How we choose to raise our children and the lessons we decide to ingrain in them from an early age differs from parent to parent.
It’s only natural, of course. Some mothers and fathers take a more disciplined approach, for example, while others prefer to let their kids go through a try and fail cycle so that they can learn right and wrong through their own experiences.
Now, for the most part, how one chooses to style their son or daughter’s upbringing is their business, no one else’s. Yet that doesn’t stop people commenting and criticizing online every time a debate is sparked over some parental decision or another…
I remember when I was younger, doing chores was considered part and parcel of everyday life. I mean for me and my siblings, of course, not only my mother.
Doing dishes, making beds, helping to prepare food before mealtimes… the list goes on and on.
I understand times change, but in my mind getting children to help out with tasks around the house – providing there’s no danger involved – is a great way to instill values and a worth ethic that will come in handy later on.
It seems, though, that not everyone agrees. According to reports, one mother found this out the hard way a few years back after she uploaded pictures of her son and shared her method of giving him chores to do with the internet.
The mom in question, 22-year-old Nikkole Paulun, reportedly explained how she proudly put her 7-year-old son, Lyle, to work around the house, where he would help out with things like cooking and cleaning.
Nothing too dramatic, I’m sure we can all agree, but that didn’t stop online detractors from verbally attacking her and expressing concern over the potential impact on the child’s emotional well-being.
The bulk of the critics targeted the fact that the mother had shared her son’s chores online, not only potentially making other parents question themselves, but also flagging the idea that the child might not want to have his daily activities shared with a large number of strangers online.
One woman went as far as to write in the comments that Nikkole couldn’t just let her child “be your slave. Or to do the chores that you yourself don’t want to do.”
Another wrote: “So I take it you can do everything ur teaching ur son to do or are you just putting pressure on ur child?”
A third added: “Don’t get me wrong… a child should know responsibility. .. but should not be operating a stove that young.“
A fourth wrote: “Lazy mother’s are sweeping the country. It’s good to teach them while they’re young but i notice alot of these single mom’s are just raising their boy’s to be the man that they wish they always had.“
There were many who defended Nikkole in the comments, too, with her post gaining viral status after it garnered over 8,000 comments and 156,000 interactions on Facebook.
Nikkole herself insisted that she enjoys doing housework and that her son Lyle “just helps along the way & earns allowance as well.
What’s more, she added that her then-one-year-old daughter, Ellie, would be following in her elder siblings steps and doing the same thing when she was a little older.
What do you think to Nikkole’s parenting approach and the criticism she got for it? Let us know your thoughts in the comments box.
Single Mom of Four Buys Used Car, Owner Tells Her to Look In Trunk When She Gets Home
With four small children under her care, Jennifer was left a single mother after her husband, Adam, unexpectedly left when he learned she was expecting their fourth child. “One more kid to feed? Not at all! His final words as he left their trailer and filed for divorce were, “I’ve had enough!” Devastated, Jennifer found it impossible to provide for her family without Adam’s assistance, particularly given their preexisting financial struggles.
Adam ceased giving any money after the divorce, saying he was unemployed and couldn’t find work because he didn’t have a college degree. Jennifer was desperate to support her kids, and she realized she needed to get a job. While looking for work, she was consistently turned down by companies who would often point out that it was hard to hire a woman with little children. Unfazed, she continued looking for work in a nearby city, paying for a cab ride with the little cash she had while neighbors watched her kids.
When she discovered a vacancy for a housekeeping position at a nearby hotel, her perseverance paid off. She was employed right away by the HR manager, who was keen to fill roles before the hectic summer season. Jennifer went back home, thrilled to have found a job, to tell her children about her good fortune. But the daily taxi rides soon got too expensive, and she started thinking about getting a car.
Though Jennifer wasn’t sure whether she could afford it, she came across a secondhand car that appeared to be ideal for her needs. She went over to the owner, told him what had happened, and asked if he would sell the automobile for $5,000. Jeff, the owner, was moved by her narrative and agreed to the cheaper price as long as she could pay by the next day. However, because of her bad credit, Jennifer’s loan application was quickly turned down.
When Jennifer ran out of options, she made an extremely painful choice. To raise the required money, she made the decision to sell a gold chain necklace that belonged to her late mother. After she brought the necklace to a pawnshop, the value was $5500, which was sufficient to pay for the car and several other urgent necessities.
Jennifer came back to the dealership the following day with $5,000 in cash. Jeff complimented her on her purchase and grinned as he took the money. Jeff added that he had left something for her kids in the car’s trunk as she was getting ready to leave.
Before long, Jennifer’s life was consumed by work and taking care of her kids, and she forgot about Jeff’s final remarks until she found a note in the glove box. She was shocked to see the same white envelope she had used to pay for the automobile when she eventually checked the trunk, as the note had advised her to do. The whole $5,000 was there, undamaged.
Jennifer went back to the dealership to express her sincere gratitude to Jeff for his amazing gift. “The world throws challenges at you, and it’s up to you to either rise from these challenges or succumb to them,” Jeff stated with a simple smile. I think you deserve the money more than I do, and I’m proud of you for standing by your kids. Just remember to give back as well.
With tears in her eyes, Jennifer departed the dealership, knowing that Jeff’s generosity had not only reduced her financial load but also given her newfound hope in the goodness of humanity.
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