Adotamos um menino de 3 anos – Quando meu marido foi dar banho nele pela primeira vez, ele gritou: “Temos que devolvê-lo!”

Depois de anos de infertilidade, adotamos Sam, um doce menino de 3 anos com olhos azuis-oceanos. Mas quando meu marido foi dar banho em Sam, ele saiu correndo, gritando: “Temos que devolvê-lo!” Seu pânico não fez sentido até que eu vi a marca distintiva no pé de Sam.

Nunca imaginei que trazer para casa nosso filho adotivo desfaria o tecido do meu casamento. Mas, olhando para trás agora, percebo que alguns presentes vêm embrulhados em mágoa, e às vezes o universo tem um senso distorcido de tempo.

Uma mulher atenciosa | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher atenciosa | Fonte: Midjourney

“Você está nervoso?”, perguntei a Mark enquanto dirigíamos para a agência.

Minhas mãos se agitavam com o pequeno suéter azul que eu tinha comprado para Sam, nosso futuro filho. O tecido era impossivelmente macio contra meus dedos, e imaginei seus pequenos ombros preenchendo-o.

“Eu? Não”, respondeu Mark, mas seus nós dos dedos estavam brancos contra o volante. “Só estou pronto para começar o show na estrada. O trânsito está me deixando ansioso.”

Um homem dirigindo um carro | Fonte: Pexels

Um homem dirigindo um carro | Fonte: Pexels

Ele tamborilou os dedos no painel, um tique nervoso que eu vinha notando com mais frequência ultimamente.

“Você verificou a cadeirinha três vezes”, ele acrescentou com uma risada forçada. “Tenho certeza de que você é o nervoso.”

“Claro que sim!” Alisei o suéter novamente. “Esperamos tanto tempo por isso.”

O processo de adoção foi exaustivo, conduzido principalmente por mim enquanto Mark se concentrava na expansão do seu negócio.

Uma mulher olhando pensativamente pela janela do carro | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher olhando pensativamente pela janela do carro | Fonte: Midjourney

A papelada sem fim, estudos em casa e entrevistas consumiram minha vida por meses enquanto eu procurava listas de agências para uma criança. Inicialmente, tínhamos planejado adotar uma criança, mas as listas de espera se estendiam infinitamente, então comecei a expandir nossas opções.

Foi assim que encontrei a foto de Sam — um menino de três anos com olhos como o céu de verão e um sorriso capaz de derreter geleiras.

Sua mãe o havia abandonado, e algo naqueles olhos falava diretamente ao meu coração. Talvez fosse a pitada de tristeza por trás de seu sorriso, ou talvez fosse o destino.

Um garotinho com olhos azuis marcantes | Fonte: Midjourney

Um garotinho com olhos azuis marcantes | Fonte: Midjourney

“Olhe para esse rapazinho”, eu disse a Mark uma noite, mostrando a ele a foto no meu tablet. O brilho azul iluminou seu rosto enquanto ele a estudava.

Ele sorriu tão suavemente que eu sabia que ele queria esse garoto tanto quanto eu. “Ele parece um ótimo garoto. Esses olhos são outra coisa.”

“Mas conseguiríamos lidar com uma criança pequena?”

“Claro que podemos! Não importa a idade da criança, eu sei que você será uma ótima mãe.” Ele apertou meu ombro enquanto eu olhava para a foto.

Uma mulher olhando para seu tablet | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher olhando para seu tablet | Fonte: Midjourney

Concluímos o processo de inscrição e, depois do que pareceu uma eternidade, fomos até a agência para trazer Sam para casa. A assistente social, Sra. Chen, nos levou a uma pequena sala de jogos onde Sam estava sentado construindo uma torre de blocos.

“Sam”, ela disse suavemente, “lembra do casal simpático de quem falamos? Eles estão aqui.”

