When Ellie decided to remarry at 60, nine years after losing her husband Richard, she thought her family and friends would celebrate her happiness. But as the priest asked if anyone objected, her late husband’s brother stood and shouted, “I object!” What followed was something she didn’t see coming.
For nine years, I grieved Richard’s loss and slowly rebuilt my life piece by piece. When I met Thomas, a kind widower who understood my pain, I thought I had finally found a second chance at happiness.
But not everyone was ready to let me move on.
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They say life begins at 60, and for me, it felt true.
After years of grief, I was ready to embrace love again, and when I met Thomas, my heart told me it was time to take a chance.
But before I tell you about our story, let me share a bit about my life.
Richard and I were married for 35 years, and we built a beautiful life together.
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We had three wonderful children, Sophia, Liam, and Ben. Richard was the type of guy who’d do anything to keep his family happy, and that’s exactly what he did.
He was a loving husband and an incredible father. He worked tirelessly to ensure our kids were well-fed and was always there to support us.
We had our ups and downs like every couple, but his steady presence always made me feel secure no matter what life threw at us.
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But all stories have to come to an end, right? Our story reached its final chapter when Richard was diagnosed with stage four cancer.
The doctors didn’t give us much hope, and despite trying every treatment available, the illness consumed him quickly.
I’ll never forget how he encouraged me to handle everything bravely. I was sitting by his bedside when he held my hand and looked straight into my eyes.
“Take care of the kids,” he said in a trembling voice. “Be strong for them. And don’t let this stop you from living.”
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He passed away shortly after, and my world crumbled into pieces.
The first six months after his death were the hardest. I couldn’t go to the grocery store without breaking down because it reminded me of the times we shopped together.
Every corner of our home held memories of him, and the silence at night was unbearable.
One day, I was at Sophia’s place when my grandson looked at me with his big, tearful eyes.
“Grandma, I don’t want to lose you like I lost Grandpa,” he said.
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What he said was just a combination of 11 words, but the impact it had on me was enormous. It made me realize that I couldn’t let sorrow consume me. I couldn’t spend the rest of my life feeling sad because my family still needed me.
That night, I made a promise to myself. I told myself I’d keep living and that was not just for me. It was for my family.
From that day on, I slowly started to rebuild.
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I sought help from a therapist, started attending dance classes, and even experimented with bright, colorful clothes. I styled my hair differently and embraced the parts of me I had once neglected.
“After all, this is what Richard wanted me to do,” I told myself. “He wanted to see me dress up and smile. He wanted his wife to be happy even if he wasn’t there.”
By the seventh year after Richard’s passing, I found myself smiling more often and feeling lighter. I wasn’t the same woman I had been during the first few dark months.
I was vibrant and confident, ready to embrace life again.
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A year ago, I decided to take a trip I had always dreamed of. I wanted to go see the beautiful waterfalls and nature parks, and Sophia encouraged me to go ahead.
“You deserve to live all of your dreams, Mom,” she told me.
That trip was where I met Thomas.
I’ll never forget the first time we spoke. It was a crisp morning at a small park near one of the waterfalls.
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I was sipping coffee, gazing at the water cascading down the rocks, when Thomas approached me with a warm smile.
“Beautiful, isn’t it?” he said, gesturing toward the falls.
We began talking, and before I knew it, hours had passed.
He told me about his late wife, how they had shared a life full of love but how her passing had left a void he didn’t think anyone could fill. I told him about Richard, and how, for years, I couldn’t imagine even smiling again.
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It felt like the world had paused for us at that moment.
We shared our grief and our hopes. Both Thomas and I dreamt of companionship, laughter, and love that didn’t need to replace what we’d lost but could stand alongside it.
Over the next few months, Thomas and I grew closer.
I found him to be very patient, kind, and thoughtful. He lived a few hours away from my house, but he never asked me to drive all the way there.
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Instead, he visited me whenever he could and the best part about him was that he never rushed things. He understood my hesitations, my guilt, and the little pangs of doubt that occasionally surfaced.
But with every conversation, every walk in the park, and every shared meal, I felt my heart opening again.
