How we choose to raise our children and the lessons we decide to ingrain in them from an early age differs from parent to parent.
It’s only natural, of course. Some mothers and fathers take a more disciplined approach, for example, while others prefer to let their kids go through a try and fail cycle so that they can learn right and wrong through their own experiences.
Now, for the most part, how one chooses to style their son or daughter’s upbringing is their business, no one else’s. Yet that doesn’t stop people commenting and criticizing online every time a debate is sparked over some parental decision or another…
I remember when I was younger, doing chores was considered part and parcel of everyday life. I mean for me and my siblings, of course, not only my mother.
Doing dishes, making beds, helping to prepare food before mealtimes… the list goes on and on.
I understand times change, but in my mind getting children to help out with tasks around the house – providing there’s no danger involved – is a great way to instill values and a worth ethic that will come in handy later on.
It seems, though, that not everyone agrees. According to reports, one mother found this out the hard way a few years back after she uploaded pictures of her son and shared her method of giving him chores to do with the internet.
The mom in question, 22-year-old Nikkole Paulun, reportedly explained how she proudly put her 7-year-old son, Lyle, to work around the house, where he would help out with things like cooking and cleaning.
Nothing too dramatic, I’m sure we can all agree, but that didn’t stop online detractors from verbally attacking her and expressing concern over the potential impact on the child’s emotional well-being.
The bulk of the critics targeted the fact that the mother had shared her son’s chores online, not only potentially making other parents question themselves, but also flagging the idea that the child might not want to have his daily activities shared with a large number of strangers online.
One woman went as far as to write in the comments that Nikkole couldn’t just let her child “be your slave. Or to do the chores that you yourself don’t want to do.”
Another wrote: “So I take it you can do everything ur teaching ur son to do or are you just putting pressure on ur child?”
A third added: “Don’t get me wrong… a child should know responsibility. .. but should not be operating a stove that young.“
A fourth wrote: “Lazy mother’s are sweeping the country. It’s good to teach them while they’re young but i notice alot of these single mom’s are just raising their boy’s to be the man that they wish they always had.“
There were many who defended Nikkole in the comments, too, with her post gaining viral status after it garnered over 8,000 comments and 156,000 interactions on Facebook.
Nikkole herself insisted that she enjoys doing housework and that her son Lyle “just helps along the way & earns allowance as well.
What’s more, she added that her then-one-year-old daughter, Ellie, would be following in her elder siblings steps and doing the same thing when she was a little older.
What do you think to Nikkole’s parenting approach and the criticism she got for it? Let us know your thoughts in the comments box.
I Invited My New Friend to My House — The Moment She Saw My Husband, She Nearly Lunged at Him
When Rachel invites her new friend Mary over for dinner, the night takes an unexpected turn. The moment Mary sees Rachel’s husband, she flies into a rage and makes a shocking accusation. Stunned and caught between her friend and her husband, Rachel’s perfect life begins to unravel.
On paper, Dan and I are that annoyingly perfect suburban family – you know the type. I’ve got the marketing manager gig, Dan’s killing it as a software developer, and we live with our gorgeous four-year-old, Ethan, in one of those houses with the manicured lawns and the neighborhood BBQs.
But lately, I’d been feeling like something was missing, even though I couldn’t put my finger on what. So I did what any self-respecting millennial does when faced with an existential crisis: I joined a fitness class.
And that’s where I met Mary.
Mary was different. In a good way. She was our instructor, all toned muscles and infectious energy. Single mom to a sweet little girl named Cindy. From day one, we just clicked.
“Come on, Rachel!” she’d yell during burpees, grinning like a maniac. “You’ve got this! Channel that boardroom boss energy!”
I’d be lying if I said her enthusiasm wasn’t a little terrifying at first. But soon enough, I found myself looking forward to our sessions, and not just for the endorphin high.
After class one day, as I was chugging water and trying not to collapse, Mary plopped down next to me.
“So,” she said, her eyes twinkling. “Lunch tomorrow? There’s this new place downtown that does amazing salads. And before you say no, remember, we earned it!”
And just like that, we fell into a rhythm. Workouts, lunches, shopping trips where we’d try on ridiculous outfits and laugh until our sides hurt. It felt like being in college again, having a best friend to share everything with.
“God, I needed this,” I told her one day over sushi. “Don’t get me wrong, I love my family, but sometimes…”
Mary nodded, popping a California roll into her mouth. “Sometimes you need to remember you’re more than just ‘mom’ or ‘wife,’ right? I get it. Being Cindy’s mom is the best thing that ever happened to me, but it’s nice to be just Mary sometimes, too.”
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
Weeks flew by, and suddenly Mary wasn’t just my trainer or my friend, she was family. Which is why, on that fateful Tuesday, I decided it was time for her to meet my actual family.
“Dinner at our place this weekend?” I asked as we cooled down after a particularly brutal HIIT session. “You can bring Cindy. Ethan would love a playmate.”
Mary’s face lit up. “Seriously? That sounds amazing! I’ll bring dessert. I hope your hubby likes apple pie!”
