‘Families don’t have to match’ – Black couple share their journey to adopting three white children

Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried everything for years to get pregnant, and eventually they accepted that they would only ever be aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they received a text that completely turned their world upside down.

Since getting married in January 2018, the pair has been trying to get pregnant, so when that didn’t work out naturally, they tried everything else.

The Houston mother told Love What Matters, “Ovulation tests, prenatal vitamins, cycle tracking apps, fertility monitors.”

“We didn’t even try our luck at following the unsolicited counsel of strangers, friends, and family. We tried, prayed, and waited for fourteen months. Month after Month. pregnancy test negative following negative test. It appeared like we would require help getting pregnant. We even went so far as to discuss it with medical professionals.

The couple seemed to get little assistance from the doctors. Sadie was advised by everyone that she would get pregnant if she reduced weight. Since she had no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and shed 28 pounds.

“She informed me that since she was unable to give me the fertility medication, she would refer me to a fertility specialist if I wasn’t pregnant within six months,” Sadie recalled. I was ecstatic to hear that. We finally received a response other than “no”! We were ecstatic to hear “not right now.”

Unfortunately, though, the couple felt as though they had begun over after Sadie lost the weight and they were unable to conceive.

Connecting the Dots – Adoption Puzzle Fundraising EventAs everyone is aware, we received a call regarding our little two weeks ago.

Published on Friday, August 30, 2019 by Sadie Sampson

Sadie said, “I had always felt like I was meant to be a mother.” “I was still not pregnant even though my surgeon had spent a long time to warn me about how fertile I would be following surgery. Thus, we gave up. We came to the realization that our only destiny was to be our nieces’ aunts and uncles and our goddaughters’ godparents.

The couple had just come to the painful conclusion that they would not be able to conceive when Sadie’s friend texted her to ask if they would be willing to foster a child that a couple she knew was thinking about for themselves.

At first, the couple was apprehensive since they had been instructed by a caseworker to look after the child while the mother sought therapy. The couple was concerned that they would grow overly devoted to the child. But soon after, the narrative was altered.

The caseworker stated, “The birth mother decided she would prefer you guys adopt the child instead.”

“Holy crap!!” was the first thing Sadie uttered out loud when she learned she was expecting a child.

“Overnight, we went from not having any kids to possibly fostering one to, ‘You guys are parents!’” Still in shock, I listened to the caseworker as she spoke. After hanging up, I dialed my spouse! “Baby!” They desire that we adopt the child! They want us to have kids,” I cried out. Hold on! Really? He exclaimed, “I assumed they just wanted us to foster him.” “Nope!” “They want us to be his parents,” I remarked.

Over the weekend, the couple not only processed the surprising news but also braced themselves in case the mother had second thoughts.

On Monday, the mother not only expressed her desire for them to adopt the child, but also stated that she was prepared to sign the adoption papers independently.

At 33 weeks, their son had been born—seven weeks ahead of schedule. His weight was 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie writes, “He fit in one of my husband’s hands.”

Sadie said, “He was so small, swaddled in a white blanket with stripes of pink and blue.” He was early, therefore he couldn’t eat on his own, thus an NG tube was coming out of his nose. But my goodness, was he adorable!

The couple was urged to create a registry after they announced their announcement on social media. In just three days, 55 of the 72 goods they had advertised had been purchased.

Following the adoption of Ezra Lee, which was completed in October 2020, the couple had the cutest family portraits shot, sporting t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”

Through embryo donation, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin twins, Destinee and Journey, in 2021. The black couple, adhering to their family credo, “Families don’t have to match,” gave birth to three white children: two girls and one boy.

There is just one reaction for anyone who judges this lovely family: love is the strongest foundation there is.

My New Wife Demanded I Use My Late Wife’s Money Left for Our Kids on Her Daughters — My Lesson Was Strict

I knew things would change when I remarried, but I never expected my new wife to go after my late wife’s money. It was meant for our daughters’ future, not hers. She thought she could pressure me into it. What came next would teach her a lesson she’d never forget.

A tear escaped my eye as I clutched a photo of my late wife and our daughters at the beach. “I miss you, Ed,” I whispered, my fingers caressing Edith’s face in the picture. “The girls… they’re growing up so fast. I wish you could see them now.” Her radiant smile gazed up at me from the photo, her eyes sparkling with a life that cancer had stolen far too soon…

A man holding a framed photo of his wife and kids | Source: Midjourney

A man holding a framed photo of his wife and kids | Source: Midjourney

A soft knock interrupted my reminiscing. My mother poked her head in, her eyes full of concern.

“Charlie, honey, you can’t keep living in the past. It’s been three years. You need to move on. Those girls need a mother figure.”