A year later, Thomas proposed during a picnic at that same waterfall. I was stunned but overjoyed.
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“Are you sure?” I asked him as tears blurred my vision. “You’re ready for this?”
He laughed softly and held my hands.
“I’ve never been more sure of anything,” he said. “We deserve this, Ellie. We deserve happiness.”
As our wedding day approached, I felt like I was twenty again. I wore a beautiful dress that Thomas had selected himself.
The church was filled with golden afternoon light, and my heart was full as I walked down the aisle toward Thomas.
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My children sat in the front row, smiling as they saw me in the white dress. At that point, I felt whole.
But as I stood at the altar, hand in hand with Thomas, the moment was interrupted.
Just as the priest asked, “If anyone objects to this union, speak now or forever hold your peace,” a voice broke the silence.
“I OBJECT.”
I turned to see who it was, and that’s when my gaze landed on David, Richard’s elder brother. His face had this fierce look of disapproval.
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“I object!” he repeated, stepping forward with a pointed glare.
Murmurs rippled through the room as David walked toward the altar. Meanwhile, my heart pounded against my chest because I had no idea what was happening.
Why would David object to my wedding? What was going on?
He didn’t leave much room for guessing.
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“Look at you, Ellie!” he shouted, his voice filled with disdain. “Dressed in white, standing here as if Richard never existed. While Richard—my brother—lies in the cold ground, you’re here celebrating like none of it ever mattered. How dare you?”
His words made me so embarrassed that I could feel the heat in my cheeks. I also felt the sting of tears in my eyes, but I didn’t let them fall.
Instead, I took a deep breath, preparing myself to answer his question.
“Do you think I’ve forgotten, David?” I asked, looking straight into his eyes. “Do you think a single day has passed where I haven’t thought about Richard?”
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I looked at Thomas, who gave me a calm nod, signaling me to go ahead. Then, I turned back to David.
“Richard wasn’t just my husband. He was my best friend, the father of my children, and the love of my life. But he’s gone, and I am still here. Am I not allowed to live?”
David scoffed, but before he could reply, my daughter Sophia stood up.
“Enough, Uncle David!” she said. “Before you accuse Mom of sinning because she wanted to live her life, I want you to see something. Not just you… I want you all to see this.”
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Then, she walked to the front of the church with a small projector in her hands. That’s when I understood what she was doing. She was about to show a video of Richard.
It was supposed to be a surprise for the reception, something my children and I had planned to honor Richard’s memory. But now, it was time.
The room grew silent as the projector flickered to life. Moments later, Richard’s voice filled the air, warm and steady, just as I remembered.
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“Ellie, if you’re watching this, it means I’m no longer here,” his voice said. “But I need you to promise me one thing. Don’t let grief hold you back. Love again, laugh again, and dance in that silly way you do. If someone else brings you happiness, hold onto them with all your strength.”
Richard had made this video for me during his last days. He’d made more videos for our kids too, and they wanted to play all of them at the reception. They believed playing the videos would make us all feel Richard was there with us, supporting us.
But my dearest Sophia decided to play this one to stand up for me.
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The guests were quiet, and I could even see some of my friends crying. But David? He wasn’t done yet.
He turned to Thomas with a stern expression on his face.
“And you,” David spat. “You think I don’t see through you? Marrying a woman in her 60s so you can rob her children of their inheritance? What kind of man are you?”
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Thomas stood tall, his voice calm but commanding. “David, I don’t need Ellie’s money. We’ve signed a marriage agreement. In the event of her death, I inherit nothing. I’m here because I love her, not because of what she has.”
David opened his mouth to speak again, but Thomas raised his voice.
“Enough!” he said. “Just mind your own business and let other people be happy. There’s nothing more left to say.”
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David wanted to argue, but he was escorted out of the church with the help of my sons.
The ceremony continued after he left, and as Thomas and I exchanged vows, the warmth and love in the room were undeniable.
And that is how I remarried at 60 and started a new chapter of my life.
Anne Hegerty, 66, from The Chase, shared her worries about dating. She talked about how her longest relationship only lasted four months and that she has never had children.
