Meeting my fiancé’s parents should have been exciting, but nothing prepared me for the tension and judgment that followed. Between the quiet stares, sharp words, and unexpected secrets, the evening turned into a whirlwind I’ll never forget.
Mark and I had been together for about a year, and just recently, he proposed. It wasn’t the dreamy, candlelit proposal I had imagined as a little girl, but it was heartfelt, and I knew it came from a place of love.
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Besides, Mark and I would’ve ended up engaged anyway—it was just a matter of timing.
He proposed shortly after we found out I was pregnant. The pregnancy wasn’t planned, but the moment we saw those two little lines, everything changed. We were thrilled, nervous, and ready to tackle parenthood together.
That evening, we had dinner plans with Mark’s parents, and I was a bundle of nerves.
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Mark always described them as strict and traditional, which made me feel like I was stepping into an interview instead of a family meal.
Still, I told myself I could win them over. I’d always been good at making people like me—or so I hoped.
When Mark got home from work, I immediately began rifling through my closet.
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I must have tried on ten outfits, spinning in front of the mirror, asking, “Is this okay?”
Each time, Mark smiled and said, “You look great.”
But “great” wasn’t enough. I needed to look flawless. First impressions were everything.
In the end, I laughed at myself, realizing I had chosen the very first outfit I’d tried on.
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“Do you think they’ll like me?” I asked, twisting my hair into place.
“Of course, they’ll like you. How could they not?” Mark said, watching me in the mirror.
“But what if they don’t?” I asked, turning to face him.
“Then it doesn’t matter,” he said, his voice calm. “The only thing that matters is that I like you.”
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“Like?” I teased, raising an eyebrow.
Mark smirked. “I like you more than anyone. I love you even more.”
I laughed softly. “Good save.”
Mark leaned in and kissed me, his grin warm and reassuring. “You’ll be perfect.”
Once we were ready, I carefully picked up the cherry pie I had baked for the dinner.
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The warm, sweet scent was comforting, like a small reminder that I had put effort into tonight. Mark opened the car door for me, and we both climbed in.
During the drive to his parents’ house, I couldn’t help but notice Mark gripping the steering wheel a little too tightly.
His jaw was set, and his eyes focused straight ahead. “Are you okay?” I asked softly.
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“Yeah,” he said, but his voice wavered. I reached over, taking his hand. I wasn’t sure if I was trying to calm him or myself.
When we pulled up in front of the house, Mark sighed and looked at me. “Just… don’t say anything unnecessary, okay?”
“I won’t,” I promised.
We walked to the door, hearts pounding, and Mark rang the bell. A moment later, his mother appeared.
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“Hi, we’ve been waiting for you,” she said, her tone sharp but polite. “I’m Erin, though I assume you already know that,” she added, her eyes fixed on me.
“Yes, I’m Danica,” I replied, forcing a smile as I held out the pie. “I baked a cherry pie. Mark told me it’s your favorite.”
Erin’s face changed instantly, her smile fading. “A pie, hmm? I thought the host was supposed to handle the food. Or do you think I can’t bake my own pie?”
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“No, of course not!” I said quickly. “I just wanted to bring something special. I didn’t mean to offend you.”
She looked at the pie, then back at me. “It’s fine. Come in,” she said, stepping aside without another word.
Dinner was painfully quiet. The only sounds were the clinking of silverware and the occasional scrape of a chair.
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Mark had warned me his family didn’t talk during meals, but I thought he was joking.
Sitting there in silence felt awkward and unnatural. I glanced at Mark, but he just gave me a small, reassuring smile.
When we finished eating, I stood up to help Erin clear the table. She didn’t say much, just nodded and muttered a quick “thank you.”
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We moved to the living room, where Mark’s father, George, sat stiffly, barely looking at me.
He seemed uninterested, like I was a guest he didn’t ask for. Conversation turned to the wedding, but I had little to share.
“What kind of dress are you thinking of?” Erin asked, her eyes scanning me like she was already judging my answer.
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Before I could respond, George spoke up. “Erin, leave the girl alone. You’ve been bombarding her with questions all evening.” His tone was gruff, but it was the first time he had addressed me.
“It’s fine. I don’t mind,” I said, offering a small smile, though my nerves were fraying.
“See, George? She doesn’t mind,” Erin said, smiling back at me for the first time. It felt almost like approval, and I let out a small breath of relief.
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I looked at Mark and smiled, taking his hand. His touch grounded me. But the warmth of the moment vanished as Erin’s smile hardened.
“Danica, dear, in our family, we don’t show affection in front of others, especially before marriage,” she said, her tone sharp.
I dropped Mark’s hand like it was on fire. “I’m sorry,” I whispered, embarrassed.
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“So,” Erin continued, her focus shifting back to me, “what kind of dress do you want? You have such a lovely figure. Something fitted and long would suit you perfectly.”
