Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
We Took in a Homeless Man for the Winter — The Package He Left Before Leaving Broke Us
A freezing night and a simple act of kindness brought a homeless man named Jeff into Ellie’s home and her life. But as their bond grew, an unexpected discovery unraveled secrets from the past.
For months, I saw him sitting near the bench by the bus stop outside my office. He always had that same small, battered kit, fixing shoes like it was his job. His clothes were clean but shabby, and his hands were rough, though they moved with such care.
A homeless man | Source: Freepik
I couldn’t help but notice him. Something about the way he carried himself struck me. He never begged or even looked like he wanted anything from anyone. I started saying hello when I passed by. He’d smile politely, nod, and go back to his work.
One day, on a whim, I handed him a shoe with a broken heel. “Do you think you can fix this?” I asked, unsure why I even stopped.
A woman with her shoes off | Source: Freepik
He looked up at me, his eyes warm but tired. “Sure thing,” he said, holding it up to inspect. “Should take me about twenty minutes.”
I sat nearby, watching him. He was quiet but focused, like fixing that shoe was the most important thing in the world. When he handed it back, it was as good as new.
“What’s your name?” I asked.
A young businesswoman talking to a homeless man | Source: Midjourney
“Jeff,” he said simply, tucking his tools back into the kit.
One night, just before Christmas, the air was freezing. I pulled my coat tighter as I walked to my car, but something made me stop. Through the window of a café about to close, I saw Jeff. He was sitting alone at a table, his head down, clutching a small package wrapped in brown paper.
A homeless man looking down | Source: Freepik
I stepped inside, the warmth hitting me immediately. “Jeff,” I said softly, walking over to him. “What are you doing here? Don’t you have somewhere to go?”
He looked up, startled at first, then relaxed when he saw me. “Shelter’s full tonight,” he said, his voice low and steady. “But don’t worry, I’ll manage.”
I frowned. “It’s freezing out there. You can’t stay out in this.”
A serious woman outside in the snow | Source: Freepik
He shrugged. “It’s not the first cold night I’ve had.”
The thought of him out there in that weather made my chest tighten. “Come home with me,” I blurted.
He blinked. “What?”
“I mean it,” I said, more firmly this time. “We have a basement. It’s not fancy, but it’s warm, and there’s a bed. You can stay there for the night.”
A woman talking to a homeless man | Source: Midjourney
Jeff shook his head. “I can’t—”
“Yes, you can,” I interrupted. “Please. I won’t be able to sleep if I know you’re out here.”
He hesitated, his eyes searching mine. “You’re too kind, you know that?” he said finally, his voice soft.
I smiled. “Come on.”
A smiling woman outside in winter | Source: Freepik
The next morning, I woke up to the smell of bacon and the sound of laughter. I found Jeff in the kitchen, flipping pancakes while my kids sat at the table, grinning ear to ear.
“Mom, Jeff’s so funny!” my youngest said, her face sticky with syrup.
Jeff glanced over and smiled sheepishly. “Hope you don’t mind. Thought I’d make myself useful.”
I shook my head, smiling back. “Not at all.”
Freshly baked pancakes | Source: Pexels
Later that day, I went down to the basement to check on him. Everything that had been broken, an old lamp, a wobbly chair, even a leaky faucet, was fixed. He’d polished all our shoes too.
That evening, I brought it up to my husband. “What if we let him stay for the winter?”
He raised an eyebrow. “You’re serious?”
“He’s kind, he’s helpful, and…” I paused. “I don’t know. It just feels right.”
A couple talking | Source: Freepik
After a long silence, my husband nodded. “Okay. But just for the winter.”
When I told Jeff, he looked stunned. “I can’t impose like that,” he said.
“It’s not imposing,” I assured him. “We’d like to have you here.”
For the next few weeks, Jeff became part of the family. The kids adored him, and he was always finding ways to help around the house. It felt like he belonged with us, though I couldn’t explain why.
A man washing the dishes | Source: Pexels
One evening, we were sitting in the living room, chatting about old times. I pulled out a photo of my parents to show him.
“This is my mom and dad,” I said, handing him the picture.
Jeff froze, his face going pale. His hands trembled as he stared at the photo. “Your mom…” he whispered, his voice barely audible.
“What’s wrong?” I asked, alarmed.
An elderly man looking at a photo | Source: Pexels
But he didn’t answer. He just stood up abruptly and left the room.
