Some things in life don’t need explanations—they just are. And one of those things? The universal truth that girls wear lipstick when they go out but almost never at home. It’s an unspoken rule, a beauty enigma, and a habit that many women instinctively follow without even realizing it. But why does this happen? What makes lipstick an essential when stepping outside but unnecessary in the comfort of home? If you’re a woman, you already know. If you’re not, prepare to have your mind blown.
The Power of Lipstick: More Than Just Makeup
Lipstick isn’t just a cosmetic product—it’s a confidence booster, a style statement, and sometimes even a form of self-expression. A bold red, a soft nude, or a daring plum shade can change the entire vibe of an outfit. But as soon as the front door closes behind her, that carefully applied lipstick magically disappears.
Why? Because lipstick has a purpose. It’s meant to enhance, captivate, and complete a look. At home, there’s no need to impress, no social expectations, and no reason to keep reapplying something that will only fade while binge-watching Netflix.
The Effort Factor: Lipstick Is High Maintenance
Let’s be real—lipstick is work. Unlike other makeup products like foundation or mascara, lipstick requires upkeep. It smudges, it fades, it transfers onto everything from coffee cups to shirt collars. When out in public, women are willing to go through the effort of checking their reflection every so often, blotting, reapplying, and making sure it doesn’t bleed.
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At home? No, thank you. Who wants to deal with lipstick stains on pillows or the dreaded moment when you absentmindedly rub your lips and smear it across your face?
The Comfort Zone: Bare Lips Feel Better
There’s something freeing about being at home—shoes come off, hair gets tied up, and makeup? It either comes off completely or gets toned down to the bare minimum. Lipstick, in particular, can feel heavy or dry after a few hours. Even the best formulas leave a noticeable texture, and nothing beats the natural feeling of bare, hydrated lips.
A swipe of lip balm? Absolutely. A creamy lipstick that requires maintenance? Not so much.
Social Standards: Looking Good for the Outside World
Like it or not, there’s a certain societal pressure to look polished in public. Lipstick is one of the quickest ways to transform a look from “just woke up” to “put together” in seconds. Even on no-makeup days, a little lip color can make it seem like effort was made.
But when it’s just you, the couch, and your favorite hoodie, who’s there to judge? Nobody. And that’s the beauty of it—girls don’t wear lipstick at home because they don’t need to.
The Ritual of Getting Ready
For many women, putting on lipstick is part of the “getting ready” ritual. It signals the transition from home mode to outside mode. The moment that lipstick glides on, it’s game time—whether that means heading to work, going out for brunch, or just running errands.
At home, that ritual isn’t necessary. The absence of lipstick signifies relaxation, comfort, and an environment free of expectations.
The Science Behind It: Lipstick and Mood Psychology
Believe it or not, there’s actual psychology behind the lipstick phenomenon. Studies have shown that wearing lipstick can boost confidence and even influence perception. A red lip, for instance, has been linked to increased feelings of power and attractiveness.
But at home, where comfort takes priority over power moves, there’s no need for that extra confidence boost. Women aren’t trying to project anything—they’re just being themselves.
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This is one of those things that doesn’t need to be taught—it’s just understood. Ask any woman, and she’ll instantly get it. Lipstick is for the world outside; natural lips are for home. It’s not laziness, nor is it a rejection of beauty. It’s simply an unwritten rule of self-care and practicality.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve ever wondered why the same girl who rocks a flawless lipstick outside suddenly ditches it the moment she steps through her front door, now you know. It’s a mix of comfort, practicality, and the simple joy of being makeup-free when no one’s watching.
Lipstick is a powerful tool, but at home, the only approval that matters is her own. And that’s a beauty rule only girls truly understand.
My Greedy In-Laws Tried to Get Rid of Our Sick Mom, but She Brilliantly Taught Them a Lesson
When Lexie’s husband’s parents are left to give up their home due to losing their jobs, they are left stranded. Seeing her husband’s distress at being unable to help, Lexie allows her mother to welcome them to stay with her. Things start off okay, but then the tables start to turn. Instead of being grateful, they start to complain about everything, resulting in a call to social services.
Not long after Cameron and I got married, his parents were faced with unfortunate circumstances. His mom, Jessica, and dad, Roger had no choice but to give up their home because Roger had lost his job.
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Cameron and I didn’t have the space to take them in. But they were desperate, and so were we. We couldn’t let them just try and figure it out for themselves.
When they realized that my mother lives alone, they asked her to let them move in with her. My mom had a double-story house, but due to being wheelchair bound since a car accident a few years ago, she had a live-in nurse to care for her.
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“Please, Tanya,” my mother-in-law said when we were all at my mother’s house for dinner. “We don’t have anywhere else to go. And we don’t have any money available at the moment.”
I knew that this entire thing affected my husband because there was only so much we could do in our own capacity. When my mother agreed, Cameron gripped onto my hand tightly and sighed in relief.
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“Of course, you can stay here. You can stay for as long as you need to,” my mother told them.
At first, things were okay.
