Can you forgive me?”
“No, it’s you who should forgive me, dad!” Suddenly, I felt something shifting inside of me. I had been practicing meditation a lot and one of them was about forgiveness. I could never truly forgive my father before, but that day, I did it. Finally.
I started to practice meditation to forgive my father. | Source: Pexel
“I’ve held this anger for so many years… And I’ve tried different things to get rid of it. But now I understand… I was wrong.” I stood up and took him by the hand. “Let’s go home, dad. We have a lot to talk about…”
“Thank you, son. I love you! I’ve always loved you!”
“You’ll be a grandfather!”
“Wait, what? Is Julie pregnant?!”
My dad would soon become a grandfather. | Source: Unsplash
What can we learn from this story?
- We should always appreciate our parents. We are all humans and we make mistakes. We never know what kind of sacrifices they went through for us.
- Forgiveness can set one free. Nick was holding grudges against his father for so many years and he felt free when he forgave the man.
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After undergoing face surgery, Jennifer Grey felt “invisible” since her “nose job from hell” has left her “anonymous.”
It was anticipated that Jennifer Grey, who played “Baby” in the iconic movie Dirty Dancing, would have much better employment chances.
However, it was not intended to be. Rather, a horrible incident drastically altered everything and forced her to permanently quit the film industry.
Jennifer Grey has finally opened out about the terrible period of her life that left her permanently traumatized after many years.
But the cast and crew knew what they had done as soon as Dirty Dancing hit theaters in August 1987.
Patrick Swayze, the male protagonist, was successful right away. He became well-known as a teen idol and sex icon before starring in popular films like Ghost and Donnie Darko.
However, his co-star Jennifer Grey wasn’t doing well when the movie came out, and she quickly disappeared. Jennifer Grey disappeared as abruptly as she had appeared amid the joy and celebrations.
Additionally, the actress was absent from the media for a very long time.
However, in a recent interview, she talked candidly about the accident that changed her life.
However, let’s first look at Jennifer Grey’s life before to the tragic event that occurred in the summer of 1987.
Jennifer Gray started attending dance classes at a young age. Her father may have urged her to seek a career in entertainment when she was born in New York in 1960. Her father, Joel Gray, was an actor, singer, dancer, photographer, and director.
During her time at Dalton School, Jennifer focused on dancing and acting. After graduating in 1978, she enrolled in the Neighborhood Playhouse School of the Theater and began looking for performing roles. At the same time, her life was not exactly a dance on roses. Jennifer was compelled to work as a waitress to help pay the expenses.
She managed to land a few TV commercial jobs despite this, including one for Dr. Pepper. Her first acting role was in the 1984 movie “Reckless.” She received a big break a few years later when she starred as Frances “Baby” Houseman in the film “Dirty Dancing.”
Author Eleanor Bergstein’s childhood served as a major inspiration for the story of this well-loved film. Jennifer became well-known overnight and received a Golden Globe nomination for Best Actress.
Unfortunately, she was never able to capitalize on the enormous success.
Shortly before the film’s August 1987 release, Grey and her then-boyfriend Matthew Broderick were residing in Ireland.
However, the pair suffered a terrible car accident when Broderick struck another vehicle while driving on the wrong side of the road. A woman and her daughter were in the second car, and they both perished instantly.
Eventually, the charge of reckless driving against Broderick was dropped in favor of reckless driving. Jennifer Grey’s psychological wounds remained even if she only had minor physical injuries like bruises.
Dirty Dancing made its debut just a few days later. However, Grey was unable to enjoy the film in spite of its widespread appeal.
It just didn’t make sense to contrast that intense suffering, the survivor’s guilt, and then being heralded as the next big thing. Being the talk of the town didn’t feel good, according to Grey.
The trauma induced by the accident will never fully heal the actress.
“My ambition was never the same, and my brain was never the same,” she said.
Hellish nose job
She fought survivor’s guilt, disappeared for a few years in the early 1990s, and then reappeared in a 1995 Friends episode.
By then, she had had plastic surgery, and her face was a whole makeover.
It was similar to being in a witness protection program or feeling anonymous. The nose job was the worst I’ve ever had. No one will ever identify me as the former well-known actress with the nose job.
Jennifer’s Hollywood career was sporadic after that.
By 2010, Jennifer had re-established herself in the mainstream media. After winning the TV show “Dancing with the Stars,” she was once again a passionate fan favorite. That was something that was important to her, she said.
“I feel like I’ve starved myself because I’m afraid of what other people think of me,” the celebrity remarked. “It’s like eating a wonderful steak after being on a diet for 23 years.”
In 2018, Grey returns to the public eye once more. Both “Untogether” and the upcoming comedy “Red Oaks” will include her.
We’re so happy that you’re back to being enthusiastic and happy, Jennifer!
Now, who else is nostalgic enough to wish to go back to 1987? Below is the famous scene from Dirty Dancing. Such lovely recollections!
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