Every day, the female body is exposed to more and more judgment from society. Social media feeds are full of unrealistic photos that can really make someone feel uncomfortable in their own skin. For women with postpartum bodies, this topic can be the most sensitive. To support others, this proud mother decided to stop hiding behind filters or pieces of clothing and embrace the flaws that truly make us special.
Most mothers aren’t prepared for the challenges that come after childbirth.
Danisha, a mom of 4, recently started sharing her journey about accepting her body on social media. At first, she was really ashamed and constantly tried to hide her postpartum belly, but with her last baby, she wanted a change.
“I didn’t know that I would have as much loose skin as I do now, and stretch marks. No one ever discussed it, my doctors didn’t discuss it,” the mother explained. “I didn’t know that my body just wouldn’t look the same anymore. But I want to embrace my body, and I’m happy where I’m at.”
Danisha believes a woman’s body creates miracles.
Seeing tons of celebrities and models posing with their pregnant bellies can give us the wrong image. They can make us believe that perfection can exist and that something might be wrong with our own bodies, even lowering our confidence to the point that we forget to love ourselves.
In one of her Instagram posts, she pointed out to other moms that they are loved, saying, “Don’t let society trick you into believing you need to be ’fixed.’ Your body is not wrong, society is!”
Society expects a different image of the female postpartum body.
Women are expected to quickly bounce back to their pre-pregnancy bodies. For many mothers, this can feel like they’re strangers in their own their skin. Fighting against your body means losing the battle in the end, but knowing how to accept it and start loving yourself from all angles is a different type of pure love that can only occur if the mother is 100% ready to do it.
The brutal honesty behind Danisha’s posts makes her even prouder of who she is. “Our body is meant to evolve and change, that is what happens with growth, not everyone’s body will change the same and that’s okay,” she admitted. “My wonderful body carried 4 beautiful blessings, my belly is a reminder of that and signifies growth. It has taken me a long time to accept her, love her, and appreciate her.”
Despite the negative comments that come from everywhere, knowing how to keep your positivity is one of the hardest jobs that people face when they show themselves at their most vulnerable online.
“I have a pouch, I have soft stretchy loose skin. My physical features are not what makes it beautiful, but the fact that my body was able to create life itself for a fourth time. I’m strong as a mother.”
Danisha doesn’t let the negative comments stop her. Showing the raw reality behind a mom’s body is a huge help for other mothers out there as well. “A lot of mamas are unprepared for postpartum.”
It’s a privilege to watch our bodies change as we grow older.
Sometimes, despite all our efforts and hard work to keep our bodies in shape, genetics can get involved and create a different person in the mirror. She explained, “I love it when people tell me that if I had moisturized my skin more then my belly wouldn’t have looked ’this way’ or if I wore a waist trainer I wouldn’t have a pouch and even greater if I dieted or exercised more, then my belly wouldn’t be as ’big.’”
The mother of 4 continued, “The reality is genetics play a big role. My belly is this way because of 4 reasons. I created life 4 times and no oils or creams would have miraculously prevented it. My sagging skin, stretch marks, and other love marks are reminders of bearing my children.”
Every mother is special in her own way and no one deserves to be discriminated against because of their appearance.
“To the mama looking at herself in the mirror: It’s completely normal not to fit into your pre-pregnancy clothes your body outgrew in order to make room for your beautiful blessing. Sizing up is nothing to feel ashamed of,” Danisha declared.
It wasn’t easy, but Danisha started accepting her body.
Understanding how to love stretch marks and accept body changes can be one of the hardest steps that a mom can do. They are a natural response from the body.
“Many would love to have tiger stripes. You can also have them without having children. My tummy was home to 4 of my children, and they love it,” she said.
Beauty comes from both inside and outside.
Regardless of what we look like on the outside, whether we differ in skin color or weight, all people are special in their own way, and our bodies do an amazing job at keeping us alive. In an effort to encourage others around her, this mother points out, “Whether you choose to cover your belly or not, you’re still worthy, still beautiful.”
Here are some similar stories that show us the beauty in every woman’s body.
A Mom of 4 Proudly Documents Her Postpartum Body and Becomes the Dose of Body Positivity We All Need
A Mother Was Told Her Stomach Was “Nasty,” but She Proves How Beautiful Women’s Bodies Really Are
9 Times Ashley Graham Embraced Her Motherhood Journey, From a Postpartum Body to Breastfeeding
8 Celebrity Moms Who Got Honest and Showed Us the Raw Reality of Motherhood
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My Date Deceived Me Into Watching His Children While He Dated Someone Else – He’ll Always Remember My Memorable Retribution
Vanessa believed her romantic prospects were improving when Mike invited her to connect with his children. However, an unexpected message during their meal unveiled a shocking deception. Vanessa learns that Mike has dashed off to enjoy a date with another woman, leaving her to care for his children. Determined to respond, Vanessa crafts a memorable retaliation.
I was nestled on my snug sofa, reflecting on Mike.
Our relationship had begun just weeks earlier, and it was flourishing. Mike’s allure and kindness made me feel genuinely cherished—a sensation I hadn’t experienced in quite some time.
His call that day was filled with enthusiasm. “Vanessa, I’d be delighted if you visited this weekend to meet my children and spend time together,” he proposed.
A flutter of excitement passed through me at the prospect of meeting his children, signaling a serious step in our burgeoning relationship.
Grinning, I responded, “I’d be happy to, Mike. It’s touching that you’d like me to meet them.”
As I sat, emotions of anticipation and apprehension mingled within me. This was my first experience dating someone with children, and I was eager to make a positive impression. Mike’s children were quite young, aged seven and five.
He framed the visit as a chance for “bonding,” underscoring its significance.
Mike and I had connected through shared friends and clicked instantly. At 37, his maturity and kindness put me at ease, while I, at 35, felt we were both seeking something sincere.
I reached for my phone to call my best friend, Sarah. “Sarah, you won’t believe it! Mike has asked me over to meet his children this weekend!”
Sarah’s excitement was palpable. “That’s wonderful, Vanessa! It really means a lot. He must think highly of you.”
“I believe so,” I agreed, a warmth spreading within me. “But I’m a bit anxious. What if they don’t take to me?”
“Just be natural,” Sarah counseled. “You’re wonderful with children, and they’ll recognize that. Everything will be alright.”
Reassured by Sarah’s words, I felt a boost of confidence. Mike appreciated me for who I was, and hopefully, his children would as well.
I spent the evening contemplating the weekend ahead, excited about deepening my relationship with Mike and his kids, ready for whatever the future held.
Arriving at Mike’s, I admired the effort he had put into preparing dinner.
The dining room was invitingly arranged, with a beautifully set table and soft lighting that added a warm ambiance.
Mike welcomed me with a smile, and I could see Lily and Ben shyly peeking from behind him. “Hi, Vanessa! Come on in. I’d like you to meet Lily and Ben,” he introduced.
I waved at the children, smiling. “Hello, Lily. Hello, Ben. It’s wonderful to meet you!”
The children giggled, and Lily responded timidly. We gathered at the table, and although I was a bit nervous, the atmosphere quickly became comfortable.
The aroma of delicious food filled the air, and the children were endearing. As we dined, our conversation was lively and laughter-filled, easing any initial tension.
Midway through the meal, Mike’s phone interrupted us.
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