Kevin Costner was initially hesitant about having more children in his 50s. Despite already being a father to four kids from a previous marriage, he and his second wife, Christine Baumgartner, decided to expand their family. They had three children together after getting married in 2004.
Recently, Kevin and Christine have ended their 18-year marriage. The couple shares three children, and their decision to part ways marks a significant change for the family.
Kevin’s fear of expanding his family came true, as his second wife has filed for divorce. Despite their split, the family’s bond and their shared interests remain an important part of their lives.
Kevin Costner, famous for movies like “Dances with Wolves” and “The Bodyguard,” has seven children. Despite his success as an actor, he had concerns about having more kids in his 50s. His wife, Christine Baumgartner, who is 19 years younger than him, wanted to have children.
In a 2008 interview, Kevin admitted, “I was afraid I couldn’t be an effective father.” His initial worries about expanding his family were a big concern for him at the time.
Kevin Costner realized he didn’t want to risk losing his wife, Christine, due to his fear of having more children. He decided to overcome his hesitation and embrace fatherhood once more. At 52, he welcomed his fifth child, Cayden.
Kevin was thrilled to be a father again, but he had some worries. In a 2007 interview with People, he expressed his concern: “My fundamental fear is that my new baby, someone else will raise him … I won’t get to coach him in what I think it is to be a man.” Despite these fears, Kevin was eager to be involved in his child’s life.
Actor Kevin Costner and his wife Christine Baumgartner with their son Cayden at Daytona International Speedway on July 5, 2008, in Daytona Beach, Florida. | Source: Getty Images
Despite his worries, Kevin makes sure to spend quality time with his children. He plays with them and teaches them to be independent, just like any other parent trying to navigate parenthood.
Kevin also shared some funny advice about what he’s learned from being a dad for decades. He joked:
Kevin Costner’s family includes seven children from both his marriages. Here’s a look at his kids:
From His First Marriage to Cindy Silva:
After his first marriage ended, Kevin admitted that his faith in relationships was “shaken” due to the breakdown of his first marriage. He said, “No one wants their marriage to end,” and the experience had a significant impact on him. Despite these challenges, Kevin has worked to be a devoted father to all his children.
Kevin Costner has seven children from different relationships. Here’s a look at his kids:
From His First Marriage to Cindy Silva:
1. Annie Costner** – Born in 1984, Annie is Kevin’s eldest child. She has acted in movies like *Dances With Wolves* and co-founded a film company called Sound Off Films in 2014.
Kevin has mentioned that not being able to see his children as much as he wanted has been a difficult adjustment for him.
Lily Costner, born in 1986, is Kevin Costner’s second child and a talented singer like her dad. Joe Costner, born in 1988, works in the entertainment industry as an audio engineer and production sound mixer.
Kevin also has a less-known son, Liam Costner, born in 1996 from a short relationship. Liam prefers to stay out of the spotlight.
In 2004, Kevin married Christine, and they had a son named Cayden Wyatt Costner in 2007. They had another son, Hayes Logan Costner, in 2009. Both boys like music and sports.
Lily Costner, born in 1986, is Kevin Costner’s second child and a talented singer like her dad. Joe Costner, born in 1988, works in the entertainment industry as an audio engineer and production sound mixer.
Kevin also has a less-known son, Liam Costner, born in 1996 from a short relationship. Liam prefers to stay out of the spotlight.
In 2004, Kevin married Christine, and they had a son named Cayden Wyatt Costner in 2007. They had another son, Hayes Logan Costner, in 2009. Both boys like music and sports.
The divorce news has received mixed reactions, with some expressing disappointment, while others suppose it’s beneficial for his wife, given that Kevin is significantly older than her.
While many people reserved their judgments about the shocking revelation of their separation, countless onlookers shared their opinions. One user wrote:
“Yep, he is too old for her anyway! Good for her! You old people have to learn the hard way!”
I Stumbled Upon a Hidden Note Exposing Troubling Truths About My Boyfriend — It Forced Me to Leave Immediately
It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
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