When people fall in love, they often make big changes for each other. They might quit bad habits, eat differently, or dress better. But when it comes to pets, things can get tricky.
A 22-year-old man shared his problem on Reddit. His girlfriend of seven months told him he had to choose: give up his cat, Mittens, or end their relationship.
His girlfriend is a dedicated vegan and believes that having a cat goes against her values.
He explained in his post: “I’ve been dating my girlfriend for seven months. She’s amazing, and we get along great in many ways. She’s a strong vegan and told me early on that she wants her partner to share her cruelty-free lifestyle. Since I was already a pescatarian, it wasn’t hard for me to switch to a plant-based diet. She was proud of me for going cruelty-free, and we became known as ‘the vegan couple’ on our college campus.”
Vegan Girlfriend’s Shocking Demand: Boyfriend Must Choose Between Her and His Cat!
When people fall in love, they often make big changes for each other. They might quit bad habits, eat differently, or dress better. But when it comes to pets, things can get tricky.
A 22-year-old man shared his problem on Reddit. His girlfriend of seven months told him he had to choose: give up his cat, Mittens, or end their relationship.
His girlfriend is a dedicated vegan and believes that having a cat goes against her values.
He explained in his post: “I’ve been dating my girlfriend for seven months. She’s amazing, and we get along great in many ways. She’s a strong vegan and told me early on that she wants her partner to share her cruelty-free lifestyle. Since I was already a pescatarian, it wasn’t hard for me to switch to a plant-based diet. She was proud of me for going cruelty-free, and we became known as ‘the vegan couple’ on our college campus.”
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However, the issue of his cat, Mittens, was always in the background. “I’ve had her for three years and I love her. She’s so sweet and cuddly. But my girlfriend was always a bit nervous around her, saying it was because she didn’t grow up with cats. So, we kind of agreed to hang out at her place more, and we didn’t really talk about Mittens again.”
Their relationship grew stronger during the pandemic, and they started talking about moving in together. This led to a serious conversation where his girlfriend surprised him by saying she couldn’t see a future with him unless he gave up Mittens. She believed owning a cat went against vegan principles because cats hunt and eat meat.
“I was shocked,” he wrote. “I told her there was no way I would give up Mittens. I explained that I was doing my best to minimize harm by buying reputable cat food. Many vegans own cats and feel the same way. But my girlfriend got angry and asked, ‘How much meat does your cat eat? How many animals died to make that food? Would you be okay if it was human meat?’”
Frustrated, he left her apartment and went home to cuddle with Mittens. Later, his girlfriend sent him a link to a Reddit thread about why domestic cats should go extinct.
He ended his post by saying: “I’m not going to get rid of my cat. But it hurts to think our otherwise great relationship might end because of this. I don’t really get where she’s coming from, because lots of vegans own cats.”
In a subsequent update on r/relationship_advice, he clarified that his girlfriend’s extreme views on domestic cats were not representative of the vegan/vegetarian community as a whole. “I do think that, sometimes, new vegans can be a little overzealous. In reality, most of us are just doing the best that we can to not hurt animals!”
He also revealed that they had broken up. “I would never, ever give up my cat Mittens,” he said. Reflecting on the situation, he admitted: “Many users said that this situation was about control, not veganism, and looking back, I do see a pattern of control on my girlfriend’s part.”
Ultimately, he decided that parting ways was the best decision given the issues in their relationship. Would you have done the same in this situation?
I Found Out My Husband’s Dark Secret on Our First Wedding Night
In a tale of vulnerability and love, Jenny and Alex navigate the aftermath of a childhood trauma that surfaces on their wedding night. As Jenny learns the depth of Alex’s anxiety, sparked by a terrifying incident from his past, she steps into a role of understanding and support.
Falling head over heels for Alex was like diving into a mystery novel where the ending is always a surprise. We met in what felt like a whirlwind romance; it didn’t take long for us to decide that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We chose to wait, keeping our relationship purely emotional and spiritual, which honestly made us connect on a level I didn’t know existed.
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Alex, with his guarded heart, hinted at a dark chapter from his childhood, one he wasn’t ready to share. Knowing he trusted me with even that small admission made our bond even stronger. It’s like we’re in this love story together, figuring out each chapter as we go.
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During our wedding planning, hints of Alex’s past and his secret started to surface more often. I noticed, but I didn’t want to push him into sharing something he wasn’t ready to reveal. It left me with a mix of curiosity and respect for Alex’s privacy, choosing to focus on the love and excitement of our upcoming marriage. Even when I tried to express my concerns, my mother-in-law would quickly dismiss them, assuring me everything was fine.
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My relationship with Mrs. Green, Alex’s mom, blossomed into something truly special. She was not just a mother-in-law but a friend and confidante. When it came time to pick out presents for Alex’s birthday and Christmas, she was my go-to advisor, ensuring each gift was both meaningful and personal.
