A vet has warned how a ‘hug’ can make a dog feel, and it’s not necessarily what you would expect
A vet has warned that it could be a bad idea to ‘hug’ your dog, as it could have the opposite effect on them to what us humans feel.
There’s nothing nicer than coming home from a long day at work to your furry friend scurrying as fast as they can to the door to greet you.
Your natural reaction is usually to bend down and give them a big cuddle, and whilst it might look like they’re loving every second – it might not be what they’re really feeling.
Dog experts are now warning owners to find different ways of showing their love.
According to a vet who spoke to Psychology Today, a hug can actually make a dog feel quite anxious and trapped – this is because a dog’s primary defence is to run away.
Psychologist Stanley Coren explained: “Yes, your dog may leap into your lap and kiss your face, cuddle against your neck, and beg you to rub her belly.
“But that’s not ‘hugging.’
“In my experience, many dogs don’t enjoy having a human move one or two arms around their shoulders and squeeze.
“That’s the hug we are talking about.”
Behaviour Vets author Lauren Novack believes dogs who do enjoy hugs are a complete ‘exception’, reports Daily Paws.
She said: “When dogs don’t like something and politely ask for space over and over again to no avail, they’re likely to escalate their communication to growling or biting.
“I don’t want dogs to be stressed, and I don’t want humans to get bitten. For most dogs, hugs are stressful.”
Stanley previously analysed 250 photos of dogs being given hugs, and he found that in 80% of the images, the dogs showed signs of looking stressed.
And he noted that this can be indicated by a dog lowers their ears, closing their eyes, or turning away from the source of anxiety.
And the psychologist has now revealed some much better alternatives.
He said: “The clear recommendation to come out of this research is to save your hugs for your two-footed family members and lovers.
“It is clearly better from the dog’s point of view if you express your fondness for your pet with a pat, a kind word, and maybe a treat.”
And the last thing we want to do is upset our furry babies, so we’re definitely going to take this advice on board!
My Sister Showed Up After 15 Years of Silence, Begging for Help, but Her Visit Shattered My Family — Story of the Day
Fifteen years of marriage felt unshakable—until the night my estranged sister, Megan, showed up at my door with nothing but a suitcase and a storm of secrets. What began as an unexpected reunion unraveled into betrayal, lies, and truths I never imagined. Because of that night, my world changed forever.
My husband, Michael, and I sat together in the kitchen, the soft glow of candlelight creating a romantic atmosphere. We were celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary, and I felt special wearing the exquisite earrings Michael had given me earlier.
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Their delicate sparkle caught my eye as I glanced at their reflection in my wine glass.
Everything about the moment felt warm and perfect, a quiet escape from life’s usual worries.
Michael lifted his glass with a smile. “Here’s to us,” he said, his voice warm. “To fifteen years of marriage, to love, and to sticking together through all the challenges.”
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We clinked glasses, but my chest tightened. I understood what he meant by challenges.
He was thinking of the heartbreak we had endured, the years of trying for a child, only to discover Michael was infertile.
A sudden knock broke the silence. I frowned. “Who would show up at this hour?” I asked.
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Michael sighed. “If it’s Tom, tell him I’m not here.” I knew why—he still hadn’t returned Tom’s hammer.
I laughed, shaking my head, and went to answer the door. But as I opened it, my breath caught.
My heart seemed to stop. Standing there was someone I hadn’t seen in fifteen years.
“Megan…” I whispered, staring at her in disbelief.
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“Hi, sis,” she replied softly, her face pale and tired.
“What… what are you doing here?” I managed to ask, stepping aside to let her in. She dragged a small suitcase behind her, the wheels scraping against the floor.
“I… I left Henry,” she said, her voice trembling. Her eyes filled with tears as she struggled to speak. “I didn’t know where else to go. I have no one left. But if you don’t want me here, I’ll understand.”
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Before she could say more, I pulled her into a hug. I hadn’t seen my younger sister in 15 years.
The years, the distance, the reason for her leaving—all of it faded as I held her tightly. She hugged me back, her body shaking as she sobbed into my shoulder.
“Where’s your son?” I asked after a moment, stepping back to look at her. Megan had moved to another state when she got pregnant, and I hadn’t heard from her since.
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“She’s a girl. Rose,” Megan said, wiping her eyes. “She’s at a camp right now. I didn’t want to involve her in all this yet.”
I nodded, unsure what to say.
Just then, Michael’s voice called from the kitchen. “Did you tell Tom I wasn’t here, and he stormed off in a huff?” He walked into the room, holding his glass. When his eyes landed on Megan, he froze.
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“Hi, Michael,” Megan said, her voice sharp and cold.
Michael’s face tightened. “Hello,” he muttered before turning and walking out of the room without another word.
“Don’t mind him,” I said quickly, trying to ease the tension. “You know how he is.”
“Unfortunately, I do,” Megan replied, her tone colder than before.
Megan and I sat at the kitchen table while I prepared us some tea. The quiet clinking of the cups felt heavy, like the calm before a storm.
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Once we sat down, I looked at her and asked softly, “What happened with Henry?”
She sighed, her shoulders slumping as if the weight of her story had been crushing her. “It was awful from the start—well, not right away,” she said. “After Rose was born, things seemed okay for a little while. I thought we could make it work.”
Her face tightened. “But then Henry changed. He became cruel, distant. He wouldn’t help with Rose. I spent everything I had on her because he wouldn’t give me a dime.”
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I frowned. “You mean he refused to support his own child?”
Megan nodded. “When I demanded support, he made everything worse. He yelled, threatened… it was unbearable.” Her hands trembled as she spoke, and I felt my chest tighten.