Ajoelhei-me ao lado dele, meu coração trovejando. “Oi, Sam. Adorei sua torre. Posso ajudar?”

Ele me estudou por um longo momento, assentiu e me entregou um bloco vermelho. Aquele simples gesto pareceu o começo de tudo.

Uma criança brincando com blocos de brinquedo | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma criança brincando com blocos de brinquedo | Fonte: Midjourney

A viagem para casa foi tranquila. Sam segurava um elefante de pelúcia que havíamos trazido para ele, ocasionalmente fazendo pequenos sons de trombeta que faziam Mark rir. Eu ficava olhando para ele na cadeirinha do carro, mal acreditando que ele era real.

Em casa, comecei a desempacotar os poucos pertences de Sam. Sua pequena mochila parecia impossivelmente leve para conter o mundo inteiro de uma criança.

“Eu posso dar banho nele”, Mark ofereceu, da porta. “Dar a você uma chance de arrumar o quarto dele exatamente como você quer.”

Um homem parado na porta | Fonte: Midjourney

Um homem parado na porta | Fonte: Midjourney

“Ótima ideia!”, eu sorri, pensando em quão maravilhoso era que Mark quisesse criar um vínculo imediatamente. “Não se esqueça dos brinquedos de banho que comprei para ele.”

Eles desapareceram pelo corredor, e eu cantarolei enquanto arrumava as roupas de Sam em sua nova cômoda. Cada pequena meia e camiseta faziam isso parecer mais real. A paz durou exatamente quarenta e sete segundos.

“TEMOS QUE DEVOLVÊ-LO!”

O grito de Mark me atingiu como um golpe físico.

Uma mulher olhando por cima do ombro | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher olhando por cima do ombro | Fonte: Midjourney

Ele saiu do banheiro enquanto eu corria para o corredor. O rosto de Mark estava branco como um fantasma.

“O que você quer dizer com devolvê-lo?” Eu me esforcei para manter minha voz firme, segurando o batente da porta. “Nós acabamos de adotá-lo! Ele não é um suéter da Target!”

Mark andava de um lado para o outro no corredor, passando as mãos pelos cabelos, a respiração entrecortada. “Acabei de perceber… que não posso fazer isso. Não posso tratá-lo como se fosse meu. Isso foi um erro.”

“Por que você diz isso?” Minha voz falhou como gelo fino.

Uma mulher confusa | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher confusa | Fonte: Midjourney

“Você estava animado há poucas horas! Você estava fazendo barulhos de elefante com ele no carro!”

“Não sei; simplesmente me ocorreu. Não consigo criar um vínculo com ele.” Ele não me olhava nos olhos, encarando em vez disso um ponto em algum lugar sobre meu ombro. Suas mãos tremiam.

“Você está sendo cruel!”, gritei, passando por ele e entrando no banheiro.

Sam sentou-se na banheira parecendo pequeno e confuso, e ainda usando tudo, exceto suas meias e sapatos. Ele segurou seu elefante firmemente contra seu peito.

Um menino segurando um elefante de pelúcia | Fonte: Midjourney

Um menino segurando um elefante de pelúcia | Fonte: Midjourney

“Ei, amigo”, eu disse, forçando a alegria na minha voz enquanto meu mundo desmoronava. “Vamos te limpar, ok? O Sr. Elefante também quer um banho?”

Sam balançou a cabeça. “Ele tem medo de água.”

“Está tudo bem. Ele pode assistir daqui.” Coloquei o brinquedo em segurança no balcão. “Braços para cima!”

Enquanto ajudava Sam a se despir, notei algo que parou meu coração.

Uma mulher atordoada | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher atordoada | Fonte: Midjourney

Sam tinha uma marca de nascença distinta no pé esquerdo. Eu já tinha visto essa marca exata antes, no pé de Mark, durante incontáveis ​​dias de verão na piscina. A mesma curva única, o mesmo posicionamento.