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The gesture that sealed our bond was when she entrusted me with their family heirloom ring—a symbol of acceptance and trust. It wasn’t just a piece of jewelry; it was a welcoming into the family, a testament to the loving and trusting relationship we shared.
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After our amazing wedding day, filled with dancing, heartfelt speeches, and so much love, Alex and I were completely worn out by the time we got to our room. Every moment was special, from the emotional vows to the wild dance floor moves and the endless photos with everyone. Honestly, just thinking about how we managed to stay on our feet through it all is making me tired all over again.
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Settling into bed felt like a blissful escape, a moment to finally breathe and let the day’s joy truly sink in. But even amidst our exhaustion, there was this beautiful sense of beginning our life together, a mix of excitement and a deep, comforting tiredness.
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As I waited in bed, wearing my best garments, I heard him whispering something to his mom behind the door. Mrs. Green? What was she doing here? No way she would turn into one of those mothers-in-law, who need to instruct their precious son on the first night! Or worse, could she be here to instruct me?
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“Mom, I can’t do it. Can you come in?”
My heart raced as the door opened. I sheepishly pulled the covers up to my chin and stared at them in disbelief.
“What’s going on?”
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After a brief moment of silence, during which Mrs. Green seemingly calculated her response, she turned to her son, wide-eyed. “Wait. Have you told her about the—”
Alex shook his head.
“Then do! What have you been thinking about?! The poor thing must be thinking we’re a pair of weirdos!”
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Alex looked me deep in the eye before heaving a sigh and beginning to unravel his biggest secret.
“When I was just 5 years old, the unthinkable happened—a burglar shattered the peace of our home by breaking in through my bedroom window. That night, under the cover of darkness, my world changed forever. The intruder’s silhouette, a menacing presence in my sanctuary, left me frozen in terror, unable to cry out or escape. The aftermath of that violation was a deep, pervasive fear that clung to me, long after the broken glass was swept away and the window secured.
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“In the nights that followed, my bedroom felt like a battlefield, each shadow a reminder of my vulnerability. Sleep, once a refuge, became an insurmountable challenge. But in the midst of my fear, my mother became my guardian angel.
“Night after night, she sat by my bed, her presence a beacon of safety in the darkness. With the soft timbre of her voice, she’d weave stories of courage and adventure, heroes who faced their fears and emerged victorious. Her words, gentle and reassuring, were a balm to my frightened soul, coaxing me toward the calm shores of sleep.
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“These bedtime stories, more than mere tales, became our ritual, a shared journey back to a sense of normalcy and security. My mother’s unwavering patience and love taught me that, even in the face of paralyzing fear, there is a wellspring of strength within us, a resilience that can be nurtured and grown.
“Since that terrifying night, my mother has been my steadfast companion in the quest for peace as I drift off to sleep, her presence a reminder that even in our darkest moments, we are not alone.”
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Learning Alex’s secret left me reeling, a mix of emotions swirling within me. At first, there was shock, the depth of his trauma more profound than I’d imagined. Then came understanding, a realization of the weight he’d been carrying all these years. My heart ached for him, for the child he was and the man he’s become.
With this knowledge, there was also a strengthening of resolve, a determination to be the support he needs. Love, after all, means standing together, especially in the face of hidden battles.
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“So… how do I help you?” I asked, taking his hand. The atmosphere in the room suddenly turned warm and fuzzy, like a fluffy blanket.
“When Alex is feeling anxious or overwhelmed, especially at night, cuddling him in a specific way has always helped soothe him,” Mrs. Green began, her voice calm and reassuring. “Hold him close, with his head resting near your heart. It’s a method that’s comforted him since he was a child.
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“Though he’s mostly outgrown the need for this, his anxiety can still get the better of him during stressful times. It’s important to be patient and understanding, offering him that physical reassurance. This approach has often been the key to helping him find peace and fall asleep.”
In that tender night, as I cuddled Alex in the way his mother had described, I felt a profound connection between us. His head rested near my heart, and gradually, his tense body relaxed into the embrace. Despite the initial shock of learning about his anxiety, understanding washed over me, bringing a deep sense of empathy and readiness to support him.
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As he finally drifted off to sleep, the weight of his worries seemed to lighten. Mrs. Green, witnessing this moment, quietly left the room with a silent nod of approval and gratitude in her eyes. It was clear she was at peace, knowing her son was in caring hands.
After that pivotal night, Alex and I have come a long way. We’ve opened up more, really diving deep into understanding and supporting each other’s needs. Learning to soothe his anxiety became a part of our life, and honestly, it’s brought us closer.
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We tackled his vulnerabilities head-on, finding strength in each other. Our journey’s been like a crash course in love, empathy, and resilience. It’s amazing how facing challenges together has only made our bond stronger. Just wanted to share our little victory—love really does conquer all.
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