All My Life My Father Blamed Me for My Mother’s Passing, Then He Gets Taught a Lesson – Story of the Day

I grew up believing that my father blamed me for my mother’s death but the truth was heartbreaking.

I never knew my mother, and my father never spoke about her. All I knew was that she had been very beautiful, because of the picture that hung on my father’s study wall, and that she had died very young.

My father was a sad man, a quiet and distant man. I wanted him to notice me, and to love me, but he never did. He rarely spoke to me beyond the perfunctory hello and goodbye, good morning and goodnight. I would have given anything for him to sweep me into his arms and tell me he loved me.

The shadow of my mother's death followed me my whole life | Source: Shutterstock.com

The shadow of my mother’s death followed me my whole life | Source: Shutterstock.com

This strange and strained relationship with my father continued until I was 18, and by then I was a sad and lonely young woman who believed my father hated me. If my father didn’t love me, who would?

But the answer to all my questions was about to be delivered in the most painful and cruel way. My father was hosting a party for his business associates, and among them was a woman whom I knew slightly.

If you don’t leave the past behind you, you deny yourself a future.

I had the feeling that she and my father had a past together — or at least that she wished they did. She greeted me and we started chatting — inconsequential talk about nothing special — and my father walked by.

I gave him my best smile, but he immediately glanced away. The woman saw it all. “Do you know why?” she asked.

I grew up feeling that my father hated me | Source: Unsplash

I grew up feeling that my father hated me | Source: Unsplash

“Why what?” I asked, confused.

“Why he hates you,” she said.

“My father doesn’t hate me!” I exclaimed. “He’s just not a very demonstrative man.”

“So you don’t know…” she smiled. It was the ugliest smile I’d ever seen. I was about to walk away when she said, “He believes you killed your mother, Karen.”

One day at a party someone told me the truth | Source: Unsplash

One day at a party someone told me the truth | Source: Unsplash

I stopped in my tracks. “What?” I gasped.

“Your mother died giving birth to you, surely you know that?” she said.

“No…” I answered. “No, I didn’t know.” I turned my back on her and went looking for my grandmother, my father’s mother, the woman who’d raised me and never told me about my mother’s death.

“How did my mother die?” I asked her angrily. “Was it in childbirth?”

My mother had died in childbirth | Source: Pexels

My mother had died in childbirth | Source: Pexels

My grandmother shook her head. “Please Karen, your father asked me never to speak of this with you.”

“I have the right to know about my own mother!” I cried. “I have the right to know why my father hates me!”

Then a quiet angry voice behind me said, “I don’t hate you, Karen, but your mother’s death is none of your business:”

I turned to face my father. “My mother’s death is none of my business? You’re wrong! I killed her, didn’t I? That’s what you think each time you look at me!”

My father blamed me for her death | Source: Unsplash

My father blamed me for her death | Source: Unsplash

The expression in his eyes sent me running out of the door. I got into my car and drove aimlessly, tears running down my face. In my distress, I didn’t see the oncoming car changing lanes until it was too late.

I woke up in the hospital linked to a beeping machine, with a dull promise of pain twinging through my whole body. Sitting by my side and holding my hand was my father.

“Karen,” he said softly, “Thank God you’re alright!”

“Daddy…” I whispered, “you’re here!”

Tears came into his eyes. “Of course I’m here. I don’t hate you, Karen. I love you. And I don’t blame you for your mother’s death, I blame myself. When your mom and I married we were very poor.

“All we had were dreams and our love for each other. Then she fell pregnant and I took on a second job. I knew we’d need the money when you came along. I was working 16-hour days and she spent a lot of time alone.

“So one day when I came home she wasn’t there. A neighbor had taken her to the hospital. When I got there it was all over. Your mother had died, and I hadn’t been there for her.

The accident nearly cost me my life | Source: Pexels

The accident nearly cost me my life | Source: Pexels

“I didn’t blame you, Karen, I blamed myself. I was determined I wasn’t going to fail you the way I’d failed her, so I threw myself into my work, and I became a rich man.

“Daddy, how could you blame yourself?” I asked. “There was nothing you could have done!”

“I could have been there, holding her hand the way I’m holding yours now,” he said.

“But daddy…” I hesitated, “you were always so angry with me, so cold. You ran away from me.”

My father and I were reconciled | Source: Unsplash

My father and I were reconciled | Source: Unsplash

“Karen, you look just like your mother, and each time I looked at you, my heart was torn apart by grief and guilt. It took nearly losing you to make me realize what I’d done. I love you.”

For the first time in my life, my father put his arms around me and showed me that he loved me. It was a new beginning for both of us, and I like to believe my mother was smiling down from heaven.

What can we learn from this story?

  • If you don’t leave the past behind you, you deny yourself a future. Karen’s father was so lost in his pain that he nearly lost the opportunity to have a wonderful relationship with his daughter.
  • The truth can heal old wounds and open the way to a new beginning. It was only after Karen and her father spoke about their estrangement that they could move past their misunderstandings.

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Heartbreaking news about actress Sofia Vergara confirms what we all feared.

Tragic information regarding actress Sofia Vergara validates our collective fears.
The star of Modern Family Sofia Vergara recently celebrated her 51st birthday. While her fans were thrilled for her and the fun she had with her closest friends, they couldn’t help but notice that her husband Joe Manganiello wasn’t in the pictures. Their suspicions about his absence increased when the actress wrote, “When life gives u lemons u come to Italy to squeeze them,” as a caption for one of the posts.

With a blurry picture of the couple and the remark, “¡¡¡Feliz Cumpleaños Sofía!!!”—which many branded “cold”—Jose did wish his wife a very happy birthday.

When they announced they were divorcing after almost eight years, it tragically verified the rumors that their relationship wasn’t at its finest.
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In November 2015, Sofia and Joe exchanged vows in a grandiose wedding on Palm Beach. Along with Manganiello’s True Blood co-stars Anna Paquin and Stephen Moyer, the 400 guests on their guest list included Vergara’s co-stars from Modern Family, Ariel Winter, Ed O’Neill, Eric Stonestreet, Jesse Tyler Ferguson, Julie Bowen, Sarah Hyland, and Ty Burrell. Reese Witherspoon and Channing Tatum were among the other A-list celebrities in attendance.

In 2014, when she was engaged to businessman Nick Loeb, they had their first meeting at a White House Correspondent Association dinner. After a few weeks, she ended her relationship with Nick and became involved with Joe after he requested for her number.

In reference to their encounter, Joe remarked, “I knew pretty quickly that I could trust her, and she knew pretty quickly that she could trust me,” in an interview from 2020. Furthermore, we are both the types of individuals that can put the needs of another person above our own. “I could prioritize her desires over mine, no matter what they were,” he continued. “She could do the same.” You never let go of it once you have it.

In a heartbreaking statement to PageSix on Monday, the pair revealed their intention to split, stating, “We have made the difficult decision to divorce.”

In their statement, they said, “As two people who genuinely love and care for one another, we kindly request respect of our privacy at this time as we navigate this new phase of our lives.”

“Sofía and Joe have been growing apart for a while now and are taking some distance from each other to contemplate their future,” a source close to the pair stated. “Those close to Sofia were explaining away Joe’s absence at the beginning of her big birthday trip with the excuse that he was busy filming back on the East Coast; that excuse barely held up due to the writers strike, but once the actor’s strike took effect, he could have been on the first flight,” another source continued. and it is obvious that he is not.

Therefore, nobody who is with her is even making an effort to act as though it’s still going on. It’s finished. It’s over,” they said.

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