The next morning, he was gone. All that was left was his package, carefully placed on the pillow in the basement.
It was the same brown paper package Jeff always carried, the one he never let out of his sight. Now it was here, deliberately left behind. I stared at it for a long moment before slowly peeling back the paper.
A brown package | Source: Pexels
Inside was a photograph and a folded letter.
I picked up the photo first. My breath caught in my throat. It was Jeff—much younger, his face free of the wear and sadness I’d come to recognize. He was smiling, holding a baby wrapped in a pink blanket. On the back, in neat handwriting, were the words: “Jeff and Ellie, 1986.”
I stared at the name. My name.
A happy man with his daughter | Source: Midjourney
My hands shook as I unfolded the letter. The words blurred as tears filled my eyes, but I forced myself to keep reading.
Jeff wrote about his life, his mistakes, and the love he lost. He explained how he’d met my mother when they were young and deeply in love. But life hadn’t been perfect. He admitted he’d cheated, a mistake he regretted every single day. When my mother found out, she left him, cutting him out of her life completely.
A senior man writing | Source: Freepik
“I tried to see you,” he wrote. “I begged her to let me stay in your life, but she wouldn’t hear it. She moved away, and I had no way to find you. I lost everything—my family, my career, my home. I never forgave myself for failing you. When I saw your mother’s photo, I knew immediately who you were. But I was too ashamed to tell you. I didn’t deserve you, Ellie. I still don’t.”
The letter ended with: “I love you, my little Ellie, more than I can ever say. I hope you can forgive me someday.”
An elderly man writing | Source: Freepik
I sat there, stunned, clutching the photo and letter. How could this be true? My father, the man I believed had abandoned us, was Jeff?
My shock quickly turned into anger. I grabbed my phone and called my mom. She answered on the second ring.
“Ellie?” she said, her voice bright.
An elderly woman on her phone | Source: Pexels
“How could you?” I snapped.
She paused. “What are you talking about?”
“Jeff. I know everything. I know who he is. Why didn’t you tell me?”
There was silence on the other end of the line, then a shaky breath. “Ellie… it’s complicated.”
An angry woman on her phone | Source: Freepik
“Complicated?” I shot back. “You told me he left us. You said he didn’t want to be part of our lives. But that’s not true, is it?”
Through tears, she admitted the truth. She’d been hurt, angry, and unwilling to forgive him. She thought it would be easier to raise me without him, so she cut him out completely.
“I thought I was protecting you,” she said. “I never thought you’d find him. I’m so sorry.”
A sad elderly woman on her phone | Source: Freepik
I hung up, overwhelmed. Everything I thought I knew about my life had been a lie.
For weeks, I searched for Jeff. I went to the spots I’d seen him before, hoping to catch even a glimpse of him. Each day I came home disappointed.
Then, one afternoon, I saw him. He was sitting on a bench near my workplace, staring into the distance. He looked smaller, sadder.
A sad homeless man | Source: Freepik
“Jeff,” I called softly.
He looked up, and his eyes filled with recognition and something else—regret. “Ellie,” he said, his voice barely above a whisper. “I’m sorry for leaving. I couldn’t… I didn’t know how to face you after you found out.”
I walked closer, my chest tight with emotion. “You should’ve stayed,” I said. “You’re my father. I needed to talk to you, to understand everything.”
A young woman talking to an elderly man | Source: Midjourney
His shoulders slumped. “I didn’t think I deserved that.”
I sat down beside him. “Maybe not. But you’re here now. And that’s all that matters.”
He looked at me, his eyes glistening with tears. “Do you think… you can forgive me?”
I leaned in and hugged him tightly, the tears finally spilling over. “I already have, Dad.”
A crying elderly man | Source: Pexels
From that moment on, everything changed. Jeff came back into my life, not just as a father but as part of the family. My kids adored him—they called him Grandpa Jeff, and he loved every second of it.
He wasn’t perfect. We had years of pain and misunderstanding to work through, but he tried every day to make up for the time we’d lost. His kindness, his humor, and his quiet strength became a foundation for our family.
Grandfather and his grandson | Source: Pexels
Looking back, I realized how much I almost lost by holding on to anger and pain. Forgiving Jeff didn’t just heal him, it healed me, too.
Sometimes, second chances aren’t about what we deserve. They’re about what we’re willing to fight for.
And we fought for each other. Every day, we fought to rebuild what we’d lost.
A hopeful woman | Source: Freepik
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