Calling someone “fat” can be a hurtful insult. But why is that?
This question came up when a mother named Allison shared her story about a recent swimming trip with her children. When her daughter called her fat, 30-year-old Allison had a clever response, and her message is now spreading quickly online.
Allison Kimmey began dieting when she was just 14 years old. She managed to stay at a size two to four through graduate school, but it was tough, and she wasn’t happy. Three years ago, at age 27, Allison reached a size eight and realized she would be much happier if she stopped fighting against her weight gain.
To motivate herself, Allison started an Instagram account, @allisonkimmey, where she shares pictures and inspirational messages. Her body positivity spreads joy and encourages her followers, but her important message doesn’t always reach everyone.
**Me:** “Actually, everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
**Her brother:** “Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me.”
**Me:** “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have much. But that doesn’t mean one person is better than the other. Do you both understand?”
**Both:** “Yes, mama.”
**Me:** “So can you repeat what I said?”
**Them:** “Yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t just be fat, but everyone HAS fat, and it’s okay to have different fat.”
**Me:** “Exactly right!”
Not only did Allison want to teach her children how to talk to others, but she also felt it was important to spread the message that everyone is equal, no matter their body shape. Now, her post on Instagram has gone viral.
“If I shame my children for saying it, then I’m proving that it’s an insulting word and continuing the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical, and undesirable,” writes Allison.
I Discovered My Husband’s Affair with His Boss Through a Subtle Clue
David’s invitation to a lavish party at his boss’s mansion sparked excitement in Penelope. It felt like a perfect opportunity for them to reconnect. However, her enthusiasm wavered when she noticed a detail indicating that David had visited the mansion before, planting seeds of doubt in her mind. As hidden truths began to surface, Penelope faced the unsettling possibility of betrayal.
On an ordinary Thursday evening, Penelope was busy baking cookies for her energetic five-year-old, Derrick. The kitchen was filled with the delicious aroma of vanilla and chocolate, harmonizing with Derrick’s laughter as he painted a colorful masterpiece that vaguely resembled a dinosaur.
Just then, David entered, dressed sharply but with a weary demeanor. The sight of him stirred a mix of emotions within Penelope, once thrilling, now a reminder of their strained relationship.
After exchanging greetings, David revealed an exciting opportunity: an invitation to a birthday party hosted by his boss, Laura, at her extravagant mansion. Penelope felt a rush of hope. This could be a moment for them to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company, especially with a babysitter already arranged for Derrick.
When Friday night arrived, Penelope was awestruck by Laura’s mansion. The grand structure, complete with manicured gardens and twinkling lights, felt surreal. As they stepped inside, Penelope’s excitement quickly shifted when she borrowed David’s phone to check in with the babysitter and noticed it was connected to the mansion’s Wi-Fi. Confusion washed over her, why would David’s phone already be linked here if he claimed he’d never visited before?
Throughout the evening, Penelope’s discomfort grew. David mingled with colleagues, while she wandered aimlessly, increasingly anxious. When she overheard Laura’s husband mention that Laura would have the mansion to herself, an unsettling feeling crept in. David’s casual remark about working late that night felt ominous, igniting her suspicions further.
The following day, Penelope dropped off Derrick at school, heart heavy with unease. Determined to uncover the truth, she drove to David’s office but learned he had left early for a “personal matter”. Her gut told her something was off. She called him, and his dismissive response only intensified her fears.
Fueled by a mix of dread and determination, Penelope drove to Laura’s mansion. Confronted by Laura at the door, she insisted on seeing David. Ignoring Laura’s attempts to block her, Penelope stormed inside, driven by an urgent need for answers. When she found David hiding in the closet, guilt written all over his face, everything came crashing down.
Accusations flew, and as David stumbled through half-hearted explanations, Penelope’s anger bubbled over. The confrontation concluded with her declaration that it was over, leaving David behind as she exited the lavish house, heartbroken.
The drive home blurred into a haze of tears. Back at home, the weight of betrayal felt almost unbearable, yet she knew she had to be strong for Derrick. That evening, with Maria’s comforting presence, Penelope began to process the betrayal. Seeking support, she reached out to a lawyer and started therapy to rebuild her life.
Days turned into weeks as she focused on Derrick, ensuring he felt secure and loved. One night, as she tucked him in, his innocent question about her well-being reminded her of her resilience. Smiling through her tears, she reassured him, determined to embrace a new beginning for both of them.
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