According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Katy Perry Left Little to the Imagination in a Unique Dress That Had People Buzzing
Katy Perry stunned onlookers as she walked the runway for Vogue World: Paris. However, her dress, comprised of geometric figures that left the singer half-naked, sparked comments online.
The “California Gurls”singer, now 39, made a stunning entrance in Place Vendôme, the iconic Parisian plaza, donning an archival Noir Kei Ninomiya dress adorned with geometric shapes and tulle floral embellishments on the skirt. This barely-there garment showcased plenty of Perry’s skin, but she exuded confidence and elegance as she walked around the plaza for the VIP guests in attendance.
Perry, who took everyone by surprise — including viewers watching the livestream hosted by Cara Delevingne — wore her dark hair slicked back, accentuating her striking features. Her makeup was a harmonious blend of rosy lip color and matching eyeshadow, and her look was completed with edgy lace-up boots.
Katy Perry’s walk was a highlight of the 1980s segment, which paid homage to martial arts. This year’s Vogue World event celebrated the intersection of fashion and sports, with each decade from the 1920s onward spotlighting a different sport. The show prominently featured both contemporary and historic French designers and fashion houses, emphasizing Paris’s pivotal role in the fashion world.
The event was a spectacular showcase with over 500 athletes, performers, surprise guests, and models participating. It seamlessly blended the vibrancy of sports with the elegance of fashion, creating a dynamic and memorable experience.
Videos of her runway walk were published on several fashion-focused social media channels. Opinions about her look flooded the comment sections. Most people complimented the dress on her, leaving comments like, “Katy Perry’s ability to pull off so many things is my favorite part,” and “It suits her perfectly.” But one detail that stood out was the apparent lack of plastic surgery on her body, which resulted in one commenter writing, “A natural woman. Love it.”
Katy Perry’s dazzling appearance at Vogue World: Paris is just one example of how fashion and entertainment continually intersect to create unforgettable moments. With her striking presence and fashion-forward choice, Perry once again proved why she remains a beloved icon in the industry.
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