While celebrating a new life and transitioning into a new role, a mother found herself struggling to get a moment alone after she welcomed her daughter. A time that was meant to be exciting for her and her husband led to them having a big fight over their parenting roles.
In the whirlwind of joy and exhaustion in the early days of parenthood, a mother found herself longing for a mere moment of quietness and alone time. She took to Reddit to share her frustrations. She started off by explaining that she had only had her child for two weeks. Her daughter was strictly breastfeeding, but in addition to cluster feeding, she realized her daughter found comfort in being close to her.
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This meant that her new role allowed her little to no time alone. “I’ve showered once by myself since having her, and it only lasted long enough for me to soap up before she was crying and my husband was bringing her into the bathroom with me. I think I literally had all of 2-3 minutes,” she wrote.
On the contrary, she noticed her husband’s life had not changed. He still got to have long and uninterrupted showers every day but never understood why his showers frustrated his wife.
Each time she was in the shower, and the baby would cry, her husband would bring their newborn to her to calm her down. It made her angry that he did not even try to calm the baby down on his own, but his excuse was that the child loved showers, and seeing her cry hurt him deeply.
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As sweet as his fears sounded, the Redditor still needed to find a way to get a full self-care routine without a baby being handed over to her. So, she decided to call in help. She asked her mother to watch her daughter as she showered. Her husband was not there when she reached out to her child’s grandmother, but when he arrived, he asked what his mother-in-law was doing at their house.
Surprisingly, he was angry at his wife’s decision to call her mother just to take a shower. “I could have watched her. Why would you do that?” he asked, to which the Redditor responded, “Every time you watch her while I shower, she ends up in here with me within 2 minutes of me being in here because you don’t even try to calm her down.”
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Therefore, after five days of trying to shave her legs, she could not wait to enjoy the warm water hitting her body and relaxing her muscles. “I need to self-care,” the Redditor emphasized.
The original poster’s honest account of her experience as a new mother erupted in a chorus of voices from commenters sharing their own experiences and offering support. One commenter challenged the husband’s logic and suggested, “If, according to hubby, showers calm her down, why isn’t he taking her on his 30-60 minute showers?”
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Another suggestion was for the OP to lock the door as a temporary solution and to teach her husband a lesson on respecting someone’s privacy. Another Reddit user said the husband made himself look bad in front of his mother-in-law, but it was time he realized that he could also parent his daughter without always running to his wife.
The discussion took a deeper dive into the dynamics of communication and support within the relationship. Commenters pointed out the absurdity that the husband had been more concerned about his wife calling her mother rather than making sure that his wife’s well-being was attended to. “You found a way around it. And now, even knowing how hard it’s been for you, he’s still not actually concerned about you; he’s just worried about how it looks to your mum,” remarked a commenter.
A man sitting next to a crib looking stressed | Source: Shutterstock
One mother said her husband once interrupted her hair appointment but she had a serious conversation with him and made him look back at the number of haircuts he had had since their baby arrived. She told him never to interrupt her alone time unless it was an emergency, so the commenter advised the OP to have the same stern conversation with her husband.
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Another commenter shared a personal story of how her husband had slacked at the beginning of their parenting journey and how she eventually found a way to work as a team. The mother said her baby was a bit fussy on the first night home and she would always take the lead and calm her down.
But after three days, she put on earplugs and requested her husband only wake her up when the baby needed a feed and let her partner take care of the baby during the night, which led to a more equitable parenting dynamic.
The commenter added that allocating responsibilities helped them both understand the difficulty and joy of caring for a newborn, but it also allowed them to foster empathy and understanding. “That night, my partner became an equal parent,” the commenter added.
Here is a story about a newborn who cried nonstop no matter what the parents did. But they eventually realized the answer to their child’s misery was in the crib.
My 5-Year-Old Wants to Invite ‘The Lady Who Visits Dad While Mom’s at Work’ to Her Birthday Party
When I asked my daughter who else she wanted to invite to her birthday party and she casually named a woman I’d never heard of, I felt my world tilt. I met the woman a week later, and my life would never be the same.