I hesitated, feeling my cheeks heat up. “Well, I won’t have this figure for long. I’ll be five months along by the wedding, so I was thinking of something more flowing.”
Mark groaned softly and buried his face in his hands. My stomach dropped.
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“Five months along?” Erin’s voice was clipped, her eyebrow arched in disbelief.
I nodded. “Pregnant,” I said simply.
The room felt like it froze. Erin gasped, clutching her chest like I had just confessed to a crime. “Oh, my God,” she whispered. “What a disgrace! My son is going to have a child out of wedlock!”
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I blinked, stunned. “Excuse me, what?”
“This is shameful! You’re a disgrace to our family! How could you do such a thing before marriage?” Erin shouted, her voice rising with each word.
“We’re adults,” I said, trying to stay calm. “We’re excited about this baby—”
“Danica, stop talking,” Mark muttered under his breath.
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“How could you choose such a shameless fiancée?” Erin yelled at Mark. “She must have seduced you!”
“Erin, stop yelling at her. She’s pregnant,” George said, his voice cutting through her tirade.
“That’s the problem! What will people say?” Erin wailed. “Get out of my house! I don’t want to see you again!”
Tears spilled over as I stammered, “What did I do? I don’t understand…”
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“You and your illegitimate child are a stain on this family!” Erin spat. “Maybe it’s not too late for an abortion?”
I gasped. “What? What are you saying?” I cried, choking on my tears. Mark stayed silent, his face unreadable.
“Danica, let’s go,” Mark finally said, grabbing my hand.
Outside, his frustration boiled over. “What was that?!” he yelled at me.
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“I should be asking you that!” I shot back, my voice shaking.
“I told you not to say anything unnecessary!” he snapped.
“I didn’t know our child was ‘unnecessary’ to you!” I yelled.
“Not to me—to them,” he replied sharply.
“You said their opinions didn’t matter!” I cried, shaking my head.
“I warned you they were conservative,” he said, his voice flat.
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I looked at him, my heart breaking. “I’m staying at my place tonight,” I said, my tone firm, before turning away.
I still had a month left on the lease for my old apartment, so Mark drove me there. The ride was silent, tense.
When he pulled up, I stepped out without a word. Once inside, I sat on the couch, tears streaming down my face.
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My chest ached as I replayed the dinner over and over. Mark hadn’t defended me or our baby.
How could he let his mother say those things? My thoughts spiraled, and I placed a hand on my stomach, wondering if all this stress was hurting the baby.
The next morning, a firm knock startled me awake. Groggy, I shuffled to the door and opened it. George stood there, his expression unreadable.
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“How are you?” George asked, his voice calm but firm.
“What are you doing here?” I snapped, crossing my arms.
“I came to apologize for Erin,” he said, glancing down briefly. “She can be… overly emotional.”
I hesitated, then stepped back. “Would you like to come in?”
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“No, I won’t stay long,” he replied, shaking his head. “I just wanted to explain. This is personal for her. Her parents were very conservative, even more than she is. When we got married, she was already pregnant with Mark.”
I stared at him, stunned. “What? Then why did she react so negatively to me being pregnant?”
George sighed, shifting uncomfortably. “She has always felt ashamed of it. She thinks we should have waited. She doesn’t regret having Mark, but it’s something she struggles with. I wanted you to know.”
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I frowned, still hurt but trying to understand. “That’s why she treated me like that? To protect some old-fashioned idea of pride?”
George nodded. “Yes. You can share this with Mark or even tell Erin’s relatives if she keeps making a fuss.”
“I won’t tell anyone,” I said softly. “I don’t want her to feel as hurt as I do now.”
George gave me a small nod, then turned to leave.
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After he left, I decided to return to Mark. But as I stepped outside, I froze. He was standing there, holding a bouquet of flowers.
“I’m sorry,” Mark said, looking right at me. “I should have stood up for you and the baby. I didn’t know what to do, and I was scared.”
“Thank you for apologizing. It hurt so much,” I admitted.
“It won’t happen again. I promise, I’ll always be on your side,” he said, his voice steady.
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I nodded, a small smile breaking through. “Thank you.”
Mark leaned in, and I kissed him.
Suddenly, his phone buzzed. He stepped aside to answer it.
“It was my mom,” he said when he came back. “She wants to apologize. She asked what your favorite pie is.”
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I smiled faintly. “Tell her I love cherry pie too.”
Mark grinned. “Looks like you already have something in common.”
“You have no idea,” I whispered, letting him pull me into a warm hug.
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Gary Burghoff AKA Radar from ‘M*A*S*H’ Always Kept His Left Hand Out of View – Five Times We Could See It
The hit 1972 sitcom “M*A*S*H” introduced the world to a number of memorable and beloved characters, from the smart-mouthed yet compassionate Captain Benjamin Franklin “Hawkeye” Pierce to his endearing friend, Captain B.J. Hunnicutt. Almost every character had stuck in the minds of the fans.
