This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Online influencer sparks viral firestorm, says she’s ‘too pretty’ to work
A controversial statement made by an online influencer is that she is “too pretty” to work for the rest of her life.
With a recent TikTok post, well-known influencer Lucy Welcher, who has a sizable online following, started a social media firestorm. The dispute? Welcher said she is “too pretty” to work in a conventional setting.
The Influencer’s Backlash and the Go-Viral Video
Welcher, who is well-known for her opulent lifestyle videos, expressed her dislike of working a regular nine to five job in the now-deleted video. She bemoaned the thought of having to get up early every day and asked herself if her attractive appearance was a match for the grind. Many viewers found offense at this careless comment.
The influencer received a lot of backlash for her post. Welcher came under fire from commenters for being conceited and superficial. They emphasized the value of having a strong work ethic and the erroneous belief that someone’s beauty should absolve them of social responsibility. A user satirically pointed out Welcher’s conceited sense of importance, while another drew attention to the discrepancy between work ethic and attractiveness.
Despite everything, I am grateful for your kindness and support. #greenscreen#ratingthings#starbucks
Welcher tried to douse the fires when he saw the outcry. She said she was being unfairly targeted, so she removed the old video and uploaded a new one. She answered online accusations about her lifestyle with a sarcastic response. She refuted rumors that she lived in a home, had expensive automobiles, or earned enormous sums of money.
A Second Opinion: Comedy or Ongoing Debate?
A few days later, Welcher uploaded a “remake” of the original video, as if reveling in the publicity. This time, some viewers took her words as a joke, which resulted in a more positive response. Supporters flocked to the influencer’s defense; some even jokingly agreed with the idea that one’s beauty serves as an excuse to avoid work.
Reimagining of the most despised video I’ve ever created: #SephoraGiveOrKeep #workable #funny
The difficulties with humor on social media are made clear by this episode. Welcher’s initial video didn’t go well because it lacked context. The incident serves as a reminder of how easily messages can be misconstrued while communicating online, emphasizing the importance of being explicit in all communications, even when comedy is included.
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