I spent all of Saturday in a cleaning frenzy, much to Dan’s amusement.
“Babe, it’s just dinner with a friend,” he said, watching me scrub the kitchen counter for the third time. “Not a visit from the Queen.”
I rolled my eyes. “I want everything to be perfect.”
Dan held up his hands in surrender, but I caught the smile on his face. He was happy for me, I knew. I’d been talking about Mary non-stop for weeks.
By six o’clock, the house smelled amazing (if I do say so myself), and I was putting the finishing touches on the table when the doorbell rang.
“I’ve got it!” I called out, smoothing my dress as I headed for the door. With a deep breath and a bright smile, I swung it open.
There stood Mary, looking gorgeous in a flowy summer dress, Cindy peeking out shyly from behind her legs. In Mary’s hands were a bottle of wine and what I assumed was the promised apple pie.
“Hey, you made it!” I said, ushering them in. “Come on in, let me take that.”
And that’s when everything went straight to hell.
I heard Dan’s footsteps behind me, probably coming to say hello. But the moment Mary’s eyes landed on him, it was like someone had flipped a switch.
The warm, friendly expression I’d grown so used to vanished, replaced by something I’d never seen before: pure, unadulterated shock, quickly followed by a rage so intense it made me take a step back.
The wine bottle slipped from Mary’s fingers, shattering on the floor. The sound seemed to snap her out of her trance, and suddenly she was moving, pushing past me with a fury that left me speechless.
“YOU!?” she screamed, jabbing a finger at Dan. “I’M CALLING THE POLICE!”
I stood there, mouth hanging open, trying to make sense of what was happening. Dan looked just as confused, his face pale as he held up his hands.
“I-I’m sorry,” he stammered, “but I’ve never seen you before in my life.”
Wrong thing to say. Mary’s eyes flashed dangerously, and for a second, I thought she might actually hit him.
“DON’T LIE!” she yelled, her voice cracking.
“This man,” she gestured wildly at Dan, “is Cindy’s father! He left us when I was pregnant, just disappeared! How dare you lie!”
The words hit me like a physical blow. I felt dizzy, like the floor was tilting beneath my feet. This couldn’t be happening. This was some kind of sick joke, right?
“Mary,” I managed to choke out, “what are you talking about? There has to be some mistake.”
But Mary wasn’t listening. She was digging frantically in her purse, muttering under her breath.
Finally, she pulled out her phone, swiping through it with shaking hands before shoving it in my face.
“Look!” she demanded. “Look at this photo and tell me that isn’t him!”
I stared at the screen, my heart pounding so hard I could hear it. The photo showed a younger Mary, beaming at the camera, her arm around a man who looked… God, who looked exactly like Dan.
Same eyes, same smile, even the same little scar on his chin from a childhood bike accident.
“That’s… that can’t be…” I whispered, looking between the phone and my husband. Dan’s face had gone from confused to alarmed.
“Rachel, honey, I swear I don’t know what’s going on,” he said, reaching for me. But I flinched away, my mind reeling.
Mary let out a sound somewhere between a laugh and a sob. “Of course, he’s denying it. That’s what he does, isn’t it? Run away and pretend it never happened?”
I felt like I was drowning, desperately trying to make sense of what was happening.
How could my Dan have abandoned a pregnant woman? But then… why would Mary lie about something like this?
“We need proof,” I heard myself saying, surprised at how steady my voice sounded. “A DNA test. That’s the only way to know for sure.”
Mary nodded fiercely, while Dan just looked shell-shocked. “Fine,” he said quietly. “If that’s what it takes to prove I’m telling the truth.”
The next few days were a blur.
I moved through life on autopilot. Dan tried to talk to me, to explain, but what was there to say? Either he was telling the truth and this was all some cosmic misunderstanding, or my entire marriage was built on a lie.
When the results finally came, I insisted we all be there. Dan, Mary, and me, sitting around our kitchen table like some twisted parody of a family meeting. My hands shook as I opened the envelope.
I don’t remember the exact words. Just that feeling of the world dropping out from under me as I read the results. Positive match. 99.9% probability.
Dan was Cindy’s father.
The silence that followed was deafening. I looked up to see Dan, white as a sheet, shaking his head.
“This is impossible,” he whispered. “I don’t… I don’t understand. I’ve never seen her before, I swear!”
Mary’s laugh was bitter. “Still lying, even now? God, you really are a piece of work.”
But something in Dan’s voice made me pause. The confusion, the genuine shock… it didn’t seem like an act. Could he really not remember?
As Mary gathered her things to leave, promising we’d talk more once everyone had time to process the news, I found myself standing in my living room, feeling like a stranger in my own life.
Dan hovered nearby, clearly wanting to comfort me but unsure if he should.
“Rachel,” he said softly. “I know this is… God, I don’t even know what this is. But I love you. You and Ethan, you’re my world.”
“Please, just… tell me what you need,” he said. “Tell me how to fix this.”
But I didn’t have an answer. What would you do if you found out the man you love had been hiding a secret this big? Could you ever trust him again? Or would you walk away from everything you’ve built?
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