Minhas mãos tremiam enquanto eu dava banho em Sam, e minha mente acelerava.

“Você tem bolhas mágicas”, disse Sam, cutucando a espuma que eu mal havia notado adicionada à água.

“São bolhas muito especiais”, murmurei, observando-o brincar. Seu sorriso, que parecia tão unicamente seu, agora continha ecos do do meu marido.

Um banho de espuma | Fonte: Pexels

Um banho de espuma | Fonte: Pexels

Naquela noite, depois de colocar Sam em sua nova cama, confrontei Mark em nosso quarto. A distância entre nós no colchão king-size parecia infinita.

“A marca de nascença no pé dele é idêntica à sua.”

Mark congelou no ato de remover seu relógio, então forçou uma risada que soou como vidro quebrando. “Pura coincidência. Muitas pessoas têm marcas de nascença.”

“Quero que você faça um teste de DNA.”

Uma mulher com os braços cruzados | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher com os braços cruzados | Fonte: Midjourney

“Não seja ridícula”, ele retrucou, virando-se. “Você está deixando sua imaginação correr solta. Foi um dia estressante.”

Mas a reação dele me disse tudo. No dia seguinte, enquanto Mark estava no trabalho, peguei alguns fios de cabelo da escova dele e os enviei para teste, junto com um cotonete que tirei da bochecha de Sam durante a escovação dos dentes. Eu disse a ele que estávamos verificando se havia cáries.

A espera foi excruciante. Mark ficou cada vez mais distante, passando mais tempo no escritório. Enquanto isso, Sam e eu ficamos mais próximos.

Uma mulher brincando com uma criança | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher brincando com uma criança | Fonte: Midjourney

Em poucos dias, ele começou a me chamar de “mamãe” e, cada vez que o fazia, meu coração se enchia de amor, mesmo doendo de incerteza.

Desenvolvemos uma rotina de panquecas matinais, histórias de ninar e caminhadas à tarde no parque, onde ele coletava “tesouros” (folhas e pedras interessantes) para o peitoril da janela.

Quando os resultados chegaram duas semanas depois, eles confirmaram o que eu suspeitava. Mark era o pai biológico de Sam. Sentei-me à mesa da cozinha, olhando para o papel até as palavras ficarem borradas, ouvindo a risada de Sam flutuar do quintal onde ele brincava com sua nova varinha de bolhas.

Uma mulher chocada | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher chocada | Fonte: Midjourney

“Foi uma noite”, Mark finalmente confessou quando o confrontei com os resultados. “Eu estava bêbado, em uma conferência. Eu nunca soube… Eu nunca pensei…” Ele estendeu a mão para mim, seu rosto se contraindo. “Por favor, podemos resolver isso. Eu farei melhor.”

Dei um passo para trás, minha voz fria como gelo. “Você soube no momento em que viu aquela marca de nascença. É por isso que entrou em pânico.”

“Sinto muito”, ele sussurrou, afundando-se em uma cadeira da cozinha. “Quando o vi no banho, tudo voltou rapidamente. Aquela mulher… nunca consegui o nome dela. Fiquei envergonhado, tentei esquecer…”

Um homem emocional | Fonte: Midjourney

Um homem emocional | Fonte: Midjourney

“Um acidente há quatro anos, enquanto eu estava passando por tratamentos de fertilidade? Chorando todo mês quando eles falharam?” Cada pergunta parecia vidro na minha garganta.

Na manhã seguinte, visitei uma advogada, uma mulher de olhos afiados chamada Janet, que ouviu sem julgamento. Ela confirmou o que eu esperava — ser a mãe adotiva legal de Sam me deu direitos parentais. A paternidade previamente desconhecida de Mark não lhe garantiu automaticamente a custódia.

“Estou pedindo o divórcio”, eu disse a Mark naquela noite depois que Sam dormiu. “E estou buscando a custódia total de Sam.”