One of the characters that often featured but was easily overlooked by his military counterparts due to his nervous nature was the 4077 MASH unit’s company clerk, Corporal Walter Eugene “Radar” O’Reilly. Although many of the staff on the base tended to take Radar’s effort for granted, the fans sure noticed him.
Radar was portrayed by the acclaimed actor Gary Burghoff from the start of the TV show in 1972 until the seventh season, which aired in 1979. Although fans clamored for more of the unassuming clerk, Burghoff revealed that he needed to step away from the show to rekindle his personal relationships and fight burnout.
“M*A*S*H’s” Influence and Burghoff’s Personal Identity
Although Burghoff enjoyed playing Radar, the role became increasingly demanding. The actor commented that it became difficult to separate himself from his character in the eyes of the public, which soon became tedious. He also noted that he despised being fawned over by the crowds:
“Aw, I know I’m cute. Cute, cute, CUTE! I was always cute because I was always the smallest kid on the block. I hate cute.”
Everyone saw Burghoff as an adorable, short, timid character as they’d known him on-screen and on the stage for many years. However, after years of being looked down upon, both metaphorically and physically speaking, Burghoff grew tired of the persona so easily attributed to him by scores of people he had never even met.
The actor lashed out against this view of him as a cute little fellow by defending his height. As he so rightly pointed out, 5 feet 6 inches isn’t irregularly short, and he would have seen the tops of Arte Johnson or Mickey Rooney’s heads had they ever met. Nonetheless, the persona stuck.
Luckily for all his fans, Burghoff didn’t let his disability stand in his way, and he pursued his dream of becoming an actor.
Despite his misgivings about how others perceived him, Burghoff’s fellow cast members adored him. The director Charles Dubin recalled working with Burghoff before he left “M*A*S*H,” noting how caring and pleasant Burghoff was to everyone on set. However, Burghoff had another aspect of himself that drove down his self-esteem.
Burghoff had been born with a congenital disability called Brachydactyly, a form of Poland Syndrome. The condition left the actor with three fingers on his left hand that were noticeably smaller than the rest of his digits, and the abnormality had plagued him since he was a small child. The actor commented:
“Of course, this defect affected me while I was growing up. I suppose when I was very young, I knew my disability would set me apart and make me special.”
Luckily for all his fans, Burghoff didn’t let his disability stand in his way, and he pursued his dream of becoming an actor. Yet, becoming a fan-favorite on one of the most iconic TV shows America had ever produced never managed to quell his insecurities about his stout fingers and stocky frame.
Throughout his run on “M*A*S*H,” Burghoff tried to hide his left hand from the camera. He would often position himself so that the camera could only see one side of his body and usually gestured with his right if the scene required it, although the actor would be obligated to use both hands now and again.
In one of the earliest episodes, viewers were introduced to Radar as he stood in an open area, wearing a greyish shirt and his trademark cap. As the actor turned around and looked at the sky — once again hearing approaching helicopters before everyone else — the camera briefly panned over both his hands holding a football.
When Colonel Sherman T. Potter first made his appearance on the show, taking over from the beloved Lieutenant Colonel Henry Blake, Radar and the new commander shared a scene where they first met. As Colonel Potter exited the room to find the latrines, the camera centered on Burghoff’s upper body as he opened a box with both hands.
Another infamous scene caught Burghoff with both hands on camera. During a regular morning salute, with the loathsome Major Frank Burns leading the ceremony, Radar does his usual morning salute with a bugle. In a hilarious twist, one of the men fires off the ceremonial canon at Burns’s behest.
Naturally, Radar gets the short end of the stick as the cannonball flies directly at him, knocking his instrument clean out of his hands. In the next few seconds, Burghoff turns toward the camera in a pantomime of rage, balling his fists and stomping in outrage. Here, both his hands can be seen for a brief second.
In one of the later episodes, the writers showed off Radar’s softer side when he cuddled his pet guinea pig, Babette. Naturally, Radar stood with his left hand beneath his right, but just as he started to sing, Father John Mulcahy called for him. Burghoff’s hands were visible again as he put the Babette away.
One of the scenes where Burghoff openly showed his left hand came as part of another gag the show pulled. At the start of the scene, Radar could be seen walking across a dirt road while two other military personnel walked away from the camera. The man on Radar’s right first lifted his hand in salute, followed shortly by one on the left.
Radar, the pleasant character he was, lifted his right hand in response to the first salute, as military etiquette dictates. Caught off guard by the quick second salute, Radar lifted his left hand as well, essentially performing a double salute. Feeling sheepish, he frowned and lowered his hands slowly in one of Burghoff’s classic displays of confusion.
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