A vet has warned how a ‘hug’ can make a dog feel, and it’s not necessarily what you would expect
A vet has warned that it could be a bad idea to ‘hug’ your dog, as it could have the opposite effect on them to what us humans feel.
There’s nothing nicer than coming home from a long day at work to your furry friend scurrying as fast as they can to the door to greet you.
Your natural reaction is usually to bend down and give them a big cuddle, and whilst it might look like they’re loving every second – it might not be what they’re really feeling.
Dog experts are now warning owners to find different ways of showing their love.
According to a vet who spoke to Psychology Today, a hug can actually make a dog feel quite anxious and trapped – this is because a dog’s primary defence is to run away.
Psychologist Stanley Coren explained: “Yes, your dog may leap into your lap and kiss your face, cuddle against your neck, and beg you to rub her belly.
“But that’s not ‘hugging.’
“In my experience, many dogs don’t enjoy having a human move one or two arms around their shoulders and squeeze.
“That’s the hug we are talking about.”
Behaviour Vets author Lauren Novack believes dogs who do enjoy hugs are a complete ‘exception’, reports Daily Paws.
She said: “When dogs don’t like something and politely ask for space over and over again to no avail, they’re likely to escalate their communication to growling or biting.
“I don’t want dogs to be stressed, and I don’t want humans to get bitten. For most dogs, hugs are stressful.”
Stanley previously analysed 250 photos of dogs being given hugs, and he found that in 80% of the images, the dogs showed signs of looking stressed.
And he noted that this can be indicated by a dog lowers their ears, closing their eyes, or turning away from the source of anxiety.
And the psychologist has now revealed some much better alternatives.
He said: “The clear recommendation to come out of this research is to save your hugs for your two-footed family members and lovers.
“It is clearly better from the dog’s point of view if you express your fondness for your pet with a pat, a kind word, and maybe a treat.”
And the last thing we want to do is upset our furry babies, so we’re definitely going to take this advice on board!
Woman Was Upset And Told Grandmother That Her Husband Cheated On Her, Granny Had A Great Response
Grandmother responded admirably when the upset woman revealed to her that her husband had cheated on her.
It’s not uncommon for life to be challenging at times, requiring us to confront issues and confide in those we love and trust to help us feel less alone.
When a woman found out her husband was having an extramarital affair, her entire life fell apart. She went to speak with and give an explanation to her grandmother.
The elderly woman responded, “Come with me into the kitchen and observe.” There, she filled three pots to the brim with boiling water and added an egg, a carrot, and some coffee beans.
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The woman’s grandmother advised her to have patience despite her confusion. Not too long afterward, she instructed her granddaughter to remove the carrot from the water and clarify the effects of the water on the vegetable.
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In response, the granddaughter said that although it hardened the egg, it weakened the carrot’s root. The coffee beans in the third pot were the ones who altered the water.
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Then the grandma asked her to choose between the coffee beans, the carrot, and the egg to see which one she was. Sometimes facing challenges in life softens us and makes us more tolerant and adaptable. At other times, it fortifies and strengthens us.
But if we make the decision to be a coffee bean, we try our hardest to improve ourselves and alter circumstances to better fit us. We do not allow outside factors to affect us.
That day, the woman gained invaluable knowledge.
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