Uma mulher determinada | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher determinada | Fonte: Midjourney

“Amanda, por favor—”

“A mãe dele já o abandonou e você estava pronto para fazer o mesmo”, interrompi. “Não vou deixar isso acontecer.”

Seu rosto se contraiu. “Eu te amo.”

“Não o suficiente para confessar. Parece-me que você se amava mais.”

Mark não lutou contra isso, então o processo de divórcio foi rápido. Sam se adaptou melhor do que eu esperava, embora às vezes ele perguntasse por que o papai não morava mais conosco.

Um menino em sua cama | Fonte: Midjourney

Um menino em sua cama | Fonte: Midjourney

“Às vezes, os adultos cometem erros”, eu dizia a ele, acariciando seu cabelo. “Mas isso não significa que eles não te amam.” Era a verdade mais gentil que eu poderia oferecer.

Anos se passaram desde então, e Sam se tornou um jovem notável. Mark envia cartões de aniversário e e-mails ocasionais, mas mantém distância — escolha dele, não minha.

Às vezes as pessoas perguntam se eu me arrependo de não ter ido embora quando descobri a verdade. Eu sempre balanço a cabeça.

Uma mulher abraçando seu filho | Fonte: Midjourney

Uma mulher abraçando seu filho | Fonte: Midjourney

Sam não era mais apenas uma criança adotada; ele era meu filho, biologia e traição que se danem. O amor nem sempre é simples, mas é sempre uma escolha. Jurei nunca desistir dele, exceto para sua futura noiva, é claro.

Aqui vai outra história: apesar de ser uma mãe solteira batalhadora, tive que ajudar a senhora idosa que encontrei no frio na véspera de Natal. Nunca imaginei que meu simples ato de gentileza levaria a um misterioso SUV de luxo na minha porta — ou curaria meu coração partido. Clique aqui para ler mais.

Este trabalho é inspirado em eventos e pessoas reais, mas foi ficcionalizado para fins criativos. Nomes, personagens e detalhes foram alterados para proteger a privacidade e melhorar a narrativa. Qualquer semelhança com pessoas reais, vivas ou mortas, ou eventos reais é mera coincidência e não intencional do autor.

O autor e a editora não fazem nenhuma reivindicação quanto à precisão dos eventos ou à representação dos personagens e não são responsáveis ​​por nenhuma interpretação errônea. Esta história é fornecida “como está”, e quaisquer opiniões expressas são as dos personagens e não refletem as opiniões do autor ou da editora.

Carly Simon finally says who “You’re So Vain” is written about, confirms what we knew all along

With two successful albums in the span of only nine months, Simon soon found herself solidified as a famous and immensely popular singer/songwriter. In 1971, she received a Grammy Award for Best New Artist of the Year, and additionally one nomination in the “Best Pop Female Vocalist” category.

Carly Simon – “You’re So Vain”

In November of 1972, Carly Simon released her third album, and it was intended to be her big commercial breakthrough. No Secrets spent five weeks at No. 1 on the US Billboard 200 chart and quickly achieved gold status.

It was a great album that spread all over the world, spending weeks and weeks on the top of the charts in countries like Norway, Australia and Canada. But it was one song in particular – the third on the album – that would change her life forever.

You’re So Vain was the song that most people reference when talking of Carly Simon. It was a smash-hit right away, and throughout the years, it’s grown even bigger and bigger.

The song is currently ranked at No. 92 on Billboard‘s Greatest Songs of All-Time list. In 2014, it was voted as number as no 216 when Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA) asked the question of the best songs of the century. That same year, it was crowned as the ultimate song of the 1970’s by the UK Official Charts Company.

Carly Simon No Secrets

The album was recorded at the famous Trident Studios in London, England, where bands like The Beatles recorded The White Album and David Bowie made Space Oddity.

You’re So Vain – recording

You’re So Vain also held plenty of secrets when it was released, and for many years it was the subject of one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. But we’ll get to that soon.