My mother-in-law cooked meals, and my father-in-law mowed the grass and took care of the basic upkeep of the house.
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But then, things changed and social services got involved. It was a nightmare.
This is what happened.
My in-laws began complaining that my mom was occupying the whole first floor, something that was obvious. Since her accident, my sister and I had converted the first floor into an entire house by itself for my mother.
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She needed her space, and we were going to give it to her. The second floor was for our space when we visited Mom.
Instead of being grateful, my in-laws complained that they couldn’t put their stuff there. They mumbled about the simple food my mother had in her fridge.
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“It’s such basic foods. There’s nothing new or different here,” Roger would say.
But still, even though they complained, they didn’t try to buy their own food or food that they would have liked to eat on occasion.
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Nothing changed when Jessica got a job as head librarian at the local library or when Roger got a job as a proofreader for the local newspaper.
“Don’t you think they should start looking for a new place?” Cameron asked me when we were taking a walk one evening.
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“I’m sure your mom cannot wait to have the house back,” he said.
“Actually,” I replied. “I think she enjoys having people there. She always said that it was too quiet with just her and Linda.”
“Yeah, I get that,” he said. “But my parents can be a lot.”
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It was as if my husband had spoken it into existence.
One day, as I went over to my mother’s house with pastries, I found her looking upset.
“What’s wrong?” I asked her immediately.
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“Cameron’s parents,” she began slowly. “They’ve been hinting about a nursing home for me. I heard them talk about it last night, too.”
“Mom, do you want me to ask them to leave? They’re crossing the line,” I said, worried about her well-being.
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“Oh, honey,” she said, a mysterious smile forming on her face. “I’ll take care of everything, don’t you worry.”
A few days later, my mother-in-law called us crying.
“How could Tanya do that to us?” she asked.
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Apparently, my mother had told them to pack their things and move to the first floor because she was ready to move into a nursing home. She said that she needed the help and that she wanted to live a little easier.
Cameron’s parents thought that they had won the battle they created.
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Instead, my mother had called social services, telling them that she had two individuals who were living with her temporarily but needed the help.
The next day, people from social services arrived at my mother’s doorstep, ready to take Jessica and Roger away to their social housing facilities.
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They were livid.
Cameron and I met them at my mother’s house because they demanded an audience.
“This is outrageous! We thought we were moving downstairs, not out of the house!” my mother-in-law shrieked.
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“How dare she trick us like this! We have done everything for her these past few months,” my father-in-law added.
Beside me, my husband flinched. He was caught in the middle, not knowing what to do or how to react.
“You took advantage of her kindness and tried to push her into a nursing home. You got what you deserved,” I retorted, barely containing my own anger at their words.
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“You can’t just throw us out like this!” my mother-in-law protested.
“You’ve got a little place to live now,” my mother said, smiling. “But also, that’s not my problem. I helped you out, and you did nothing but complain. You didn’t want to be here. You were just here because you had no choice. Now, you can learn to fend for yourselves.”
Jessica was appalled. I don’t think she expected my mother to retaliate in that way.
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It was true, social services housed them in a little apartment which was close to both their jobs. They would be absolutely fine until they chose to move elsewhere.
As they left, they continued to curse, but it was clear that they had been defeated by the whole episode.
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“I’m sorry,” my husband told my mother when we settled her down again. “This was all my fault.”
It took a while for my mother to calm him down and make him realize that nothing was his fault.
“Your parents needed a place to stay, and they were welcome to do so here, but they continued to complain. They made life difficult here. Everything was a problem,” she said.
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I continued to work my way around the kitchen while they spoke. I knew that my husband needed a pick-me-up, so I made his favorite Indian dishes, hoping that it would do the trick.
If I had to admit it, I also felt like it was my fault. I should have objected to the move in the first place. But I knew that my in-laws needed a place to live when they lost their homes. And maybe it was because of guilt.
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Guilt born from the mere fact that Cameron and I couldn’t do it ourselves, that we both had allowed them to live with my mother.
As we got into bed that night, I told my husband that we needed to see his parents. We needed to make sure that they were okay, despite their horrible behavior, they needed to know that we still cared.
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The following day, we met them at their new apartment. It was a quaint little place, but it was just enough for the two of them. As we walked in, there were boxes lying everywhere and the smell of burnt toast permeated the air.
“I didn’t check the toaster setting,” Roger said, as his way of explaining.
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We ended up taking them to a café for lunch, where they admitted to their behavior.
“We were in the wrong,” my mother-in-law said. “We know that now. We saw an easy way to live with Tanya, and we just wanted more. But now, we have to make it work for ourselves.”
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I dug into my pancakes while Cameron let his parents have a piece of his mind. He went on about how they needed to be responsible for their actions and that nothing would make up for their behavior toward my mother.
“You embarrassed me. And you took advantage of my wife’s mother,” he said. “Do you know how that makes me feel?”
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I allowed him to talk his way through it, while his parents continued to eat their eggs benedict in silence.
As we drove home, my husband stopped to get my mother a bouquet of flowers.
“She deserves it,” he said.
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What would you have done?
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