Our Granddaughter Accused Us of Being Cheap after Getting Our Wedding Present

My husband and I bought our granddaughter a wedding gift from her registry. She reached out and accused us of being cheap after getting the wedding present. Now, she is upset and threatens to cut us off because we didn’t give her the cash gift that we presented to each of our grandkids a day before their wedding.

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I’m in my 70s, a proud grandmother to five amazing grandkids: three women and two men. I adore my grandkids and often show up for them emotionally and financially. Whenever they have celebrations or hard times, they know that they can count on me.

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The youngest of grandkids, Eloise, got married last October. My husband, who is also in his 70s, and I have a tradition for our grandkids. We buy a small gift from the wedding registry, usually the cheapest item, and then, the day before the wedding, we give them a check for $40,000.

We hope they’ll use it for a house, but it’s ultimately their choice. We also ask them to keep it a secret, considering our large family. Until now, everyone has respected this request.

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This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”

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I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”

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In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”

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I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.

Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.

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Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.

Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”

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We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”

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I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.

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Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.

However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”

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She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”

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Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.

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For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.

We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.

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The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.

Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.

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The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.

Fierce dispute between Karen Grassle and Michael Landon during filming for ‘Little House on the Prairie’

Karen Grassle rose to prominence as Caroline Ingalls Wilder in Little House on the Prairie. People enjoyed this series so much that it is still being watched today.

Although most of the performers spoke about the fantastic vibe throughout filming, Karen spoke about a completely different atmosphere from her perspective.Little House is a classic show broadcast in over 100 countries and has never been removed from the airwaves since 1974. Because of their parts in the series, numerous actors have become well-known.Unfortunately, actor Michael Landon died in 1991, yet people remember him when they learn about this series.

Karen Grassle also created this series. She was born in 1942 and pursued an artistic career. After graduating, she travelled to London to study at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts before returning to the United States.

Life put Karen Grassle in the right location at the right moment. When the tryouts for the series were held, Karen was supposed to act on another project, but when she had to go to Los Angeles for that role, she couldn’t get tickets, and her agent called her and offered her a role in the series with Michael.

She later admitted that she was alone for her interview for the role of Caroline Ingalls. She also stated that everyone in the interview was exhausted because they had already cast everyone else. Yet, she was invited to go to the wardrobe after only a few lines.

Karen landed the part and admitted she was terrified of what was to come, but Landon always tried to make everyone on a set laugh and feel good. He was under a lot of stress. Karen determined that her character should be based on her mother’s life experience, which greatly aided her.

Although everyone enjoys filming, as the series grew in popularity, Karen felt she deserved more money because she is one of the main characters. This sparked a violent argument with her coworker Michael Landon. She said that Michael refused to pay her extra money when she asked to renegotiate the contract. This disagreement produced a schism in their relationship.

Karen did not talk publicly about the incident or the break in their friendship at the time, but the two exchanged a polite phone call before the actor died.

Cindy, Michael’s widow, stated that, despite his serious appearance, her husband was very passionate about his work, always came home smiling, and was a good father.

The other actors in Little House on the Prairie always claimed they had a great time on set, and Michael made everyone feel good and vital, no matter how significant or tiny their role was. Dean Butler, who played Landon, also had nothing but positive things to say about Michael and thought he was a true professional. Michael was attempting to make things more straightforward and pleasurable for everyone.

Michael also tried to ensure that the performers could return home in the evening and have dinner with their families. He believed that the key to success was to strike a balance between work and personal life.