Firstly, Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger is uncredited on the song, even though he sings on the chorus.

At the time of the recording, several other famous artists were at the Trident Studios, and the likes of Paul McCartney, Linda McCartney, legendary record producer George Martin, and Harry Nilsson watched her record. Actually, McCartney himself pitched in to guest star with background vocals.

And then there was Mick Jagger. Carly Simon wrote in her memoir that he actually invited himself to the recording. Jagger had pursued her in London and called Trident Studios once he understood she was there.

“It was shortly after midnight. Mick and I, we were close together – the same height, same coloring, same lips,” Simon writes.

“I felt as if I was trying to stay within a pink gravity that was starting to loosen its silky grip on me. I was thrilled by the proximity, remembering all the times I had spent imitating him in front of my closet mirror.”

Carly SImon
Wikipedia

As mentioned, You’re So Vain was a rock ‘n’ roll mystery. It’s always fun to know the background story of a song, wether its about a certain event, a person, or if that one line is a reference for something special.

You’re So Vain – who is it about?

In Carly Simon’s case, no one knew who You’re So Vain was about.

Some guessed – and had conspiracy theories – that the song was about Mick Jagger. Sure, there was a pretty clear connection between the two, especially since he actually sang on the record.

But no, it turns out the rumours were wrong. The truth is that You’re So Vain – at least the second verse – is about one-time Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty, whom she dated briefly in the early 1970’s.

“You had me several years ago when I was still quite naive.
Well you said that we made such a pretty pair.

And that you would never leave.
But you gave away the things you loved and one of them was me.
I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee.

Clouds in my coffee”.

In her memoir, Carly revealed that the song was also about two other people, but she won’t reveal who they were.

“I don’t think so,” she told People. “At least until they know it’s about them.”

“Probably, if we were sitting over at dinner and I said: ‘remember that time you walked into the party and…’ I don’t know if I’ll do it. I never thought I would admit that it was more than one person.”

Carly Simon
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Simon dated Warren Beatty for a short while in the ’70s, and described him as a “glorious specimen” who put all other men “to shame, if looks and charm were what you were after.”

Carly Simon – James Taylor

So what about Carly Simon’s love life besides Warren? Well, she’s been married once, to singer/songwriter James Taylor.

They had met briefly as children, and then again in her dressing room in 1971. She described the latter meeting in her book. Taylor was there together with his then-girlfriend Joni Mitchell.

“He was barefoot, long-legged, long-footed – and is knees were bent,” she wrote in her memoir.

”He wore dark red, loose, wide-wale corduroys and a long-sleeved Henley with one button open, his right hand clutching a self-rule cigarette. His hair, simultaneously shiny and disheveled, fell evenly on both sides of his head, and he wore a scruffy, understated mustache, the kind so fashionable back in the yearly 1970s. He seemed both kempt and unkempt. Even sprawled out on the floor, everything about him communicated that he was, in fact, the center of something – the core of an apple, the center of a note.”

James Taylor
Wikipedia

Carly Simon and James Taylor started dating later the same year and tied the knot in November of 1972. 11 years later, the couple divorced, but it wasn’t just because they didn’t have the same love for each other anymore.

Carly Simon – children

Simon explained that it mostly had to do with drugs. They had two children, now grown up and working in the music business. Daughter Sally Taylor is 46 years old and Ben Taylor’s 43.

Her memoir Boys in the Trees pretty much ends with her marriage to James Taylor. Her son hasn’t read the book. But her daughter has.

“I think he would feel more conflicted than Sally did,” Simon told ABC in 2016. “I had told her almost everything, but when she read it all together, she was just so amazed. She said, ‘I’m so proud of you for being able to tell it like it is for you.’”

Carly Simon
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Carly Simon was later engaged to musician Russ Kunkel in 1985. She married writer James Hart in December 1987, but the couple divorced in 2007.

