This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Here’s Why Some Window Grills Curves At The Bottom, And I Had No Idea
Have you ever noticed windows that seem to have a bulge around the bars or a little potbelly? It’s possible that you’ve been wondering why those bars exist. Are they only decorative, or do they have a purpose?
In this post, we’ll explore the fascinating world of window bars and its peculiar potbellies.
So what is the purpose of the bars on windows?
Since window bars, also known as security bars, have been around for centuries, their primary function has been to protect buildings and residences from intruders and burglaries.
Their function is to protect the windows from unauthorized entrance.
However, not all window bars are created equal. Some people have a distinct feature known as a potbelly. The “potbelly” is a little protrusion or bulge in the middle of the bar.
This unique design feature serves a number of functions and improves window bars’ functionality.
Flower boxes are commonly held in place with potbelly bars. Beautiful flowers and plants have a platform and strong support from the potbelly.
By allowing residents to add some beauty and flora to their windows, this improves the building’s overall appearance.
It would be amazing to go down a street where every window is decorated with bright flowers!
Air conditioning units can be accommodated by window bars with potbellies, which provides another practical usage. Many homes and buildings have air conditioning installed through the windows.
The potbelly’s additional space allows this equipment to be positioned safely.
Fitting window bars with a potbelly will ensure proper ventilation and cooling without compromising security.
If you’re looking for window bars with potbellies for your own home or building, there are a few places you may start looking.
Local hardware stores and home improvement centers provide a variety of window protection choices, including bars with potbellies.
To find the perfect fit for your windows, try out different compositions, styles, and coatings.
In addition to established merchants, the internet is a terrific resource for window bars.
Many online retailers that focus on home security systems provide a wide selection of window bars with potbellies.
You can rapidly browse through a range of products, compare prices, and read user reviews to make an informed decision.
When choosing window bars, it’s crucial to consider both the specific needs of your windows and the level of security you want.
For the strongest and longest-lasting bars, look for ones made of durable materials like steel or wrought iron.
It’s important to consider the bars’ appearance and how they will fit in with the overall style of your home or structure.
As soon as you receive your potbellied window bars, it’s imperative that you have them properly fitted. Poor installation can make them less effective and perhaps dangerous.
If you are unsure about the installation process, it is best to consult a professional or the manufacturer.
Keep in mind that while potbelly window bars boost security, they shouldn’t be thought of as the only defense.
It is imperative to have a comprehensive security plan that includes elements such as alarm systems, sturdy doors, and sufficient lighting.
We will work together to create a safe environment for you and your loved ones to live in.
Potbelly window bars are both aesthetically beautiful and practical.
They protect against unauthorized access, provide an extra degree of security, and provide as a platform for flower boxes or air conditioners.
Whether you want to add a little beauty with blooming flowers or boost the safety of your home, window bars with potbellies can be a valuable addition to your windows.
The next time you see a window with bars and a potbelly, you’ll know precisely what it is!
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