I sighed, setting the photo frame down. “Mom, we’re doing fine. The girls are—”

“Getting older!” She cut me off, settling beside me on the couch. “I know you’re trying, but you’re not getting any younger. What about that nice woman from your office? Gabriela?”

A smiling older woman | Source: Midjourney

A smiling older woman | Source: Midjourney

I rubbed my temples, feeling a headache coming on. “Gaby? Mom, she’s just a coworker.”

“And a single mother, just like you’re a single father. Think about it, Charlie. For the girls’ sake.”

As she left, her words echoed in my mind. Maybe she was right. Maybe it was time to move forward.

One year later, I stood in our backyard, watching Gaby interact with my daughters. She’d swooped into our lives like a whirlwind, and before I knew it, we were married.

It wasn’t the same as with Edith, but it was… nice.

A happy couple | Source: Midjourney

A happy couple | Source: Midjourney

“Dad! Watch this!” my youngest called out, attempting a cartwheel.

I clapped, forcing a smile. “Great job, sweetie!”

Gaby sidled up to me, linking her arm through mine. “They’re wonderful girls, Charlie. You’ve done an amazing job.”

I nodded, pushing down the pang of guilt that always surfaced when she complimented my parenting. “Thanks, Gaby. I’m trying my best.”

“You’re such a stellar parent. Your kids must be so lucky.”

Side shot of a woman staring at someone | Source: Midjourney

Side shot of a woman staring at someone | Source: Midjourney

As we headed inside, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something was off with the way Gaby had said it. But I pushed it aside, determined to make this new family work.

That’s when Gaby cornered me in the kitchen, her eyes gleaming with a look I’d never seen before.

“Charlie, we need to talk about the girls’ trust fund,” she said, her voice syrupy sweet.

I froze, my coffee mug halfway to my lips. “What trust fund?”

Side shot of a startled man | Source: Midjourney

Side shot of a startled man | Source: Midjourney

Gaby rolled her eyes, dropping the act. “Don’t play dumb. I heard you on the phone with your financial advisor. Edith left quite a nest egg for the girls, didn’t she?”

My stomach churned. I’d never mentioned the fund to her. Never thought I’d need to.

“That’s for their future, Gaby. College, starting out in life—”

“Exactly!” she cut in. “And what about my girls? Don’t they deserve the same opportunities?”

A woman looking at a man | Source: Midjourney

A woman looking at a man | Source: Midjourney

I set my mug down, trying to keep my voice level. “Of course they do, but that money… it’s Edith’s legacy to her children.”

Gaby’s eyes narrowed. “Her children? We’re supposed to be one family now, Charlie. Or was that all just talk?”

“That’s not fair,” I protested. “I’ve treated your daughters like my own since day one.”

“Treated them like your own? Please. If that were true, you wouldn’t be hoarding that money for just your biological kids.”

The room felt like a pressure cooker ready to burst as I stared at Gaby, her words still ringing in my ears.

A man looking up | Source: Midjourney

A man looking up | Source: Midjourney

I took a deep breath, fighting to stay calm. “Gaby, that fund is not ours to touch. It’s for my daughters’ future.”

“So that’s it? Your dead wife’s wishes matter more than your living family?”

“Don’t you dare speak about Edith that way. This discussion ends now. That money is not up for debate. Period.”

Gaby’s face flushed with anger. “You’re impossible! How can you be so stubborn?”

A man yelling at a woman | Source: Midjourney

A man yelling at a woman | Source: Midjourney

My jaw tightened, muscles twitching as I fought to maintain control. I barely recognized the woman standing before me, so different from the one I thought I’d married.

A plan formed in my mind.

“Fine! You’re right. I’ll sort this out tomorrow, okay?”

Gaby’s eyes lit up, clearly thinking she’d won. “Really? You mean it?”

I nodded.

A man looking at a woman | Source: Midjourney

A man looking at a woman | Source: Midjourney

Gaby’s lips curled into a smug smile. “Good. It’s about time you saw reason.”

She turned on her heel, marching out of the room. The slam of the door echoed through the house, a punctuation mark to her tantrum.

I sank into a chair, running my hands over my face. Gaby had shown her true colors, and now it was time for a hard lesson in respect and the dangers of entitlement.

Portrait of a man sitting on the couch | Source: Midjourney

Portrait of a man sitting on the couch | Source: Midjourney

The next morning, I made a show of calling my financial advisor, making sure Gaby could overhear.

“Yes, I’d like to set up a new account,” I said loudly. “It’s for my stepdaughters. We’ll fund it from our joint income going forward.”

I heard a sharp intake of breath behind me and turned to see Gaby standing in the doorway, her face twisted with surprise and anger.

“What are you doing?” she barked as I hung up.

A shocked woman | Source: Midjourney

A shocked woman | Source: Midjourney

“Creating a fund for your daughters, like you wanted. We’ll contribute to it together, from what we earn.”