My husband, Jake, and I have been together for ten years, married for seven. He’s a great guy—kind, hardworking, and a little scatterbrained, but I never had any reason to doubt him until recently.
A happy family | Source: Midjourney
Earlier this year, Jake lost his job. While he’s been job hunting, I’ve been pulling long, full-time hours at work to keep things running smoothly. It’s been tough, but we’ve made it work. Our five-year-old daughter, Ellie, loves spending extra time with him.
To her, Jake is her hero.
Life seemed normal enough… until last week.
Ellie’s birthday was coming up, and we were in full planning mode. As I sat with her one evening to finish the guest list, she caught me completely off guard.
A woman working on a guest list | Source: Midjourney
I asked her to tell me who else she wanted to invite besides her friends and family members.
“Mommy, can I invite the pretty lady who comes to visit Daddy while you’re at work?” she asked.
I froze mid-sip of my coffee, trying to stay calm. “The pretty lady who visits Daddy? What lady, sweetie?”
Ellie grinned, completely oblivious to the storm brewing in my chest.
“Yeah, the one with the long hair! She’s so nice! She says Daddy is kind, and she always gives him a big hug when she leaves. Can she come? Please?”
A little girl begging | Source: Midjourney
I struggled to keep my voice steady despite my heart sinking.
“Sure, honey. Why don’t you invite her next time she’s here?”
Ellie beamed. “Okay! I will! Thanks, Mommy!”
That night, I barely slept. My mind swirled with questions, doubts, and a growing unease. Jake had never given me a reason to doubt him before, but Ellie’s innocent comment planted seeds of suspicion. Who was this “pretty lady”? A friend? A neighbor? Or worse, someone I had never even heard of?
A concerned sleepless woman | Source: Midjourney
I also contemplated that my five-year-old might be imagining things, even though this did seem a bit extreme to have been made up. I decided not to confront my husband, and I made sure the stranger came to Ellie’s party because I wanted to see how things would play out.
The next evening, I decided to get more information. Over dinner, while my husband went to the bathroom, I casually asked Ellie, “Did you invite the pretty lady to your party?”
A woman talking to her daughter | Source: Midjourney
“Yep! She said she’d come for sure!” Ellie chirped, happily munching on her cereal.
I nearly dropped my glass of water, but by the time my husband returned, we’d moved on to a different conversation. I didn’t want him to find out about his secret guest and prevent us from meeting.
The day of the party arrived, and I was a bundle of nerves. The party started like any other, with friends and family filling our living room, kids running around with balloons, and Ellie over the moon. I tried to stay focused on hosting, but my eyes kept darting to the front door, half-expecting the mysterious visitor to show up.
Children at a birthday party | Source: Midjourney
An hour into the party, the doorbell rang. My stomach dropped. Jake was in the backyard helping Ellie with her cake, so I went to answer it. Standing on the porch was a young woman, maybe in her early twenties.
She had long dark hair and a shy smile, and she held a small gift bag in her hands.
“Hi, I’m Lila,” she said softly. “I’m here for Ellie’s party.”
Ellie came running to the door at that very moment, her face lighting up.
“It’s her! Mommy, it’s her! Daddy’s friend!”
An excited little girl looking at someone | Source: Midjourney
I stood frozen, trying to piece together what I was seeing, but managed to stammer out, “Oh! Uh… please come in.”
Ellie grabbed the woman’s hand and pulled her inside. She dragged Lila over to Jake, who went pale the second he saw her. He opened his mouth, closed it, and then sighed like a man walking to his doom.
“Lila,” he said, his voice low and uneasy. “I didn’t… I didn’t think you’d actually come.”
An embarrassed man | Source: Midjourney
“We need to talk,” I said, trying to keep my voice calm but firm. Jake nodded, clearly defeated, and led Lila and me into the kitchen, away from the chaos.
“Lee, please go play with your new toys with your school friends and cousins,” I dismissed our daughter to the backyard.
“Come on, Chantal! I’ll show you my new toys!” Ellie said, grabbing the hand of a little girl standing close by eating an ice cream cone. Meanwhile, the young woman looked awkward and out of place but followed Jake and me into the kitchen.