Carly Simon, now 75 years of age, continued making music for many years to come. And, as a by-product, continued to win several awards for her trophy cabinet.

Her 1977 worldwide hit Nobody Does It Better was the theme song of the Bond movie The Spy Who Loved Me. It’s considered by many to be one of the greatest Bond anthems of all time.

Hall of Fame entry

In 1988, she released the song Let The River Run, first featured in the 1988 movie Working Girl. With the song, she became the first singer ever to win three major awards for a single track: an Academy Award, a Grammy and a Golden Globe.

Six years later, in 1994, Carly was inducted into the Songwriters Hall of Fame.

Carly Simon lived a happy life during the 1960s and 1970s. She sure is a legendary singer with a legacy that will live on forever.

Thank you for all the wonderful music, Carly, and we hope to hear more in the future.

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When Carly Simon wrote the song You’re So Vain, her career changed forever, and yet the song remains one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. Who is the person Simon is singing about?

Well, Carly herself has revealed who the classic song is about.

The 1970’s sure was a time for great music. During the 1960’s, bands like The Beatles had conquered the world, and now it was time for the likes of Bob Dylan and others to take over.

Carly Simon – singer/songwriter

One of those who did just that was Carly Simon. The wonderful singer/songwriter became one of the most popular artists when her career began to grow in the early 1970’s.

We’ve all heard You’re so Vain and various other classics from the New Yorker. But what about her life? And who was You’re so Vain actually about? This is the story of the wonderful Carly Simon.

Carly Simon was born on June 25, 1945, in New York City, the youngest daughter of an upper-class New York family. Her father Richard Simon was the co-founder of the Simon & Schuster publishing company.

Carly Simon – childhood

Now, Carly’s childhood wasn’t exactly perfect. As a third daughter, she often felt inadequate. Did her parents really want her?

“After two daughters he’d been counting on a son, a male successor to be named Carl. When I was born, he and Mommy simply added a y to the word, like an accusing chromosome: Carly,” she said.

When she was just 7 or 8 years old, Carly experienced a string of disturbing sexual encounters with a teenage boy.

“I didn’t realize that I was being used,” she said in an interview with USA Today. “I thought of myself as being in love with him. I’m sure a lot of girls go through the same thing.”

As a young girl, Carly got to see what the music industry was all about. But it would be some time before she would become the sensation she was.

Simon split her time between her family’s townhouse in Greenwich Village, New York and a wonderful estate in Stamford, Connecticut. The estate in Stamford saw the young girl surrounded by celebrities like Albert Einstein and Eleanor Roosevelt.

Carly Simon
Youtube/Carly Simon Music

The Simon family were also good friends of legendary baseball player Jackie Robinson, who soon would take Carly under his wing. Jackie Robinson and his family lived in the Stamford house while their own home was under construction.

Befriended Jackie Robinson

She got to sit in the dugout at the old Ebbets Field in Brooklyn – home of the then-Brooklyn Dodgers. Soon, she became the unofficial mascot of the team.

“Jackie even taught me how to bat lefty, though it never took”, Simon wrote in her memoir Boys in the Trees (2015).

“He always had the cutest look around the side of his mouth, as if he were thinking about what he was about to say before he said it.”

However, the family would go through a tragedy. Simon’s father was strong-armed out of his own company, and died in 1960, just before his daughter’s 16th birthday.

For her part, Carly showed an early interest in music. She started singing together with brother Joey – who later became a successful writer, writing the music for the Broadway show The Secret Garden – but later, it was her and her sister who would go on to pursue a career in the business.

As Carly wrote on her website, she and sister Lucy taught themselves three chords on the guitar and hitch-hiked up to Provincetown, MA in the summer of 1964.

Carly Simon
Youtube/Carly Simon

The Simon Sisters – as they called themselves – sang at a local bar called The Moors, with a repertoar consisting of folk music, as well as some of their own songs.