Anne Hegerty, known from The Chase, shared that her biggest fear about dating is having a man invade her personal space.
The quizzer, who was diagnosed with autism at 45, opened up about her challenges, mentioning a time when she unplugged her phone to stop a boyfriend from contacting her.
At The Paul Strank Roofing Charity Gala in Kensington, London, she honestly said that she thinks she would make a terrible partner.
Anne, 66, said, “I really struggle with being close to others and having anyone else in the house.
“I think a lot of autistic people don’t get married or settle down.”
Anne explained, “I don’t even have pets because of this, and my ability to live with other people is getting smaller. I need a lot of alone time.
“I always feel like I need more space than anyone can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find one, but honestly, I don’t.”
She also mentioned that her longest relationship only lasted four months. Reflecting on that time, she said, “It only worked for those few months because I was in Manchester. I kind of set it up so it wouldn’t last.”
In the end, she wrote to him to end things. “I remember crying with relief and then crying with guilt,” she shared.
Anne felt overwhelmed during that relationship. “Sometimes, I unplugged the phone because he tried to call me every day. I just wanted it to be over.
“I’d sit there waiting for the phone to ring, thinking, ‘Don’t phone, don’t phone, don’t phone!’ Other times, to get over the waiting, I’d call him, but that made him think I wanted to talk. I really just wanted to end it. I didn’t want to talk to him or anyone!”
Anne joked that she hasn’t lacked offers from admirers who seem to like her “Mrs. Trunchbull” Governess outfit.
She said, “I’m sure some people are attracted to the whole look of The Governess. I think there are some who might be interested if they let me.”
Anne said, “I do meet attractive men, but I know it won’t work out. I feel like it’s not fair to them because I won’t treat them well.”
She added, “I always want more space than they can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find someone, but I don’t.”
She thinks it’s better not to date at all and enjoys having men as friends more than women. She recalled a quiz she attended in June, where a woman pointed out they were the only two women in the room, but Anne hadn’t even noticed because she was talking to her male friends.
Anne also shared that this is part of why she never had children, even though she is great with kids. “I did want children, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well.”
About 20 years ago, two kids from her neighborhood used to come over. “We limited their visits to just one hour a day, but they always wanted to stay longer. They were wonderful kids, and we’re now friends on Facebook, but I couldn’t handle that for more than an hour.”
Anne takes her role as godmother to Mark “Beast” Labbett’s eight-year-old son, Lawrence, very seriously.
She said, “Lawrence’s birthday is at the end of November, so I usually send a birthday and Christmas present at the same time—but they are not the same gift. My parents had winter birthdays, and I knew they hated getting just one present for two celebrations.”
Anne joked that one of the gifts she gave Lawrence was a bit inappropriate—a toy crossbow. “So, weaponry,” she laughed. “But lately, I’ve been giving him Minecraft vouchers since he really loves that.”
She also mentioned that she has spent Christmas alone for the past 40 years. That’s why she’s especially happy to be playing the Fairy Godmother in this year’s panto, Cinderella, in Scarborough.
Anne, who was on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out Of Here in 2018, said, “Now that I’m in panto, I can say, ‘Sorry, I’m in Scarborough!’ and that’s my only day off.”
She sees it as a great day off. Even though many people invite her to spend Christmas with them, she prefers not to. “I don’t do Christmas dinner or a tree. When I was a kid, I just remember all the pine needles everywhere!”
Earlier this year, Anne took on another acting role, making a cameo as a neighbor in a film called Exorcising Barry, which is about a man obsessed with a demon.
Anne said that any chance of going to Hollywood is out of the question.
She explained, “America wouldn’t want me because I’m fat. I have a friend who went there for work, and even though she looks amazing, they told her she needed to lose weight. I’m fine with how I am, but they don’t like fat British actresses.”
Despite this, she has had great success in Britain. Talking about The Chase’s recent National Television Award win, she said, “I’m so happy. Bradley Walsh is amazing. It’s been 14 years, and I love it.”
She added, “Other kids used to sing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush. When I was younger, I practiced being interviewed for when I became famous. I don’t know why, but it’s always been my dream.”
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