A shy woman | Source: Midjourney
The tension in the air was thick as Lila nervously fidgeted with the gift bag.
“I didn’t mean to cause trouble,” she began. “I just thought it would be nice to meet everyone, and Ellie invited me.”
“Who are you exactly?” I asked, my voice sharp despite my attempt to stay composed.
Lila glanced at Jake, who looked like he wanted to disappear. “I’m… Jake’s daughter.”
The words hit me like a freight train. “What?”
A shocked woman | Source: Midjourney
Lila tried explaining everything while my husband looked like he wanted to disappear into the floor. But when he finally spoke, his voice was barely above a whisper.
“Lila’s my daughter from before I met you. I didn’t know about her until a few months ago. Her mom never told me or her. Before she passed away earlier this year, she told Lila about me, and she tracked me and found me a few months ago. She introduced herself while you were at work. She wanted to meet her dad.”
An ashamed man talking | Source: Midjourney
“When she told me who she was, I didn’t believe her at first,” Jake admitted, looking sheepish. “I mean, it came out of nowhere. So I… I asked her for a DNA test.”
Lila nodded and showed me a copy of the paternity papers via her email.
“I understood his need for proof. It wasn’t easy to hear, but I brought a test when I came back the next time, and it’s true, he’s my dad,” she replied.
I scanned the document, my hands trembling. It was undeniable. I stared at him, stunned. “And you didn’t think to tell me?”
A shocked woman holding a phone | Source: Midjourney
“I didn’t know how,” he admitted, rubbing the back of his neck. “I was still processing it myself. I didn’t want to drop this on you until I was sure… or at least thought things through.”
“Okay,” I said, trying to steady my breathing. “But why does Ellie know about her?”
Jake looked sheepish. “Lila’s been visiting while you’re at work. She wanted to get to know the family, and Ellie… well, Ellie’s Ellie. She loves everyone.”
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“So your plan was to just… not tell me? Let a five-year-old do it for you?” I asked, my voice rising.
Jake flinched. “I know. I messed up. I just didn’t want to make things harder for you.”
Lila stepped forward, her eyes pleading.
“I’m really sorry. I never meant to cause problems. I just wanted to meet my dad and his family. Your daughter is such a sweet kid. She even showed me her drawings.”
“It’s okay, Lila. You can go join the party. Jake and I will wrap things up.”
A woman at a birthday party | Source: Midjourney
I sighed, overwhelmed but starting to see the bigger picture. Lila wasn’t some “other woman.” She was a young woman searching for family after losing her mom. And Jake, for all his flaws, was just trying to navigate a situation he’d never anticipated.
During our long conversation, the three of us had talked for what felt like hours. Lila shared stories about her life, her mom, and how she found Jake. My husband apologized profusely and repeatedly for keeping it from me, promising to be more open in the future. By the end of it, I still had a million feelings to sort through, but I could see their sincerity.
A woman deep in thought | Source: Midjourney
When my husband and I finally rejoined the party, Ellie was sitting with Lila, showing her a drawing she made of our family. She’d even added Lila, labeling her as “Big Sister.” My husband slipped an arm around my shoulders.
“I know this wasn’t how you imagined today would go,” he said quietly. “But I hope we can figure this out together.”
I nodded, leaning into him. “We will. But no more secrets, Jake.”
“Never again,” he promised.
A man making a vow | Source: Midjourney
In the weeks that followed, we began adjusting to our new reality. Lila, who had just started college in our city, became a regular visitor. Ellie adored her, and slowly, so did I. It wasn’t easy, but I could see how much Lila wanted to be part of our lives.
And honestly? It was starting to feel like she always had been. Meanwhile, Jake learned the hard way that secrets have a way of coming out, especially when a five-year-old is involved.
A happy woman playing with a little girl | Source: Midjourney
Ellie got her wish for her birthday, and in a way, so did we: a new, unexpected addition to our family. Sometimes life surprises you, and while it’s not always easy, it can lead to something beautiful.
A happy woman | Source: Midjourney
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This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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