Megan avoided giving too many details about Henry, but her broken tone and tired eyes told me enough.
“Why didn’t you call me?” I asked, my voice trembling. “Why go through all of that alone? I would’ve been there for you.”
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She looked away, her hands gripping the edge of the table. “Helen, stop. We both know why. After what I did… you wouldn’t have forgiven me. Not that easily.”
I shook my head, frustrated and hurt. “You’re my sister. I would’ve helped you, no matter what. But you blocked my number. You didn’t even tell me how to find you. You cut me off completely.”
“I was young,” she said, her voice breaking. “I was stupid and guilty. I thought you hated me.”
I sighed and pulled her into a hug. “I never hated you,” I whispered.
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After a while, I sent Megan to the guest room to rest. I made my way to the bedroom, where Michael lay on the bed with his back to the door. I recognized this posture. He only did that when he was upset.
“Why are you sulking?” I asked.
“You know why,” he muttered without turning to face me.
“Is it because of Megan?” I pressed.
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Michael sat up suddenly, his face tight with anger. “Do you not remember how she left, Helen? She stole from you! She took your things, blocked your number, and vanished!”
“I know,” I said quietly. “But it’s been so many years.”
“She took your wedding ring!” he snapped. “And other jewelry. How can you forget that?”
“Maybe she’s changed,” I said.
“People don’t change,” he said, lying back down and turning away from me again. His voice was flat, final, as if no other possibility could exist.
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Megan stayed with us for a few days. Each day, Michael’s irritation seemed to grow.
He avoided Megan completely, barely looking at her or speaking a single word. Then, one morning, I went to grab my earrings—the ones Michael gave me for our anniversary—and they were gone.
My heart sank as I searched the jewelry box again, hoping I had overlooked them, but they weren’t there.
“Michael, have you seen my earrings?” I asked, already feeling uneasy.
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“No,” he said, his voice sharp, “but I have a pretty good idea where they are.”
“Stop it. She wouldn’t do something like that,” I said, trying to defend Megan.
“Fool me once…” he muttered, letting the unfinished sentence hang in the air.
“I’ll talk to her,” I said firmly. I headed toward the guest room, hearing Michael’s footsteps close behind me.
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I knocked softly and waited until Megan called out, “Come in.” Pushing the door open, I stepped inside. “Have you seen my earrings?” I asked.
“I don’t even know what they look like,” Megan said.
“Then you won’t mind if I check around?” I asked.
“Go ahead,” Megan said, but then added, her tone sharp, “Wait. Do you think I took them?”
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“I’m just trying to find them,” I replied, feeling a knot of guilt in my chest.
“Where else would they be?” Michael said from the doorway. “It’s not the first time you’ve stolen.”
Megan’s head snapped toward him, her eyes flashing with anger.
I carefully searched through Megan’s things, feeling both tense and guilty. When I found nothing, I let out a quiet breath of relief.
Then my eyes landed on a book with a thick bookmark sticking out. Something about it caught my attention. I opened it, and there they were—my earrings.
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“Megan…” I said, holding them up.
Her face twisted with shock. “I swear, I don’t know how they got there!” she said.
Michael stood behind me, his expression smug. “Maybe you didn’t take anything last time, either?”
Megan’s eyes burned with fury. Her hands balled into fists as she turned toward him. “Enough! I’ve kept quiet for 15 years, but I’m done. I’m telling her the truth!”
Michael’s face changed. For the first time, he looked truly afraid.
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“What are you talking about?” I asked.
“Do you know who Rose’s real father is?” Megan spat. “Michael!”
“What?” I said, my voice rising. “That’s impossible. Michael can’t have children. Why are you lying?”
“He can,” Megan said sharply. “He just didn’t want to. That’s why he got rid of me when I told him I was pregnant.”
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“Megan, stop,” I said. “Just admit you took the earrings. There’s no need for this.”
“I’m not lying!” Megan shouted. “We slept together. Once. We were drunk. When I told him I was pregnant, he wanted me to get rid of the baby. When I refused, he gave me your jewelry and told me to disappear.”
Tears filled my eyes as I turned to Michael. “Michael? Is any of this true? Do you have anything to say?” I asked.
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He stayed silent, his head bowed.
Megan’s voice broke as she continued. “He pushed me to be with Henry. He wanted me gone. I’ve suffered for all these years because of him!”
Tears streamed down my face. I couldn’t believe the man I had trusted for so many years, my husband, had done something so cruel.
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“We got married right after Megan left,” I said, my voice breaking. “How could you lie to me for so long? How could you keep this from me?”
Michael’s face twisted, and his voice shook. “And you believe her? After everything? You’re taking her word over mine?”
“I believed you for too long,” I said, anger rising in my chest. “You made me think you were infertile. You knew how much I wanted children, and you married me anyway. You lied to me about everything!”
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“He got a vasectomy right after he found out I was pregnant,” Megan added quietly, her words hitting me like another blow.
Michael opened his mouth, trying to speak, but I cut him off. “Leave,” I said, my voice firm.
“But—” he began, his tone desperate.
“Get. Out,” I said again, my voice shaking but steady.
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He stared at me for a long moment, then sighed and walked out. The slam of the front door echoed through the house.
I collapsed to the floor, sobbing uncontrollably. Megan knelt beside me and wrapped her arms around me, holding me tightly.
“I’m sorry,” I said between sobs. “I’m so sorry I wasn’t there for you as an older sister. I should have protected you.”
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“And I’m sorry for staying silent,” Megan replied softly.
I wiped my tears and looked at her. “We’ll bring Rose here. You’ll stay with me. We’ll figure it out together.”
Megan nodded, and we stayed there, holding each other. But I felt relief. The truth was finally out.
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