Her eyes narrowed. “And Edith’s money?”

“Remains untouched. That’s non-negotiable.”

“You think this solves anything? This is a slap in the face!”

“No, Gaby. This is me setting boundaries. We build our family’s future together, not by taking what isn’t ours to take.”

She jabbed a finger at my chest. “You’re choosing your daughters over us. Admit it!”

“I’m choosing to honor Edith’s wishes. And if you can’t respect that, then we have a serious problem.”

A frustrated woman | Source: Midjourney

A frustrated woman | Source: Midjourney

Gaby’s eyes filled with tears, but I couldn’t tell if they were genuine or manipulative. “I thought we were partners, Charlie. I thought what was yours was mine.”

“We are partners, Gaby. But that doesn’t mean erasing the past or disregarding Edith’s legacy.”

She turned away, her shoulders shaking. “You’re being so unfair.”

As she left the room, I called after her, “Unfair or not. But know this: my decision stands.”

A woman walking away | Source: Pexels

A woman walking away | Source: Pexels

The following weeks were filled with icy silences and clipped conversations. Gaby alternated between trying to guilt-trip me and giving me the cold shoulder. But I stood firm, refusing to budge.

One evening, as I tucked my daughters into bed, my oldest asked, “Daddy, is everything okay with you and Gaby?”

I paused, choosing my words carefully. “We’re working through some grown-up stuff, sweetheart. But don’t worry, okay?”

She nodded, but her eyes were worried. “We don’t want you to be sad again, Daddy.”

A sad little girl hugging a teddy bear in bed | Source: Midjourney

A sad little girl hugging a teddy bear in bed | Source: Midjourney

My heart clenched. I pulled her into a hug, kissing the top of her head. “I’m not sad, honey. I promise. Your happiness is what matters most to me.”

As I left their room, I found Gaby waiting in the hallway, her arms crossed and eyes narrowed.

“They’re good kids, Charlie. But my girls deserve just as much.”

I sighed, realizing her stance hadn’t changed. “They are good kids. All of them. And they all deserve our support.”

Rear view of a woman standing in the living room | Source: Midjourney

Rear view of a woman standing in the living room | Source: Midjourney

She scoffed, shaking her head. “Support? That trust fund would’ve been a REAL support. But you just had to play the hero for your precious Edith, didn’t you?”

“This isn’t about playing hero. It’s about respect. Respect for Edith’s wishes and for our daughters’ future.”

“And what about my daughters’ future? Or does that not matter to you?”

I took a deep breath, steeling myself. “We’ve set up a fund for them too. We’re building it together, remember? That’s how we move forward.”

A woman staring at a man | Source: Midjourney

A woman staring at a man | Source: Midjourney

She laughed bitterly. “Oh, please. That’s just your way of placating me. It’s not the same and you know it.”

Our eyes met, and I saw the storm brewing in hers, just as I knew she saw mine. I realized this battle was far from over. But I also knew I’d never back down.

Months passed, and while the arguments became less frequent, the underlying resentment remained. One evening, as I watched all four girls playing in the backyard, Gaby approached me.

A woman looking outside | Source: Midjourney

A woman looking outside | Source: Midjourney

“They look happy,” she said.

I nodded, not taking my eyes off the children. “They do.”

She turned to me, her expression hard. “But it could’ve been better for all of them if you’d just listened to me.”

I met her gaze steadily. “No, Gaby. It wouldn’t have been better. It would’ve been unfair and disrespectful.”

She opened her mouth to argue, but I held up a hand. “This discussion is over. It has been for months.”

A woman furrowing her brows | Source: Midjourney

A woman furrowing her brows | Source: Midjourney

As she stormed off, a surge of sadness and relief engulfed me. Gaby had shown her true colors, and while it pained me to see our marriage strained, I knew I’d done the right thing.

She’d learned quickly that I wasn’t a pushover. If she thought she could waltz into our lives and rewrite the rules for her benefit, she had another thing coming.

This was the wake-up call she needed, harsh as it might be.

A woman standing in a room | Source: Midjourney

A woman standing in a room | Source: Midjourney

I’d made my stance crystal clear: Edith’s legacy for our children was untouchable. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever.

And seeing Gaby come to terms with the fact that she couldn’t manipulate or bully me into submission? It was worth every second!

As I watched my daughters laugh and play, my heart swelled with a determination to be the best father I could be. I’d protected what mattered most: their future and the memory of their mother. Whatever challenges lay ahead with Gaby, I knew I’d face them head-on, just as I’d done from the start.

Four girls playing in the backyard | Source: Midjourney

Four girls playing in the backyard | Source: Midjourney

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

Related Posts

Be the first to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.


*