Touring with sister Lucy

Carly Simon and Lucy were eventually signed to Kapp Records and played a couple of clubs in Greenwich Village, opening for early comedians Woody Allen and Dick Cavett, among others, and even played in the UK.
In her memoir, Simon recalls the boat trip across the Atlantic heading home.

They were on the same boat as Sean Connery, and Carly and her sister ended up spending the trip with the actor. At that point, of course, no one could realize or even imagine that Carly would write a Bond theme song 12 years later.

The sister duo released three albums in the 1960s before Lucy left to get married.

Carly Simon
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Carly Simon was on her own, but still determined to forge a career in the music industry. However, her career had a slow start. She started working as a summer-camp counselor and as a secretary on a TV show

Carly’s career

In February of 1971, Simon released her debut album Carly Simon. The song That’s the Way I’ve Always Heard It Should Be – an anti-marriage-song – became her first hit, reaching No. 10 on the Billboard Hot 100 list.

In October, later the same year, Simon released her second album, Anticipation. By now, things had really started to blow up. Her album went gold in two years and contained the smash hit Anticipation, which peaked at No. 13 on the Billboard pop singles chart and also at No. 3 on the Billboard Adult Contemporary chart in the United States.

According to herself, Simon wrote the song in just 15 minutes while waiting for Cat Stevens at her place, whom she was dating at the time and had made dinner for. When he arrived, the song was ready, but the date only lasted a short while.

“He gave me whispers and drawings of Blake poems,” Carly Simon said. “He told me about his childhood, his mixed Greek and Swedish parents, and we made a connection that has lasted.”

With two successful albums in the span of only nine months, Simon soon found herself solidified as a famous and immensely popular singer/songwriter. In 1971, she received a Grammy Award for Best New Artist of the Year, and additionally one nomination in the “Best Pop Female Vocalist” category.

Carly Simon – “You’re So Vain”

In November of 1972, Carly Simon released her third album, and it was intended to be her big commercial breakthrough. No Secrets spent five weeks at No. 1 on the US Billboard 200 chart and quickly achieved gold status.

It was a great album that spread all over the world, spending weeks and weeks on the top of the charts in countries like Norway, Australia and Canada. But it was one song in particular – the third on the album – that would change her life forever.

You’re So Vain was the song that most people reference when talking of Carly Simon. It was a smash-hit right away, and throughout the years, it’s grown even bigger and bigger.

The song is currently ranked at No. 92 on Billboard‘s Greatest Songs of All-Time list. In 2014, it was voted as number as no 216 when Recording Industry Association of America (RIAA) asked the question of the best songs of the century. That same year, it was crowned as the ultimate song of the 1970’s by the UK Official Charts Company.

Carly Simon No Secrets

The album was recorded at the famous Trident Studios in London, England, where bands like The Beatles recorded The White Album and David Bowie made Space Oddity.

You’re So Vain – recording

You’re So Vain also held plenty of secrets when it was released, and for many years it was the subject of one of rock ‘n’ roll’s biggest mysteries. But we’ll get to that soon.

Firstly, Rolling Stones frontman Mick Jagger is uncredited on the song, even though he sings on the chorus.

At the time of the recording, several other famous artists were at the Trident Studios, and the likes of Paul McCartney, Linda McCartney, legendary record producer George Martin, and Harry Nilsson watched her record. Actually, McCartney himself pitched in to guest star with background vocals.

And then there was Mick Jagger. Carly Simon wrote in her memoir that he actually invited himself to the recording. Jagger had pursued her in London and called Trident Studios once he understood she was there.

“It was shortly after midnight. Mick and I, we were close together – the same height, same coloring, same lips,” Simon writes.

“I felt as if I was trying to stay within a pink gravity that was starting to loosen its silky grip on me. I was thrilled by the proximity, remembering all the times I had spent imitating him in front of my closet mirror.”

Carly SImon
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As mentioned, You’re So Vain was a rock ‘n’ roll mystery. It’s always fun to know the background story of a song, wether its about a certain event, a person, or if that one line is a reference for something special.

You’re So Vain – who is it about?

In Carly Simon’s case, no one knew who You’re So Vain was about.

Some guessed – and had conspiracy theories – that the song was about Mick Jagger. Sure, there was a pretty clear connection between the two, especially since he actually sang on the record.

But no, it turns out the rumours were wrong. The truth is that You’re So Vain – at least the second verse – is about one-time Hollywood lothario Warren Beatty, whom she dated briefly in the early 1970’s.

“You had me several years ago when I was still quite naive.
Well you said that we made such a pretty pair.

And that you would never leave.
But you gave away the things you loved and one of them was me.
I had some dreams, they were clouds in my coffee.

Clouds in my coffee”.

In her memoir, Carly revealed that the song was also about two other people, but she won’t reveal who they were.

“I don’t think so,” she told People. “At least until they know it’s about them.”

“Probably, if we were sitting over at dinner and I said: ‘remember that time you walked into the party and…’ I don’t know if I’ll do it. I never thought I would admit that it was more than one person.”

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Simon dated Warren Beatty for a short while in the ’70s, and described him as a “glorious specimen” who put all other men “to shame, if looks and charm were what you were after.”

Carly Simon – James Taylor

So what about Carly Simon’s love life besides Warren? Well, she’s been married once, to singer/songwriter James Taylor.

They had met briefly as children, and then again in her dressing room in 1971. She described the latter meeting in her book. Taylor was there together with his then-girlfriend Joni Mitchell.

“He was barefoot, long-legged, long-footed – and is knees were bent,” she wrote in her memoir.

”He wore dark red, loose, wide-wale corduroys and a long-sleeved Henley with one button open, his right hand clutching a self-rule cigarette. His hair, simultaneously shiny and disheveled, fell evenly on both sides of his head, and he wore a scruffy, understated mustache, the kind so fashionable back in the yearly 1970s. He seemed both kempt and unkempt. Even sprawled out on the floor, everything about him communicated that he was, in fact, the center of something – the core of an apple, the center of a note.”

James Taylor
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Carly Simon and James Taylor started dating later the same year and tied the knot in November of 1972. 11 years later, the couple divorced, but it wasn’t just because they didn’t have the same love for each other anymore.

Carly Simon – children

Simon explained that it mostly had to do with drugs. They had two children, now grown up and working in the music business. Daughter Sally Taylor is 46 years old and Ben Taylor’s 43.

Her memoir Boys in the Trees pretty much ends with her marriage to James Taylor. Her son hasn’t read the book. But her daughter has.

“I think he would feel more conflicted than Sally did,” Simon told ABC in 2016. “I had told her almost everything, but when she read it all together, she was just so amazed. She said, ‘I’m so proud of you for being able to tell it like it is for you.’”

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Carly Simon was later engaged to musician Russ Kunkel in 1985. She married writer James Hart in December 1987, but the couple divorced in 2007.

Carly Simon, now 75 years of age, continued making music for many years to come. And, as a by-product, continued to win several awards for her trophy cabinet.

Her 1977 worldwide hit Nobody Does It Better was the theme song of the Bond movie The Spy Who Loved Me. It’s considered by many to be one of the greatest Bond anthems of all time.

Hall of Fame entry

In 1988, she released the song Let The River Run, first featured in the 1988 movie Working Girl. With the song, she became the first singer ever to win three major awards for a single track: an Academy Award, a Grammy and a Golden Globe.

Six years later, in 1994, Carly was inducted into the Songwriters Hall of Fame.

Carly Simon lived a happy life during the 1960s and 1970s. She sure is a legendary singer with a legacy that will live on forever.

Thank you for all the wonderful music, Carly, and we hope to hear more in the future.

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